| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:48:36 PM | Hi
I am fairly new to this site. I am a bit confused about men who have in there profile that they do not want children. Many of these same men have young children in the age group of my children. Does it mean they don't want to produce anymore children or they don't want to date a woman with children still at home? I am very leary to contact anyone who says they don't want children because I do still have children at home.
Thanks for any info you can give me. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:51:12 PM | I always took it as a person already had kids and did not wish to produce more offspring in future relationships, but maybe im wrong,
Just ask the man in question! | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:52:49 PM | I think it means that they don't want any more children (as in make any more babies). That's what I would mean if I chose that option. Kids that already exist are fine, IMO.
But, I know that people are confused by that, so I just put "prefer not to say" in that section of my profile (my tubes are tied).  | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 9:53:40 PM | I would think it means that they dont want any more children of their own.
At least thats what I said on the profile. I have kids but I dont want to have anymore | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:03:11 PM | | I have no children in my profile.....this does not mean I hate them or something like that. It means I don't care to have any of my own. I actually don't care if a woman has children as long as she has time available. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:09:20 PM | | For myself, it just meant that I already have kids and am not planning on having more. I would assume that to be the general consensus, but that is of course only an assumption. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:15:10 PM | I always assume the "want children?" refers to if you're interested in spawning some/more. If someone doesn't want kids or is done they would use "no" so if someone is looking to have some/more kids, they know that person isn't the one for them.
People don't say "I WANT my partner to have children", it's more "I don't mind if they do". I really don't think it applies to already-created children. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:16:50 PM | That's why I chose Prefer Not To Say. I've seen people who take that question to mean all sorts of things. Just like others, if I were to put the choice Does Not Want Children it would be that I am not looking to have any more children of my own. But as the OP says, some people take that to mean they don't want someone who already has kids and for good reason as that's what some people mean.
Since there is no Ask Me option, I find the PNTS will just have to do for now. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 10:42:07 PM | What it means is that we have kids, we just don't want them all the time, or don't always want to admit that they were spawned by us, but there isn't an option for that.
I have three sons and they're very odd wingnuts sometimes. 
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/18/2008 11:58:51 PM | | You should petition the POF gods to start a new option that says "Do you want my kids?" We can turn it into a POF/eBay hybrid board. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/19/2008 5:11:35 AM | ^^^^
The powers that be get rather upset when one tries to sell their children on ebay.
Been several incidents this year already all resulting in parents losing custody of said child | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/19/2008 1:51:49 PM | | Most people who have children and check that box mean they do not want to produce anymore children. Most are not saying I don't want yours, just that they are not planning on bringing any more children into the world. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/19/2008 2:06:21 PM | Hmm,lets see..since it is his profile and he is being asked the question if he wants children and he says NO I`d say its safe to say that he doesn`t want to make anymore and is happy with what he has.If he doesn`t want to date a woman with children then he should put this in is profile.
Or you could just ask them/him ????? | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/19/2008 8:48:30 PM | | It's on my profile because I don't want any MORE kids. I love the ones I have, and am quite willing to accept the kids of a potential partner, I just don't want to have anymore of my own. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/21/2008 1:16:43 AM | Try changing your search to being a male looking for a female and see what you find.
Your find that most females state that they "Do NOT want children".
So this is also an interesting question for a single father who has custody of his son.
But women are usualy sexist and never think that a man could have custody of his children and love them.
Please let me know what it means when a woman brags about HER children in her profile but states that she "Does NOT want children".
I'll be expecting to here from you. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/21/2008 2:47:37 AM | I take that statement to simply mean they don't want to "produce" anymore children...
That being said...if they say that in their profile, but they do NOT have kids...I would be leary of contacting them....but if they do already...I think you're good!  | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/21/2008 3:51:14 AM |
The powers that be get rather upset when one tries to sell their children on ebay.
Been several incidents this year already all resulting in parents losing custody of said child
What happens if you aren't trying to sell them? What if someone was trying to pay someone to take them? | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/22/2008 7:44:44 PM | Most complex questions have always the most simplest anwers: yes or no.
Instead to assume, risking to loose an opportunity by your solely interpretation, I suggest you directly to ask for a more certain consideration over a vague or confusing info. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/23/2008 4:41:31 PM | "doesn't want children" on my profile means I have a child and do not feel like popping out any more, but will gladly accept a man with ready-made family.
Alternatively, he can convert beer belly into incubator and feel the pleasure of pregnancy and joy of childbirth himself. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/25/2008 10:00:34 AM | | I had this problem when I first signed up on here, there is not enough answers there to choose from as I had to put "does not want more children" but in my case it is because I cant have anymore thanks to my ex wife wanting me to have the snip. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/25/2008 8:50:45 PM | You have to ask them.
It means different things to people.
I do not want children, i have them, and will date someone with them but i do not want anymore of my own. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 10/27/2008 10:24:12 AM | | I agree with the majority here. When I put don't want children I just meant I don't want to make any more babies. I actually prefer if a woman does have kids, show's more about how she'll be with my son. | |
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| Men who say they don't want children
Posted: 9/2/2009 4:33:13 PM | | i can't make any more childen i love but my ex did't want any childen she talk me in to have a vasectomy i was 27yrs i been divorced for 7yrs can't fine a lady that want a man that fixed i love to fine a lady with childen and pregnant i will pay for i am a fireman and i own a log business i hop to here for a good lady anywhere ok | |
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