| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/17/2008 3:53:19 AM | | How do we make friends in Ireland, it seems to be a given that everyone has their own friends and you dont really make new friends. Ive just broke up with my boyfriend after a few months just and i have no single friends, if i had it would make it so much easier to get out and meet other guys. i dont want to hang out in pubs all weekend in the hope to meet someone in fact id much rather stay at home but i dont even have the choice. I moved back to Eire after 8 years in England and im finding it so hard for this reason. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/17/2008 8:47:57 AM | Church
Canoe paddling, softball (other team sport)
Part time job in a large fun biz (restaurant etc.)
Volunteer work
Start a poker game
Group activities (hiking ?) | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/17/2008 11:39:06 AM | Church would be out of the question I imagine, it'd be only full of aul' ones in this country and you'd probably have to do stints volunteering for the the VDP and the Lion's Club to really be accepted amongst the church goers who like to socialise and Parrrrteeee together.
Mmmmmm...canoe Paddling, I would do that with someone..anyone who'd like to join me.
The part-time job is a good idea
Oh yes a walking club would be even better.
Why not create a Facebook account too !!
I appreciate where you are coming from OP, I was in a similar situation many years ago. I returned to Ireland from abroad where as most of my peers stayed abroad and they weren't around for me to hang out with...it was tough, I had to rely on family members to keep me entertained but then eventually I did get a brilliant job which was full of people my age but they all drove me mad, after the first year or so they all started pairing off..there were so many co-habiting co-workers engaged to be married it was ridiculous.
so I got pregnant and became a stay at home mommy. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/17/2008 3:30:52 PM | You'd love one of my knuckle sandwiches, very tasty, they'd knock you out.
Hey toy boy, haven't you got anything slightly more constructive to contribute to this thread..like advise on how to make friends etc. ?
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vvvv It's true, you can make many a friend by approaching strangers in a supermarket (just avoid the strange strangers, or if you must, approach with extreme caution) but I've only ever been able to befriend other women never a man except for the gay guys who work in our local Tescos, they're very chatty. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/17/2008 4:42:48 PM | Ha toy boy, class response!!
But on a more serious note I totally understand how hard it is to make new friends. I moved from Dundalk to Cashel over a year ago.
I joined a drama group (different age group all together...not to be insulting but I wasn't around for the 1916 rising so how would i know where I was the day it started), took up martial arts (a kid nearly broke my shin bone....ok I hit him first but he was looking at me funny) and I joined a book club (they didn't appreciate Nut's and Zoo magazine)
After all that, I think it's the same in nearly every town and village in Ireland, it takes a good while to earn the trust of your neighbors, work colleagues, group/club members...etc. I think the only solution is to just try anything and everything and push yourself to meet new people and introduce yourself. Do something for the community so that they can see your not just another blow in.
Eventually they will come around...money helps too!! | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/18/2008 3:38:47 AM | its virtually impossible, all i want is a few drinkiing partners, a few girls to go out on a Saturday night and have some fun, is that too much to ask for?
Im going to join a gym but thats hardly a good way to meet friends. I suppose a part time job in a pub would be a good idea but i already study at the weekend and the thoughts of having to work after college on the weekend. Ill prob meet girls the first night i work and then wont be able to go out cos ill be working!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 11/18/2008 3:09:45 PM | That's a first; I have never in all my life heard anyone in the whole of Ireland say that it is virtually impossible to find a few drinking partners. Have you looked left and right.
Do what most workers do, latch on to a coworker. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/18/2008 3:19:45 PM | | ...or pretend to be an American tourist who's not so sure what the value of a euro is and offer the whole pub a drink. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/18/2008 3:30:38 PM | ^^ 
Talking of our good American tourists...
A few months ago I was in the little tea shop down where W.B Yeats is buried, at Drumcliff; a bus load of either Americans or Canadians ( I can no longer tell by their accent) pulled up in a coach and proudly pranced in. We had to stop and watch them, it was raining cats and dogs, but here they were running around in shorts and t-shirts. Don't they know it rains non-stop over here, does no-one tell them.
They viewed the items which were for sale on the shelves, one woman lifted a tiny little teapot, and said to her husband/male friend, "Isn't that beautiful, but look at the price?" He scornfully replied, "Do they think we're dumb."
Ummmmmm....yes! | |
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Posted: 11/18/2008 3:46:30 PM | hehehe...we're not called "rip-off Ireland" for nothing. It is a bloody disgrace the way they over-charge the tourists in all honesty.
But this credit crunch thing is throwing up some rather good deals when eating out these days..practically every restaurant is doing very special specials just to keep attracting custom - I might be able to afford to take me and the children out for a slap up meal in our local gastro pub if I put away a few quid this week and next - they're showing movies too - A three course meal plus movie all for the the lowly cost of 19.99 each....I might ask for a further discount in fact because I'm paying for four people and not just one!!
But si-denada you must remember the way American tourists used to dress in the uniform of a pair of those kelly green stretchy material type trousers they loved to wear then and the white aran jumpers - I'd always be fascinated by their size of their bottoms in their 'comfy' pants as I walked behind them traversing O'Connell st. bridge and wondered if they were sweating like mad in those thick water-proof fishermen's jumpers in our mild but very damp weather.
On the subject of making friends...never trust anybody. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/18/2008 4:00:37 PM | Heck never mind Markus throwing us off here, again, the Tourist board will be demanding our scalps.
Yeah I remember those Americans/Canadians tramping around the dirt tracks in the County of Donegal wearing those big itchy looking Aran jumpers...they looked like sheep from afar, well fed sheep at that.
We're great ambassdors for enticing the Americans, and those other ones who live in their attic, the Canucks.
With this credit crunch and the construction industry in tatters, think I'll apply at the local Tourist Office see if they have a vacancy.
Cead Mile Failte - Land of a thousand welcomes! | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/19/2008 1:30:09 AM | well thanks a million everyone for your help, im glad you found my situation amusing
cheers...... | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/19/2008 11:45:48 PM |
I suppose a part time job in a pub would be a good idea but i already study at the weekend and the thoughts of having to work after college on the weekend. Ill prob meet girls the first night i work and then wont be able to go out cos ill be working!!!!!!!!!
I was a chef for 20 years and people in the biz are about as real as you get.
Just take an on call position or one day a week and in a place where you don't need to work too hard.
Maybe scout around and look to see if there are single people working that you like.
Good luck. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/24/2008 1:30:43 AM | i am a mature student so all my classmates are much older than me and we are only part time
I work with only men | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/24/2008 8:50:44 AM |
it seems to be given that everyone has their own friends and you dont really make new friends.
If everyone has their own friends, they must have made new friends. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/24/2008 2:17:57 PM | Making friends in Ireland is tough I must say. Especially when you dont drink, like me. So much of life in Ireland is surrounded by the pubs or drinking. Luckily Ive come to realise that I can count all of my friends on 2 fingers, everyone else is just an acquaintance. I would like to meet a few more friends but the chances of that happening are slim really. But the search must go on regardless  | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/27/2008 4:29:10 PM | | just persay with regards to making friends as i see it in a canadian view. For all your life you could be lucky enough to concider having 3-5 good friends and therefore with all the rest of your indevers.........they are considered aquantinances. Its like a book, you read it and learn then u have choice - throw it out, save it on a self or just keep reading it for the enjoyment. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 11/29/2008 1:56:59 PM | Join a gym or some sort of sporting club or a night course etc..Ill give u my number if u want  | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 12/3/2008 8:38:27 PM | dodoooo
basicly i wanted to say this but didnt know where
and this seemed the most fitting
ok i am from england, have been my whole life
but well i am in love with ireland :) (half irish)
been there a couple of times, and supposidly have family there somewhere?
but yeah the accents are awesome, personalitys seem awesome
the places (even though seemingly bleak from the weather)
all for some reason are joyous
basicly i am an ireland wanna-be haha
and want to move to somewhere like galway one day :D
so yeah love you, ya irish basicly :)
and if any of you wanna message me, any age/gender i will be more
than happy to reply
goh talk about serious stalker points :| | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 12/4/2008 10:43:13 AM | Mmmmmm...canoe Paddling, I would do that with someone..anyone who'd like to join me.
I would love to go canoeing with you Miss Grundy, but that ocean is just too damn big to paddle across.  | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 12/7/2008 2:24:29 PM | I've found the same thing, Have recently moved from Cork to the Uk and making new friends is not as easy as I would like. I've found even in Cork many people like their cliques anyway and can be quite dismissive of new friendships, maybe it's my bad luck which is pretty bad {second time on crutches in one year :o }
My fiance (Italian) moved to Cork and never made one friend, in Dublin a ton, mainly through work so I think really most friendships are made through work and if you work for a small business or your workmates are full of crap, its frustrating. | |
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| Making friends in Ireland
Posted: 12/8/2008 6:36:59 PM | | check out www.meetup.com look for activities/interests in your area. I was in Ireland May/June of this year and traveled the country. I will be back staying in Louth for Christmas and New Years and I am looking for things to do. I checked meetup.com and they offer a bit. Start with what interests you and go from there. They even have dating meet ups and unlike pure internet sites you actual meet people face to face ;) cool be good for a starting point. | |
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