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Posted: 10/27/2008 11:52:44 AM | | WHY ARE MEN SO RUDE AND DISRESPECTFUL OF BBW WOMEN?WE ARE HUMAN AND WE HAVE FEELINGS TO.DONT THINK BECAUSE BBW ARE HEAVYSET BEAUTIFUL WOMEN THAT WE ARE A EASY LAY.MOST ARE NOT.IF YOU SEND A MESSAGE, PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL AND DONT CALL US NAMES BECAUSE ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS CHAT SEX,AND CAMS.HAVE RESPECT. | |
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Posted: 10/27/2008 1:27:27 PM | Sorry, that you are having bad experiences here.
There are dating websites out there for men that like their gals to have great curves. You might want to check those out. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 4:43:20 PM | I personally think that if anyone is rude and disrespectful to any other person because they don't like the way they look, that they aren't a person of character or integrity. A person you would not want to know! And on top of that, if a guy just wants to talk sex and cams, HE IS A REAL CREEP. I got a few emails talking fun and sex right off the get go. I sent them an email that said: No thanks, you are too easy 
Then I blocked them from being able to reply to that.
However, you may not want to do this. I just like having the LAST WORD | |
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Posted: 10/31/2008 4:55:46 PM | | Wel, you know you could also message us. Some of us like curvy women, it even says so in our profiles. Just an idea. | |
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Posted: 11/28/2008 8:37:54 PM | Juicy, I'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time here on POF. The sad reality is that no matter where you go in the "real world", being bars, clubs, socials, etc or here online, and no matter what you look like, there are some guys who will only want you for sex and nothing else.
Having said that, as a BBW myself my best advice would be to just be happy in your own skin and proud of who you are. Hang in there. Ignore the ones that are jerks and enjoy the conversations with those that aren't. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 12:07:29 AM | | i have no clue what a bbw women is so i can't help you i wish you the best of luck tho | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 1:42:47 AM | | Whenever one show disrespect and is rude to another person it tell volumes of that person and not much about the one they projected it too. What I mean is if one person homes into a physical or character flaw they do so to make themselves feel more superior or emotionally secure. They will do that not only to Big Beautiful Women but others as well. Maybe if you see it for what it really is you will understand how really sad and shallow those people are.. Just a thought. I just hope you don’t accept whenever someone tries to define who you are because they don’t know the true person and just what they want to see in their own minds and hearts. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 4:10:17 AM | | Wow first of all calm down and stop screaming. Second of all the men who want to show you mr winky on web cam try this with women of all ages , shapes and sizes. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 5:58:14 AM | What really gets me out here - not only within the dating pond, but society as a whole, is how we talk out of both corners of our mouths.
What I mean by this is, on one turn we say things like "it's not the outside that counts, it's the inside". But yet, go to any magazine rack in any store and what do you see on the front cover?? Slicked up, airbrushed, sexed up, glammed up men and women! So in reality the take home message on that is if you don't look like somone on a magazine cover, you aren't anybody.
What is really, really sad is I am a former drug and alcohol counselor and yes, I have worked with those who have suffered with some severe eating disorders. I worked with a young lady in particular who weighed about 70 pounds soaking wet - literally looked like a walking skeleton and still, she thought she was way overweight. Her family and the medical community tried everything to help her, yet two years after my tenure at the intership was over, she died. It was very, very sad. Yes, she was a beautiful, intelligent, and talented young lady who had MUCH to offer society and unfortunately had anorexia and quite literally starved herself to death. I was devastated when I heard the news.
My feeling is this: Whether you are thin, a BBW or otherwise, if you are making an effort to take care of yourself, via exercise, diet, or a combo of both, I am all for you. If you are just sitting on you azz all the time on the couch drinking beer, and eating chips and dip then b*tching about how you need to do something and don't do it, then no. I have no empathy. It's okay to have a treat once in a while, but not everyday, thank you.
I'll admit, I AM a BBW and I got treated for a very, very serious but treatable health problem earlier this year and since I got treated, I changed my diet a bit - not really too much, go for a walk every morning before I go to work, and lo and behold, I lost 70 pounds since February. I am hoping to lose a bit more and know what I need to do to make that happen. While I am NOT by any means perfect, I DO make an effort to take pride in myself and am now very vigilant about my health as a result of the treatment I am receiving for what was wrong.
So to everyone out here, just because a person (man OR woman) is Big and Beautiful does not mean by any means we are easy and that we do not have anything to bring to the table when it comes to a relationship.
It's the inside that counts. Just remember that. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 7:21:40 AM | Sorry to hear that, but guess what? Some people are just plain ole rude and mean. These same people will make nasty comments about being fit, being, skinny, being tall, being short, yada yada. Why? Because they have low self esteme and finding, what they perceive, as faults in others makes them feel superior. Just about all of us get the nasty perv emails. Best advice, roll your eyes. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 8:55:57 AM | Define BBW because the average size in America is size 12. If you are referring to those males that like sticks.... good for them. Remember what you eat don't make me fat.
If you are tired of the rejection then take a look in the mirror and ask yourself .How can I make myself better??? Raise the bar on my self esteem??? Grab someone's attention??
Please do not go to those Big Girl websites . They are a waste of time and MONEY.
I know alot of males that prefer Plus size a woman that has confidence and style
BTW I noticed that there are 5 men that picked you as their favorites ...there's a start | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 9:10:42 AM | Men are looking for women that take care of themselves. Who wants a woman that will have a heart attack at 60? High blood pressure..diabetes?
I think it has a lot to do with attitude..and the willingness to have a healthier lifestyle. Yes, there are qeensize women out there who are healthy....my friend is queensize and has a heart of gold. Great personality! but she knows when to hold em' and when to fold em'
There are women on here that are knock outs and they are still treated like a piece of meat IF they allow them to be treated that way. If your a lady and respect YOURSELF...others will follow through. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 9:21:55 AM |
MUST BE RELIABLE AND CONSISTENT.MUST KNOW HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN.NO LIARS,WOMAN BEATER,UNEMPLOYED, NO PERVERTED MEN OR MEN WITH CRIMINAL HISTORYS.NO MEN WITH JEKYLL AND HYDE PERSONALITYS..im 54 LOOKING FOR A RESPECTFUL MAN TO CHAT ONLINE.NOT INTERESTED IN MEN THATS LOOKING FOR SEX.LOOKING FOR A TRUE GOOD FRIEND
Your profile is soooo negative - it screams ATTITUDE! You practically accuse all guys of being women beaters, criminals, unemployed etc. - how about what you ARE looking for? You have one line that reads looking for an online friend - so you're not seeking a relationship? C'mon ... there are jerks out there but you're scaring the nice guys away! | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 10:02:09 AM | It sounds like you have a problem with being a BBW. Especially since you named the thread not for the person you are inside but for your physical shape, right?
The other poster is correct, there are a ton of BBW lover web-sites, go there and you will be in your element. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 10:55:03 AM |
BECAUSE ALL YOU WANT TO DO IS CHAT SEX,AND CAMS
Welcome to the internet.
You're not getting these messages cuz you're fat, you're getting them because it's very easy for guys to proposition women anonymously from behind a keyboard. I know you're feeling singled-out, but every woman on this site, thick or thin, deals with the same issue. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 12:19:55 PM | | Sadly a lot of people look past personality. They just look at your picture and if you don't fit into their cookie cutter of what a perfect woman is, then you won't get the time of day. But do not be discouraged. Just be confident and be who you are. Someone will come along and love everything about you, and they won't even care about weight or height or any of that. Yes you are bound to get guys that won't reply to emails, so what, who needs them? And you will get nasty messages from people, ignore them. You are beautiful and you deserve the same respect as everyone else. | |
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Posted: 11/29/2008 6:07:22 PM | I am small (108 #) and get nasty emails too
   
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Posted: 11/30/2008 12:23:22 AM | OP, I think all women of different shapes and sizes have experienced this behavior.
I am a BBW and I have received positive and negative feedback from men. What to remember is everyone has their preferences and sometimes you may not be it. There is no need to get angry with that, just accept it and move on. The better you take rejection the more respect you will receive.
Regardless of size, men are attracted to positive attitudes (means no drama for them), and self confidence. If you love yourself then show it, not in a c.ocky way, but let people know you are proud of who you are and you will not take any negative comments. If you are not happy with yourself, it reflects in your behavior and is a total turn off to most people.
Honestly, whenever I get rude or negative comments thrown at me, I just love to laugh it off and block em. They hate that, lol. But I will not allow some stranger to ruin my abillity to love myself.
Realize you are worthy of the man you want, show self respect and have confidence in yourself. It will make all the difference.
BTW, those dating sites for BBW's are a joke. It is mainly men looking to hook up because they feel we are an easy target and will accept any man to come along. Do not lower yourself to their antics. There are many men who will come along and like you for who you are or who actually prefer curvey women. Don't settle, be strong | |
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Posted: 11/30/2008 7:58:20 AM | I was with a woman who was 220 and she made me YAHOO .  but can not find her . maybe some other guy saw her and is with her . all I can say is  BBW woman rock . take me to your den / bedroom . | |
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Posted: 11/30/2008 5:15:37 PM | | I really enjoy Big Beautiful Women. I am a Big dude myself. Little skinny women are more insecure, in my experience. I need someone to keep me warm at night!! My biggest turn on is a great sense of humor. | |
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Posted: 11/30/2008 6:23:56 PM | Well, OP....
By using a screen name like "juicy22054", to me that would make me think some guys would think "sex" right away.
As well, you put chat/e-mail in your preferences.
I dunno.....
~~weeone~~ | |
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Posted: 11/30/2008 11:13:47 PM | | There are alot of guys out there that are attracted to BBW and someday you will find him,but if you get guys that are rude to you that just shows how immature they really are. Hang in there someone will cross your path very soon. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2008 8:54:55 AM | just so you know:
Size doesn't matter....there are men and women who are disrespectful to people of all shapes and sizes etc....
one thing you must know, unlike in real life where yelling in someone's face is somewhat effective...it is not effective online....shouting into a forum does nothing to stop or control anyone's behavior....you will only get yourself more worked up..
when people know they piss you off and get you all worked up and angry, they laugh and get a kick out of it...
that my dear is the reality of internet (anything)...you can't control or change these people...they get off on this stuff..
relax and enjoy the friendships you make that are rewarding and productive...ignore the simple folk..
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Posted: 12/1/2008 12:19:29 PM | Hi!
I hear a lot of sadness in your letter, and I would like to say this....we are all beautiful and gorgeous women, we have our mysteries and secrets, we can look at ourselves in mirrors we pass by and say :"I am fabulous, and I have a secret". (Find yourself a sexy dark secret only you know!) A very young gracious very beautiful woman in Beijing told me that about 10 years ago...Yes I am A Big Woman. Beauty is in eyes of beholder... Men like all kinds of women. They are entitled to their preferences as we women are as well. Some men like very thin women, some don't. I prefer my men younger, athletic and sensual and especially artistic or musical. It`s just a preference...I don't choose...of course I am open-minded and also like to think I like "PEOPLE", I base my choices on the person's interests more so than on their looks...and let me tell you, of the 10 or so dates I've had recently, not one of the men looked like their picture!....Don't be sad just be who you are and let others be so too. If one man says no to you, another one will say yes!
Kindest Regards,
Kim | |
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Posted: 12/1/2008 12:21:57 PM | Hi!
I hear a lot of sadness in your letter, and I would like to say this....we are all beautiful and gorgeous women, we have our mysteries and secrets, we can look at ourselves in mirrors we pass by and say :"I am fabulous, and I have a secret". (Find yourself a sexy dark secret only you know!) A very young gracious very beautiful woman in Beijing told me that about 10 years ago...Yes I am A Big Woman. Beauty is in eyes of beholder... Men like all kinds of women. They are entitled to their preferences as we women are as well. Some men like very thin women, some don't. I prefer my men younger, athletic and sensual and especially artistic or musical. It`s just a preference...I don't choose...of course I am open-minded and also like to think I like "PEOPLE", I base my choices on the person's interests more so than on their looks...and let me tell you, of the 10 or so dates I've had recently, not one of the men looked like their picture!....Don't be sad just be who you are and let others be so too. If one man says no to you, another one will say yes!
Kindest Regards,
Kim
P.S. Love what Mary Freakin Poppins says...(below) those men who are into fake camera or online sex...try to get that from any and every woman! | |
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