| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 9:41:51 PM | | So I was just curious- How many of you have had consistent dreams (interestingly interchangeable with "nightmare") about an ex? Do you think it means anything deeper than "just missing them"? We were together for almost 4 years, and since I moved out, 3 weeks ago, I have had dreams about her every single night. Man does it SUCK! | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 9:45:52 PM | | Obviously it means that you long for a strengthened relationship with your mother. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 9:47:33 PM | | Yes, I have nightmares. They really suck because I wake up in the morning upset about them. I was with my ex for about 20 years. Problem is he is usually normal in the dreams, that is why it is so disturbing. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 9:51:33 PM |
Obviously it means that you long for a strengthened relationship with your mother.
I don't know, are you sure it isn't repression of a sexual aberration? I am no Fruedian psychologist, but why let them have all the fun in speculating the reasons for dreams? | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 9:56:40 PM | Yes, I have them.. wherein the DNA I collected from his Tim Horten's coffee cup that he left here.. is misplaced by the cloneing lab which means he won't be ready for   *sighs*  | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:06:50 PM |
So I was just curious- How many of you have had consistent dreams (interestingly interchangeable with "nightmare") about an ex? Do you think it means anything deeper than "just missing them"? We were together for almost 4 years, and since I moved out, 3 weeks ago, I have had dreams about her every single night. Man does it SUCK!
OP - I'd say, that based on the level of connection between you and your ex, the dreams may or may not ever happen.
When my ex fiancé and I split up a couple years back, I hardly dreamed/nightmared about her at all to be sure...until I reached the 1 year mark and then they came at me all the time, and in floods and waves. It was awful, but part of the grieving process, or so I hoped. It happened again this year just like clockwork, and was even worse than last year. They became more vivid and stark. So much so that it kept me awake at night, or woke me and I was in cold sweats and shivering. It affected my sleep and eating as well for almost an entire month. Finally had to tell my people what was going on with me 'cause they were getting concerned.
Now I'm back to normal. No dreams. No nightmares. And I pray deeply that there won't be a 3rd lap for my mind lol.
I don't think it really means anything deeper than "missing them" though. Still, some dreams are subconscious messages to you that you have to interpret later on, so it's hard to say. Mostly it's just a loss of the familiar that plagues your mind. I wouldn't put too much effort into the how's and why's though.
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:07:17 PM | | Now that you mention it... no. In almost 4 years I haven't had a single dream with her in it. That does seem a little peculiar now that I think about it. But I agree that such dreams would probably suck. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:11:15 PM | I hadn't thought about it until now. I did have dreams, or nightmares if one chooses about me ex after I first moved here. Once I finally cut all ties with him they stopped. I don't miss him so that was not the reason for them. More like, I never, ever want any contact with him again.
It's nice to sleep peacefully at night. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:14:30 PM | I really wish I could sleep peacefully at night (and even when I take a nap)... It's not like I want to dream about her or anything.... it just happens that way. off to bed | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 10:23:08 PM | I am the same lol.... that's why I stop dating now... just want to be fair to myself and other people. I think it is ok to have that kind of dreams. It takes time to forget it.  | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 11:16:26 PM | Heck.. I'd give just about anything to dream of something as normal as my ex lately.. Sheesh with all the election crap on the news.. and then what is going on with the stocks.. sheesh that is all I dream about.. Yes.. I am telling you the truth.. I'd love to dream about my ex.. to get away from all this B.S.!!!!
Now, on a more serious note...
Yes I have dreamed about ex's before. It was most disturbing after my divorce because I'd dream he was with me and I'd wake up and see he was not there.
The most disturbing dreams of an ex came after a live in boyfriend committed suicide about six months after our break up. That was horrible.
Lately, my ex husband has been showing up in my dreams.. nothing spectacular but he is in them just like everything is normal.. I haven't seen him for like 22 years..
Too keep from dreaming about something that bothers me I usually try to read a good book.. or a story before I go to sleep and it can help if I tell myself that I am going to dream about other things besides my ex. (This worked with the election and economy last night). | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 11:16:55 PM | i've dreamt of
- seein my childhood friends who i haven't seen in over a decade
- my man cheatin on me
- me cheatin on my man
- my friend get back together with his ex - who none of us want to happen-
- my brother dying
....a bunch of stuff. i think dreams don't have meanings. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/22/2008 11:31:28 PM | Hmmmm, let me get this straight. You were with this young lady for almost 4 years and only moved out 3 weeks ago, yet you've been a member of this site since 2007. Maybe your dreams are telling you that you messed up.
As for me, I had a dream about my ex several months ago. In the dream he had decided he wanted me to take him back. I woke up in a cold sweat and shaking, scared to death that it was real. Thankfully it was just a nightmare. I think it's the worst I've ever had.  | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/23/2008 5:00:40 AM | | I don't think dreams having meaning. I had sexual dreams about guys I wouldn't touch. Dreams about my ex, ick....nightmares all the time. Dreams about so many crazy things that I think dreams are just pointless. You can't 'control' what you dream of, so I don't give much thought to them. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/23/2008 6:16:04 AM | | They say we work through things in our sleep that we don't get to or don't want to during the day. You were together for quite a while, have been apart for only a short period, I would suspect the dreams are normal and time will allow them to evaporate as long as you are really trying to move on in your waking hours. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/23/2008 8:29:37 AM | | Nothing consistent... but from time to time I've had some really BIZARRE dreams including her... | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/23/2008 8:32:43 AM | It's a phase that will pass.
For now it may be ground control to major suckage but focus on anything but her whenever she pops into your mind. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/23/2008 11:21:48 AM |
I only dream about future exes. .
Those are some of the best. Even if you never take them home from the club, you still have them in your thoughts. Lord have mercy, I have sinned. Bless you, bless you. I didn't think my rewards were supposed to come in this life. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:17:28 PM | | Sure, plenty. Although it should be noted that these are people I was in a relationship with for a while and was friends with before and after, so they were/are a big part of my life for many years. They're generally very normal, pleasant types of dreams though - no nightmares or anything freaky. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:26:47 PM | | There was only one ex I ever had dreams about. Nightmares. I would wake up drenched in sweat and gasping for air. They ended the day I got the call telling me he had blown his head off. | |
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| Dreams about exes?
Posted: 10/26/2008 2:45:09 AM | | Nope no dreams about exs time to get those feelings in check for you. | |
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