| | would you be confident enoughPage 1 of 1 | | after finding the lady you want to spend the rest of your life with, to choose and purchase an engagement ring on your own, with the intention of presenting it along with the marriage proposal (just like the movies!!) | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:04:15 AM | No. I have no idea what a woman wants in rings, or anything, nothing. Nope, lets shop together. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:19:08 AM | That's just completely reckless.
I'd buy the diamond wholesale, then get the setting made. Who needs to pay jewelers' premiums at retail? | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:22:15 AM | It's not about confidence...it's about being considerate enough to know that you won't get the woman of your dreams a piece of jewelry that she will loathe to wear.
For me, I'd find out a basic idea of what she likes and doesn't like....this is letting the cat out of the bag somewhat, yes. From there, I'd try to do my best to make it a romantic surprise. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:25:39 AM |
would you be confident enough
after finding the lady you want to spend the rest of your life with, to choose and purchase an engagement ring on your own, with the intention of presenting it along with the marriage proposal (just like the movies!!) Yes, I was and I did and she accepted. Five or six years later she put it away and bought a ring she liked better under the guise of "it's more comfortable than wearing both an engagement ring and wedding band".
Be careful what you wish for. You may just get it.  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:34:39 AM | OP:
1 - My life is not like the movies. Is yours?
2- Yes, I can buy the ring, because it will not be constrained by her desires, but rather my budget. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:34:39 AM | We would have fun looking together maybe. I would want a GENERAL idea but yes I would pick out the ring
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:47:01 AM | I did, and she accepted.
We're no longer together, but she still wears it on a chain around her neck.
I didn't run any designs by her at all. We looked at some art, and from that I figured what she might like. It worked. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:09:20 PM | | OP: No. Because there'd be no way she'd accept (the proposal... I figure I could get a ring she'd like), and I don't see the reason to spend the money. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:15:50 PM | | Why not? If I know her well enough to marry her, I know her taste in stones, settings, etc. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:16:41 PM | | Definitely. In my opinion, my girlfriend would rather have a ring I picked myself even if it wasn't the one that she may have picked herself, than one that a sales person at the jewellery store picked out for her. Getting engaged is pointless if you don't intend to get married. Getting married is pointless if you don't plan on taking her "for better and for worse". If going shopping for an engagement ring is too much to ask of a guy, he'll never be able to help with child-birth, changing diapers or anything else he doesn't like. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:21:09 PM | | I buy stones below wholesale-direct from the mines-and avoid diamonds as I have no wish to perpetuate the genocidal wars going on in Africa, which are funded by diamond sales. In Europe, Rubies are the wedding stone, and in Asia, it is Sapphire, and Jade. I gave my last GF a Star Ruby for her BD, and set it in a pendant. There was nothing reckless about it. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 12:49:57 PM | | Mmmm I'm not a good judge when it comes to buying clothing and items for myself much less than someone else. So I would say I might need her to come along to do this shopping. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 1:51:38 PM | I think that is a scary idea. If you ever want to surprise a woman with a ring, make sure her best girlfriend is in on it, helps you pick out the ring.
But I think a safer, and cuter way, of surprising a woman with a proposal is to use a bubble-gum machine ring as a symbol, then go to the store and pick out one you both like (because the wedding rings will most likely be matching anyway, right?).
OOPS! Sorry posted in the guys' area, I hear some guys hate that. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 2:11:08 PM | Oh maybe I am a hopeless romantic or old fashioned but yes that is how I would do and I am sure I would get it right.
How and where I would propose would depend on our interests and history but it would be a classic proposal - out comes the ring as I propose.
Not to worry financially - all reputable jewelers will allow you to return the ring if she declines! 
During my last relationship I was already looking at websites like “Blue Nile” and “Diamond dot com” for research purposes and I’ll say this, the ones I was looking at cost more than my cars! 
I always planned to purchase the ring from the jeweler that has been replacing my wrist watch batteries for years. Watches are my only jewelry “fetish” – I don’t wear any other jewelry so I have a few of them. 
Whenever I go there I stroll by the engagement ring cases and Mark (my jeweler) always asks if I am ready to purchase one. I always tell him “maybe someday (sigh), but today just need batteries for these watches”. 
Sometimes I even buy a Montblanc pen or Cross mechanical pencil there...
Hey, I have to keep them in business “just in case”!  | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 3:29:49 PM | | I've gone through this once, so here was what I did. I shopped with my fiance for rings until I found out her general likes and dislikes in terms of bands, cut and size of diamond, etc. That makes it simple to have a ring made that is unique, she has never seen yet is what she wants. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 7:01:12 PM | I think there is a right way and a wrong way to buy an engagement ring. I plan to go about it ALL wrong. Why? Because if she still loves me after I totally screw up one of most important moments in her life, then she truly loves me and will be with me forever. If she doesn't? Well, then her heart was never mine in the first place!  I like to call this approach to dating 'Reverse Polish Flirtation'. I just can't understand why I'm still single! | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 7:28:36 PM | Def not. This is a ring she is going to wear for quite some time. I would hope to god she loves it; and guys know nothing about jewelery.
I have gone as a little joking/little serious with the girl I want to spend the rest of my life with to a few shops; and I found out the styles of rings she likes.
The last thing you want is to pick a ring the girl hates; which can be for many reasons. It is not her style; she has seen them before; bad cut; bad color; she doesn't want to marry you :S.
Be sure yo find out the style and unique shapes and cuts she likes, as well as claw work and how they are set. I want to be sure when I get my knee dirty, so it has to be the best and perfect ring that I know she will love more than anything.
Ps. Movies are...movies. Get over the fairy tale of that nonsense right now.
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:10:54 PM | | How bizarre is the idea that a woman wouldn't want whatever you gave her? If she loves you enough to marry you, she will accept whatever ring you give her. It's not about the quality of the stones, or the size or the whatever. It's about the thought and sentiment behind it. I would feel like an awful person for not accepting love behind the gift just because I didn't pick it. I would never consider turning down a gift because it wasn't the right shape. If I love him and he loves the ring, there's no question. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:39:45 PM | If someone wants to marry you, they will ask you
If someone doesn't want to marry you, they won't ask you.
Confidence has nothing to do with it. Often in life, many people try to blame some magic bullet or find some reason, any reason, to explain why they aren't getting what they want. The answer is usually very simple. | |
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