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teach them about the opposite sex?
We seriously should have classes for men and for women on how to have a healthy relationship. There are too many good people that are single and it's a shame. Some people choose to be single and are happy. But there are others that aren't happy and in my opinion, just don't get the opposite sex.
If men knew what women actually wanted from a relationship, and if women actually knew what men wanted from a relationship, there would be less lonely single people in the world.
That's just my thoughts on the subject. I'd like to know what other people think about it. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:03:15 PM | I don't think we would have so many issues in relationships if we were just honest in the beginning. I just don't understand how that can be so hard.
My vote is lessons in communicating. And honesty. What a simple concept. | |
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TPNW
| | Joined: 3/15/2008
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:06:41 PM | | Communication is key. Knwoing yourself and what you want you can tell someone what to do to make you happy and vice versa people dont talk about what they like in the long term they spend time talkinga bout sex very early and other things that are not nearly as important as how you want to be treated and what you expect. Some people are a afraid of expectations others want to fulfill them. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:07:30 PM | | I'd teach them that all women are different, want different things and feel loved in different ways. You have to know the woman to know how she wants to be treated. | |
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TPNW
| | Joined: 3/15/2008
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:10:05 PM | | I also find that alot of relationships have trust issues in them. I guess something to teach them is how to trust a man and how to earn their trust. So many people like ot live as if they are single when they are supposed to be taken. SOme claim its just their personality but perhaps its time for a change in personality. I guess the number one thing is to learn to trust someone and how to ensure they feel they can trust you. Dont flirt with women weither shes there or not and the same for the ladies. Dont run at the first sign of jealousy sure he could become a control freak and end up stabbing you 20 times in the chest or he might kick himself for years after losing you due to his jealous emotion that was felt because he actually gave a **** this time./ | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:15:57 PM | | I agree with you. Honesty and good communication is key. But some people don't communicate very well with the opposite sex. I think learning about the opposite sex first would help people to communicate better with one another. They would feel more comfortable to open up if they knew the right approach to take. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:20:29 PM | I've said it before, not everyone is the same. You can't lump all men in one boat or women for that matter. I guess the best answer would be treat each other as you would like to be treated. Communication, compromise, and love each other for who you each are, through good and bad times. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:29:58 PM | I realize that all men and all women are not the same. But if we all had a basic idea of how the other one thinks and feels about things, we'd all get along better.
For example, most men don't like to express their emotions as much as most women. And most women don't like to watch sports on t.v like most men do. Etc etc. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:31:53 PM | Sorry but like I've said and asked before: "How long have men and women been sharing this earth together?"
We know what we want from one another! Love, sex, children, companionship, loyalty, faithfulness, caring, sharing, marriage, understanding, acceptance, honesty, trust and a whole lot more sex.
If we'd just let one another be what we are there would be less confusion and dislike. Men be men and women be women. Accept what we are and STOP trying to change one another! Stop trying to make a man into your dream man and men stop trying to make a woman into your dream lady, dreams are just that dreams. No one is prefect and no one is going to live up to any ones expectations. Though I do believe that there is someone for everyone and can come close to the person of our dreams.
We know each other just fine we just need to accept what we are. | |
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x_file
| | Joined: 6/25/2006
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:34:39 PM |
If you could teach men how to treat women and women how to treat men, what would you
teach them about the opposite sex?
To men: Women aren't walking/talking vaginas. Feelings, to most women, are more important than thinking. Never underestimate a woman's feelings.
To women: Men aren't your pets or additional wallets. To most men, you being in a good mood, is more important than your looks. Never underestimate a man's desire for a peace of mind - at home or anywhere else. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:35:20 PM | | There would really be nothing to be taught actually. All you have to remember is to treat others as you would like to be treated with love, compassion, kindness and thoughtfulness. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:36:31 PM | i think that the golden rule would be a good start here.
how can we argue that treating another like we want to be treated is contrary to anything?
dave | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:52:30 PM | | Here's the thing all women should know about men, we are not like you. we don't think the same. we were made to sex, its a drive, men don't need anything more then a willing female.. women on the other hand need a lot more then that.. not trying to be funny, but thats how god made us. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 8:56:12 PM | I would teach them not to over think things. If we say something that can be taken two ways, and one way would make you upset, by definition, we mean the other way.
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Posted: 10/15/2008 9:00:36 PM | Well, obviously each guy is different, and not all guys will fall under the range of these general guidelines, but here goes:
1) Men do not encode their messages to you. If a guy says your hair looks nice, it does not mean that it was horrible the way that it was yesterday, or that he's trying to distract you from something he did wrong. Nine times out of ten, he simply means your hair looks nice.
2) Men do not decode your messages to them properly. If a guy asks what's wrong, and you say "nothing", then he will assume nothing is wrong, and go about his day.
3) Men hate drama. Nothing drives a guy away quicker than the girl who goes psycho, nit-picking over every statement, and just basically being a drama queen about everything. Save it for the Emmys.
4) Wait until the commercials to talk if the game's on. Unless the house is burning down around you, it can wait a couple minutes.
5) Do not ask a guy if something makes you look fat. It means you're either fishing for compliments, or looking to start drama. Men have trained themselves to run away when this question comes up. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:07:57 PM | Oh, this is an easy one. - "Shut up and patiently listen."
That goes for both sexes. Some people seem to think it's as easy as just communicating, but it's more complicated than that. You have to consider that so many people, regardless of gender, have filters that they've come to use, processing information into pieces from their points of reference and what their goals are in the conversation and relationships.
I've thought for a long time too that there should be classes for healthy relationships, but there should also be classes on critical thinking and learning how not to let one's previous experiences bias their interpretations of new info.
People seem to be in such a hurry to just figure the other one out and size them up, make assumptions and predictions. It's endless. Whether, it's trying to figure out what a new partner "really wants" or going on forums and asking people how to attract this or that _whole_ gender or race, etc.
The golden rule is flawed too. It is a nice guiding principle to treat people as you would like to be treated. Even better to treat others well not out of expectations of how you wish to be treated, but on how you simply believe people should treat each other.
But, if it were simply that simple, there would be a lot less conflict. People have to understand that the other has different preferences and expectations than their own and not to just expect for the other to be satisfied receiving the same treatment that he/she prefers/can accomodate. Of course, they'll only know that if they shut up, and ask and listen to their partner without judgement or thinking it's illogical because they don't like it that way. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:13:08 PM | (W0)men aren't very mysterious unless they're trying to be or they're trying hard - without success - to be happy. We're all pretty simple creatures. We all like a sense of security and we all like to feel good and we all like to make most of our own decisions for ourselves and we all prefer not to be challenged too much or criticized too much. Physical contact feels good if we trust the person touching us and feels bad if we don't.
In short... treat each other well. Treat each other as if you honestly care about how they feel. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:16:42 PM | Maybe its too late for us because so many of us are set in our ways, or permanently altered from our past failed relationships; but we could start by being honest with our children on what it will really take to make a good future relationship with their chosen future partner.
Rather than just teaching sex ed in schools; us as parents, our churches, & the community should be thinking of ways to get both sexes to interact with each in a more realistic, respectful & positive manner.
An example that comes to mind would be teaching dancing to our children in our schools or community centers.
Along with the sex ed for our children, there could also be extensive classes offered on how to better understand the opposite sex & how to have better relationships each other.
Maybe its an unatainable goal to really & truely get the sexes to better understand, & respect each other, but the whole world would be a much better place if we could reach this goal. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 9:27:18 PM | A man's greatest desire from the woman he loves is to be seen thru her eyes as admirable... so guys act in an admirable manner and yea shall receive the feelings that you desire from your true love... Woman's greatest desire is to feel desired from the man she loves to see that in his eyes...
security and trust and safety and peacefulness in being should be inside of who you are .. because they are needed to love you first and if you cannot do this for you , you cannot love... | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 9:47:10 PM | | Very helpful comments from TDHofstetter and dynomiteman4u. Spoken w/ compassion from wisdom and not through stereotypes of cliches found in rules/pop-psych personality books. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 10:40:55 PM |
Here's the thing all women should know about men, we are not like you. we don't think the same. we were made to sex, its a drive, men don't need anything more then a willing female.. women on the other hand need a lot more then that.. not trying to be funny, but thats how god made us.
In no way do you speak for all men so please stop doing it. First of all ALL human beings want sex. Not just men. Second of all not for one second do I believe that most or all men would be happy having meaningless sexual encounters for the rest of their lives. I do not believe that most men would be happy never being loved, wanted and appreciated by a loving partner. Not for one second do I believe that all or most men just want a hole, any hole , to stick it into. You may be this way , but most men are not. All human beings want to be loved and men are humans too. | |
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| If you could teach the opposite sex
Posted: 10/15/2008 11:04:24 PM | i grew up with brothers, and lived in a rural area, mostly boys for friends...
when men and women can recognize each other as people first.... seeing past the surface... everything else maybe can fall into place more easily...
JMO | |
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Posted: 10/15/2008 11:26:06 PM | | Men and women are fundamentally Different in critically important ways much of it having to do with thousands of years of biological evolution and to remain ignorant of this is only a detriment to yourself, your romantic relationship (s?), the people around you and world peace. And people do teach classes on how to understand these differences. Or there are books. Once the understanding is in place then the love and appreciation and good times can kick in. Becuase MEN and WOMEN are beautiful. but hey not like I'm perfect or have mastered it. I'm still on POF looking for a honey. | |
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