| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 1:56:40 PM | | What is the problem now a days? Why cant women just be frikin honest? I dont want to hear the crap of im meeting the wrong ones or they are just trying to be nice. Women are becoming more and more deciteful, plain and simple. Not all women are like that of course but this is getting out of hand. We are frikin adults and all Im seeing is women treating the dating scene like its frkin High School. A lot of men and women need to frkin grow the hell up and start telling the truth to who ever it is your talking to. This isnt a pity thread or any crap like that. This is flat out aggravation of getting lied to way too much. All the people who say they are looking for MR. Right or the right girl for them...Go b.s. someone else. Why dont you put what you are really on here for. This nice guys finish last crap is really starting to piss me off. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 3:20:10 PM | | And any specific examples tht it looks like HS again? What specifically they do and what do you expect them to do? Why do aasume it is a bs that they say they are looking for Mr. Right?????? | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 4:32:51 PM | sorry you feel that way. What can I say? Some women are giving us bad rep. There ARE good ones out there but they're freaking hard to find or to look for. I'm not sure not all guys are complete jerks and players like some women do.
I guess people are just too childish and immature to even grow up and face responsibility for their action.
No wonder I cant find decent men to date or have just a meaningful relationship because you guys do get burned out from all this crap. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 5:01:02 PM | | Stand in line baby doll. Men do it too. I hear you. I do not get it, I really do not. but I think people who are not secure or happy with themselves play games until they finally get busted. Some just do it more than others. Been there done that and had it done to me big time. And mine was a move out of state!! So be glad yours incidents are small lies caught before your heart and wallet were invested. I know one thing, I will never elocate for anyone again. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 6:21:46 PM | | There's a lot of deceit on both sides of the gender line. Lately, though, it does seem that there are a lot more deceit these days. I guess all I can say is remember not everyone is like that, and that you just have to weed those people out. Would you say you're deceitful and manipulative? If you answer yes, then I guess you have to accept the fact that not everyone is deceitful and manipulative...and that you are in fact meeting the wrong people. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 7:02:23 PM | | I agree with you totally. I am sick of being lied to as well. It's wearing thin. How they say "I am looking for Mr. Right...." translates into; "Hey, let's have sex and then I'll just lie to you and mess with your head." | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 8:57:13 PM | i wish it translated into "let's have sex..." usually it translates into "i wouldn't date you if i were stuck with 51 cards on a saturday night."
to be honest...i probably lied more than the women i have dated online. but i didn't use them...just lied enough to get them to date me. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 9:22:57 PM | I truly understand where you are coming from I am finding the same in men. I like men of all colors but none other than the black ones ask me out,now I find that to be a bunch of crap. I always see white women with black men but never a white man with a black woman hell whats wrong with me? I find myself to be beautiful inside and out! But I too hear the nice girls finish last crap.  | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/24/2008 9:47:24 PM | I feel your pain brother.
it works both ways though, women get lied to as well.
you must understand something though, the folks that lie are actually nothing more than cowards. they are just spineless, and they will get whats coming to them, bank on it...everytime you wrong somsone, you have to pay the piper for it and it always comes at the worst times
don't let leeches bring you down. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 1:49:53 AM | It's definitely Women and Men alike...And unfortunately lots of people hide behind the anonymity of the internet and txting etc...
I've definitely loss some faith in human decency since becoming single, lol | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 6:22:36 AM | | Were they "lies" or just "embellished truths"? My problem is I am too honest. I even put on my profile this whole internet dating thing is not for me ... if you meet at the dances or events they are more apt to be honest than talking online. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 6:30:41 AM | My advice - stop dating then.......problem solved
I see this post a ZILLION times, people lie, people are phony, on and on and on and on.....
People are people, some are dirtbags, but the MAJORITY in my opinion are good souls that are looking for someone to care about and vice versa... It is just finding the right two that can be maddening.
If you think everyone is shady and a user chances are good those are the kind you are attracting
If you keep that winning attitude up I am sure women will show up in droves, seriously, look at your post, would you want to go out with someone who sounds like that? | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 6:57:25 AM | I'm sorry to point this out to you, especially since you're so angry about your situation...but you have said:
This is flat out aggravation of getting lied to way too much.
If a great number of people have been lying to you
or lied to you
the common denominator in all those people - is YOU.
You apear to make poor choices about whom you associate with if you're surrounded by liars.
Perhaps you should consider some counseling or work on educating yourself on making better personal choices, whom to befriend, trust, establish relationships with people who have higher ethics and morals?
I don't really hear of many people who believe EVERYONE in the world is a liar.
If you're meeting one right after the other?
Maybe it's YOU? | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 10:59:50 AM | I can believe that there are more deceitful women out there than before- it seems more women aren't afraid of getting what they want and use deceit to get it.
But, I have a hard time believing you can't find a decent one. It's not as if they're a dying breed. Maybe pick more carefully? And wait till you've had hundreds of bad experiences only before you make such judgements.
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:11:57 AM | Hi Dego... I'm sorry for your obvious frustration. The problem as I see it, is the dating scene itself. If you're single, satisfied being single and everyone knows it, there's really no reason for anyone to lie. Alternatively, if you're in a happily committed relationship or happily married, there is no reason to lie. But to be single and searching is a whole new dynamic... It has people with sizable and not-so-sizable needs running over top of one another to get what they want. I am not saying that no one who is contented with singledom ever lies nor am I saying that no one in a committed relationship or married ever lies. What I am saying is that singledom breeds the "rate-a-mate" syndrome and exposes those who have no problems in changing their value systems to get what they want. And as an afterthought, if a person is willing to change their values to get what they want, then they aren't values but ideals.
With there being no solid practical reasons for anyone to get into a committed relationship any longer (if the issue of having children isn't involved), dating becomes a time of preference, want and "me first". It kinda sux that way. No one likes to be "measured" or scrutinized but like it or not, that's what it's about. Thus, you find a lot of people knowing what they're "supposed to be" and trying to be that but unable to carry it forward for any length of time.
I think the reasons people have for being on dating sites are as varied as the people themselves and you would be wrong to assume that all people that are here are interested in getting into a relationship. Some simply don't want to be lonely or want someone to fill in the few holes they have in their schedules. It's not wrong but it can hurt someone who's looking for a committed relationship.
Don't give your heart away until you know the person and know them well. That's about the best any of us can do under these somewhat trying circumstances. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:22:48 AM | blame it on the internet,
there is no body language in text, online you can be who ever you want to be.
for the most part when ppl lie they dont make eye contact, or some other kind of twicth.
how can you tell when your reading a profile?? its tweaked and tweaked again, sadly there like freaken resumes, and everybody lies on thoughs, if only to make yourself sound better that you truly are... | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 11:32:44 AM | | Take a little longer to get to know people before you become emotionally involved with them. It takes time to learn a persons true nature and character. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 7:16:37 PM |
This is flat out aggravation of getting lied to way too much. All the people who say they are looking for MR. Right or the right girl for them...Go b.s. someone else. Why dont you put what you are really on here for. This nice guys finish last crap is really starting to piss me off.
don't base the actions of a few bad apples and then judge all . I'm sure there are some women out there (some where) that don't lie. The ones that seem to be doing the lying are the ones you keep attracting so you might wanna look at that for starters. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/25/2008 9:16:33 PM | Men tell me I am too honest, too blunt and that is a problem for them. So let's all get together and form some groundrules on how we are going to communicate.
Her: Does my butt look big in these pants
Him: (Being honest) Yes honey it does (followed by the sound of a cast iron skillet being winged towards his head)
Him: (Being a liar) No sweetheart it looks as little as it did the day we met. (She gives him the eveil eye knowing that he is lying)
Either way you lose.
I just find it gives me more energy to tell the truth, that way I don't have to remember the lies. I have just learned to duck faster. Those skillets can hurt. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/26/2008 12:20:39 AM | Nice people finish last because they don't seek out other nice people.
People are attracted to confidence, but confidence and****ry are superficially similar. | |
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| Im getting sick of women lying to me....
Posted: 10/26/2008 12:21:50 AM |
We are frikin adults and all Im seeing is women treating the dating scene like its frkin High School.
I don't know man. I was varsity football in high school. We got all the **** and drank all the beer. Maybe a high school mentality isn't such a bad idea after all?
Maybe I should finally ask this girl if she will go steady with me... | |
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