| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/29/2008 6:31:30 PM | It's Halloween. An old superstition says: "To see the image of her future husband, a girl should stand in front of a mirror while eating an apple. She should do this while combing her hair at midnight on Halloween. The image of her future husband will be reflected over her left shoulder."
Question: If you had a magic mirror, and could use it to see your future spouse's face, would you?
What if that same person had a photo on PoF? Say you were scrolling by, when a pale hand materialized and said "Stop! This is him! I know the future and it's guaranteed!", would you want to know? Would you miss the thrill of the chase? If at first he didn't seem very appealing, but the ghostly voice said "Behold! You will spend a happy lifetime together!", would you believe it?
On the surface it's a silly question, but less so once you dive in. Many of us are looking for certainty, a sure thing, an glimpse in the mirror, with a wisp of smoke and an apple for luck.
Comments? Don't tell me I should have posted on Science & Philosophy. I'll take a chance and hope that you won't object. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/29/2008 7:25:47 PM | | Of course my response to this is that the story assumes a woman wants a husband to begin with, and that she's perpetually biding time until he shows up. What does the superstition say about women who don't want all that? Nothing I'm guessing... | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/29/2008 7:58:10 PM |
Question: If you had a magic mirror, and could use it to see your future spouse's face, would you?
No, no I wouldn't.
The mirror isn't telling me if I'm making a mistake marrying this person, whether it's worth marrying this person, or if I'm completely depressed, drunk, and suicidal in a vegas chapel.
Nor does it say if this is my first or last spouse.
Nor is it saying that the image may be completely arbitrary because it's an evil mirror giving me a random image for me to focus on so I build up hope and expectations and bring that to the first time I meet them, while passing by every person that I meet that is a much better match.
Nor does it tell me that I meet her on my death bed crying because I was waiting my entire life to meet her to get married, forsaking all others, and she marries me out of pity, 10 seconds before I die.
Plus it would scare the hell out of me if my mom popped in for a surprise visit and I saw her reflection. Even more if my dad popped in.
Many of us are looking for certainty, a sure thing, an glimpse in the mirror, with a wisp of smoke and an apple for luck.
Yes, people continue to strive for mental shortcuts and absolutes in life. It's where judgments and stereotypes come from. It also reduces personal responsibility and risk. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/29/2008 8:06:49 PM | As someone who doesn't believe in goblins and ghosts, I would surely think I've lost my mind should mirrors suddenly start talking to me!! 
But besides that, the answer is no. I have no desire to see in the future, let alone see my future husband since I don't believe in (the institution of) marriage either.
And no...it wouldn't be about missing the chase...what is it with this chase thing anyway...dang...I've never chased or allowed anyone to chase me once in my life. It's more of a catch and keep or release thing where I come from....you catch 'em or they catch you and you either keep 'em or let 'em go. No chasing required! 
JMO | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 1:05:16 AM | Lots of people stand in front of the mirror at Halloween and chant for Bloody Mary in their bathroom to see if she will come and scratch their eyeballs out. While I do not think she will come, I do not understand why someone sane would chant for some crazy lady to come and scratch their eyes out. Why chance it eh?
I would not try to do anything similar to land a husband.
If I had to choose, I'm going for Bloody Mary to come and scratch my eyes out and knock sense into me for wanting a husband in the first place.
~Carrie | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 3:55:24 AM | Very cute thread! Nope, won't be looking in that mirror on Halloween, been there done that and not looking for a husband. Am quite happy where I'm at in life and don't need marriage as I was married for 15 years and am now divorced. Also, my a$$ will be in bed on Halloween and not necessarily alone either! LOL! BOooooo!  | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 6:42:06 AM | crap ! This sound like it was targeted to women with the whole apple and mirror thing. (long sigh...) you gals get all the fun!
Ok if I agree to wear a skirt and brush my hair in front of a mirror can guys answer?
(wink)
Hell yes if I really thought it was true! Are you kidding me? This is like asking me "If you could possibly know the winning horse in the Kentucky derby in advance" would you place a bet?
Hey its not like I am having a blast here trying to find this needle in a haystack I search for. Would I like it if you could point and go there it is! And it was going to be true someday anyway right? All we are doing is erasing the time in between? That's all your saying really. I am speeding up finding the gal I will marry anyway in your scenario.
Yes I will go for it! I don't have time to waste at my age. I want that gal yesterday! (wink) NowI am surprised so many didnt want to know. He said this was fate. Your going to marry him/her sooner or later!!! Not like I am going to get to see her and go ..... Oh no, no, no no..... She weighs 450 lbs NO WAY ! LOL Its fate! Your just shortening the time to find "the one". hmmmmm on second thought if you KNEW she weighed 450 lbs that culd be usefull info to and you could try as hard as you could to wait as long as you could also ! See all the advantages here! (wink)
Cheers
Cowboy | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 11:34:20 AM | | If I'm standing around eating an apple and brushing my hair in front of a mirror at midnight, whatever man I'm with is going to come up behind me and ask "WTH are you doing?" If weird behaviour like that doesn't scare him off, I'd say he was a keeper. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 12:14:42 PM | As a teenager I used to wonder what my future husband would look like. And the man I married? NOT someone I would have predicted. True, I am SO happy to be almost divorced. But still...we did have some good years in there.
The current guy I am sorta seeing...I'm pretty hooked on him, truth be told. And I remember as clear as day when I met him in the park. I never could have predicted how I'd feel now. Oh, it's not love or anything. It's only been a couple of months, after all, and a pretyt light casual thing. But still, he is an important person in my life and when I look at him, I see *him* - his core, his being, not just his outward appearance. I see his uniqueness, his specialness, his stubborness (grrrrr).
Trying to predict who we will love or end up with is so incredibly futile. Would I like to know now? Well, in a way. But what if it IS this guy? or NOT this guy? how would I feel? I don't know... if it were a differetn guy, would I run and dump the one I'm with??? If it were him, that doesn't tell me if rocky days are ahead. Or if we'll be happy, etc.
And think of this. If you were told your future forever dude was 6 ft 4 inches with long red hair, how would you react to all of the non-6 ft 4 inch guys who don't have long red hair?
Would you still date them, knowing it won't be forever? You might miss out on some great relationships. Some real opportunities for growth or happiness...even if the person isn't mr. forever.
we really do learn and gain something from every person who enters our life, even if it's for just a brief time.
So...I think I'd be better off not knowing. I'm too afraid it would change how I'd react with men I'd meet before meeting mr forever.
if I saw mr forever, 6 ft 4, red hair, while searching on POF, I prob would have to contact him...which might lead to dating, which would lead to forever...so the very act of seeing him in the mirror is what led to our being together. now that' s just too close to paradox for me...
AND...what if natural events were for us to meet in 5 years, but I sped it up by seeing him in the mirror??? So I'd date him now, instead of after he and I both had 5 more years of growth before meeting...that could undo our future happiness...which indeed would cause a paradox, I believe.
Sorry...I get into this kind of thinking a little bit too much....
kaylie | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 12:45:38 PM | I am totaly going to try this. But what if no one shows up? FRIG--story of my life.
Yes, I would definitely want to know. Cuz then I'd go on out and get 'im. Sorry, dude, it's me and this is your fate and let's go.
Wow, yeah, Kaylie, wow--you know this isn't REAL, right? So who knows the rules? You're making up paradoxes based on fantsasy, and thinking it through. No more coffee for YOU, young lady. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 12:57:28 PM |
It's Halloween. An old superstition says: "To see the image of her future husband, a girl should stand in front of a mirror while eating an apple. She should do this while combing her hair at midnight on Halloween. The image of her future husband will be reflected over her left shoulder."
Sheit! Ive gotta run out and buy me an apple
On second thoughts...
Ima gonna buy a whole damn bag of them and other assorted fruits and vegetables to be absolutely sure, grab every fricken mirror in the house and set up the camcorder too just incase I miss that sucker !
*overkill*
Question: If you had a magic mirror, and could use it to see your future spouse's face, would you?
Yup Yup Yup
Im soooooo excited to see who he is...cant wait 
Hold up ! maybe not...
Hmm...yeah...
...what if I look in the mirror and no-one's there? 
What if that same person had a photo on PoF?
Say you were scrolling by, when a pale hand materialized and said "Stop! This is him! I know the future and it's guaranteed!", would you want to know? Would you miss the thrill of the chase? If at first he didn't seem very appealing, but the ghostly voice said "Behold! You will spend a happy lifetime together!", would you believe it?
Since I dont often hear "voices" Id be inclined to give it a shot...yep...I would
Plus Im too practical and focused...I dont see the point in wasting time chasing...
...just give him to me...and let me get into it  | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 1:11:31 PM | Cassago... LOL yeah, i do get too into analyzing stuff like this. Bizarrely gets me going.
I like trying to reason it out.
And I have read SO many books on time travel and futuristic stuff (fiction, like sci-fi or romance) that I have thought about stuff close enough to this.
Great book by Jude Deveraux called The Summerhouse.
3 women meet at 18. 40 years later they meet up for a "reunion" and go for a walk. Talk about how their lives turned out. They meet up w/a mysterious woman who gives each a choice - go back to any point in time for 2 weeks. At the end of the 2 weeks, decide if you want your former life or keep the new one.... then they are back in present time...and are able to see how their choices played out.
Really an interesting premise...
Kaylie | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 1:19:55 PM | Substitute 'husband' with lover, or simply just "The One", and you can still answer the question methinks.
Anyways, I've often sat in bed late at night and wondered to myself who i'll end up with - If it ever happens by some crazy luck.
If we get into hypotheticals though... Would you really want to know? Because, if you could see the future, doesn't that mean that by seeing it, you're condemned to the fate?
And how do you know that's your future, simply because you were given a look at whom you're to fall madly in love with and be with?
Could it be possible, the simple fact that you're wanting to see the future, will make the decision for you?
Course, if you deny the peak, and follow your own path, there's no way to validate the future-seeing, magic apple.
Personally, however, I'd love to see it. because it'll answer my question: "Is there even anyone out there for me in the first place?"
If there is no image, then I have my answer.
If there is an image, then I know she's out there at least.
It'd be more of a validation of existence, rather than a curious peak at who I'll end up with. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 2:53:00 PM | Must be why I get that weird "someone's looking at me" feeling this time of year.
:-)
Whoever it is chewing that apple and psychicly staring..
hope she's sane.
note to self: wear a clean shirt. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 3:18:57 PM | Question: If you had a magic mirror, and could use it to see your future spouse's face, would you?
No, I wouldn't OP and I'll tell you precisely why. I'm a klutz so just picture this, if you will.
I'm standing in front of my mirror at midnight chomping on that apple...the juice drops between my fingers, the apple slips out of my hand and hits one of my cats on the top of the head. Therefore, said cat jumps straight up in fear and takes off like a jetliner while tripping me into my "magic" mirror in the process. The mirror shatters into a million pieces and my "future husband" (after witnessing this fiasco in my "magic" mirror, mind you) runs for the paranormal hills swearing he'll only take his chances now with the ouiji board never even to be seen by me the first time. *sigh*
Sans | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 3:27:28 PM | Cute.....lmao.......
For me, I would be fearful that who I see in that mirror might not be who I hope to find one day, and then I am doomed for divorce yet once again...... 
OT......About the only thing we should consider during Halloween, is to make sure that those that knock on our door want to be there, and enjoy their candy..... 
Just my opinion........  | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 6:57:23 PM | My ex and I were in for her ultrasound with our second child. The doctor asked if we wanted to know. Simultaneously, she said "yes" while I said "no". I left the room while he told her.
Found the closet cache and opened a bunch of my Christmas presents when I was about 7. It was the most boring Christmas I ever had....never did that again!
So on topic, I guess my answer would be "nope".....I'll take door #4.
~ds~ | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 8:57:17 PM | crap ! This sound like it was targeted to women with the whole apple and mirror thing. (long sigh...) you gals get all the fun!
Sorry, *Cowboy*! I should have said responses were open to one and all.
Let's pretend boys can eat an apple, look in the same mirror, and see their future wife. Remember: fat, thin, short, tall. This is the woman you will maryy.
Thanks to all who responded. I got an "auto-nuke" warning, maybe 'cause I was a bit off-topic, but I've enjoyed reading everyone's replies. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/30/2008 9:02:44 PM | AND...what if natural events were for us to meet in 5 years, but I sped it up by seeing him in the mirror??? So I'd date him now, instead of after he and I both had 5 more years of growth before meeting...that could undo our future happiness...which indeed would cause a paradox, I believe.
Kaylie, that's really sweet. A kindred spiiiiiirit! | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/31/2008 5:25:06 AM | I'm a guy, should I eat a  ??
If I was to look in a mirror, I'd see my face, and supposedly, we seek someone who looks similiar to us, so....maybe there's a hint of truth to it.
but to get to the point...would I want to know what she would look like? Sure, why not? I'm a curious fellow. | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/31/2008 5:40:40 AM |
Let's pretend boys can eat an apple, look in the same mirror, and see their future wife. Remember: fat, thin, short, tall. This is the woman you will maryy.
While we're pretending let's think that they also have hair...that can be minimally combed if not brushed?
(TOTALLY kidding - I secretly, ok, no not secretly. adore bald men - once in awhile, depending of course on the guy...oh look a big hole - why it's my mouth! How about I just throw my leg over my head and stick my foot in that gaping hole???)
Lawd!
Ok midnight tonight...I have to work, but I'm bringing my hairbrush AND a bag full of apples, this should be some fun with the spooks and ghouls at work!!!! | |
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| Halloween: an apple and a looking glass
Posted: 10/31/2008 4:57:36 PM | | What if the person you see is not from this life time - but the past or the future - then you will forever be seeking that illusive person - who will never be a part of this lifetime. You may actually pass up on the partner who is ment to be in the present - waiting on that 'one in the mirror'!?! | |
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