| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 12:47:48 AM | I am really interested in this guy but he lives about 2 hrs from me. Our first date was fantastic and we had real chemistry on every level. He seemed relaxed in my company as I was in his. We talk on the phone every couple of days, just to catch up. I know that if he lived closer I would date him and see where it went. I have every second week/weekend free to see someone as I have my children the rest of the time.
So this is my dilema. It's going to be really hard for us to even go on a real date but I like him so much I keep telling myself I don't mind. Then reality kicks in and I start thinking about how dumb this is and that perhaps I should just forget him and aim for someone a little closer.
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 1:16:23 AM | | I try not to tempt myself with long-distance relationships. If he's really the one for you, then distance is no object, but consider the carbon footprint of your relationship. Do you really want a four-hour round trip every time you get together? | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 2:04:25 AM | | A good friend of mine recently married his girlfriend of 7 years. She lived in Texas and he in Illinois. They met in New Orleans during Mardi Gras. Doesn't sound like a recipe for success, but they made it work. The only advice I would give you would be to talk to him about how you feel. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 2:34:31 AM | I say assess how much this means to you.
If it's worth going 2 hours to meet him once every 2 week end, well stay with him, and try to get closer if you can.
If you don't feel that deeply about him, then maybe look closer. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 3:17:21 AM | Been there and done that myself. It is hard going and in my case didn't work out in the end.
As long as the journey remains worth the effort all will be well. But at some future point the question of 'where is this going?' will come up and it will likely be that one of you will have to consider moving to be with the other.
So ask yourself the question, but don't ask him just yet. He might get the wrong signal, particularly if this is 'new'.
Try a few more dates, see if the chemistry is still there. If nothing else you are getting a couple of days away in different surroundings, which is totally different to a few days at home without the kids... enjoy it for as long as it lasts and who knows what the future has in store? | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 4:03:59 AM | | Thanks guys for your very thoughtful responses. Yes I like him very much and yes he knows how I feel as we've discussed this problem and he just says everything is good and that if it is meant to be then he will work really hard at trying to make it happen..............so I guess we will see. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 6:45:57 AM | Only 2 hours?
Heck, for those of us who spent mopst of our lives in urban areas, 2 hours of driving is considered normal.
it can work. Since your schedule precludes seeing him during the week, or for quick get togethers anyway, it really looks like it's workable. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 6:49:52 AM | | He has a 13 year old son that lives with him full time. He is happy to leave him during the daytime but not alone at night. So it will be interesting to see how that works out.................LOL. Anyway I agree with the person/s that say if it's meant to be it will happen. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:10:19 AM | If you want this guy, then get going and do what it takes to impress him. :)
And be confident....are you not worthy of a man's attention, time and energy? | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:28:38 AM | My story is that I met a guy had fabulous chemistry with.. thought things were going to go forward he indicated that.. but bottom line.. was this.. I was 45 miles away he has 3 school aged boys that need him and a demanding job.. with lots of responsiblity.
He didn't want to keep on dating me.. I was not convienent enough.. he wanted convience..
In the analysis of it all.. what he wanted and what I wanted was two different things. I wanted him..and I was willing if we became exclusive to only see him at his convience and if that meant waiting some time to see him I was willing to do that. He on the other hand wanted someone with whom he had great chemistry who was convienent. There is a big difference.
So I agree with going after what you want.. but you need to find out if it is you he wants to see or does he just want to date someone with whom he has great chemistry. If he wants you.. it can work and in my view it is worth it.. but if he just wants to date someone with whom he has chemistry then he will tire of this. | |
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| why do women like to piss you off so much
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:38:38 AM | | i have been with a girl for a month and she is peking my head already and i have told her to stop pecking my head and i told her why because my mum died on thursday the 9th october at 11:30 at night and ever since ma brother opened his mouth i get mithered to pieces and it is doing my head in how do i deal with it | |
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| why do women like to piss you off so much
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:01:08 AM | | I have done the two hour drives to see one girlfriend. It was worth it in order to go and be with her. We would often spend the entire weekend together. In hindsight, it seems like it was a lot of work just to go and see someone, but we were in love, and it didn't really matter. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:06:25 AM | | I hope you go for it...what's a few hours compared to the possibility of a wonderful relationship? Best of luck to you. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:26:27 AM | | MY friend has a long distance relationship here in Raleigh NC to New York. They keep in contact in every way possible, through email, texting, iChat, and video chats to say connected. Maybe you could do the same. | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 11:34:02 AM | Pfft! 2 hours is nuthin' hun. Try another continent, then we'll talk  Guy I'm communicating with, met via Facebook (can I use that name here?) is in Germany, I'm in Canada. But with faith and determination and maybe a bit of providence, who knows?
Another fellow I met is in Vancouver, easily a 12 hr. drive which I actually contemplated, but have since reconsidered. So for me 2 hours would be fabulous! | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 4:01:01 PM | I am currently having an online relationship with a woman in Russia. Hoping to get a 6 month assignment with my work in Afghanistan so I can visit her more often than once every 8-9 months. This may be the next X Mrs. Jeeplover, so I am willing to do anything to maintain the relationship.
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 5:31:16 PM | I'd definitely stick with it. Any relationship that can survive the distance, might just go the distance ;)
S_C | |
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| So there's this guy..........
Posted: 10/18/2008 7:47:01 PM | Thanks everyone. You guys are really great. I do like him alot and I agree that it is worth pursuing but the problem I'm struggling with is that I can't do normal things with him, like go on a date on Saturday night because he needs to be home with his son...................am I being selfish wanting that kind of normal?
According to alot of you I should just put up with it until we establish how we really feel about each other and then if it works out I guess one of us would have to move. | |
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