| Would you date someone who has had an "orgy" with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:02:56 AM | | I recently started seeing a woman who admitted to having an orgy with 3-4 men the last time she visited Las Vegas. She is a very beautiful and a loving person (literally.....lol), but when she told me this I was a little taken back. She says it was a "mistake" and is "extremely embarrassed" (her own words). I think it took a lot of guts for her to tell me about this experience. I thought it would make for an interesting question: Should I allow this incident to prevent me from pursuing more of a relationship with this woman? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:09:29 AM | did she spew this information out on a first date...?
or is she bringing you into a circle of trust to tell you this?
if you don't know her well, then it would make me question what OTHER risky/spontaneous things she's done or will do in future. However if I was really into this person then I would be able to overlook it, as long as he/she did not have the intention to repeat the experience.
hope you both get tested before doing anything. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:15:00 AM | Do you think that people usually reveal the worst of themselves right away? perhaps you are being tested to see just what you will tolerate in a past behaviour.. It is not wise to let anyone's beauty distract you from understanding more than their surface..of course you want someone to challenge you..just be sure that this is the kind of challenge you will appreciate over time..and that acceptance will improve you overall
My other caution concerns those that feel the need to push the limit.. is that your type of person? For some its more important to periodically exceed the manufacturers recommendations..than it is to consistently be trustworthy in their actions..
You have to know yourself well enough to understand how you will react to a partner that has needs you might not be able to meet...by yourself. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 12:22:10 AM | Aaaaaaahhhhhhhaaaaaaaahhhhhhhaaaaaaa!
Be happy you found a lady in the street and a freak in the streets!
Seriously is this not the fantasy of EVERY man I know? Please.....get over it or move on! It was before you. Whats in your closet? Are you perfect? What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas!
Does she know you're airing her dirty laundry on the internet? I think that may be something she'll have a hard time getting past herself!  | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 1:02:25 AM | You're 26. I am assuming she is around your age. I am also assuming this happened in at most the last couple of years.
Personally, if someone shared this with me and it was a recent occurrence I would seriously question her overall judgment and decision making ability.
She says it was a mistake and is extremely embarrassed by it. And it more than likely happened somewhat recently. I would take this as "I still don't know myself very well, nor do I know how to make decisions to prevent me from making extreme decisions that are mistakes that lead to extreme embarrassment and possible regret."
I would also wonder if she really is embarrassed and sees it as a mistake, or if she wants you to believe that because she's afraid you will judge her. I can't tell from the post. I don't know her.
So IMO if you are happy with her decision making abilities, self knowledge, self respect, and they are compatible with your values then why not pursue more of a relationship.
If you can't get over it, or aren't happy with the above, then I would suggest not pursuing as it will lead to more problems later. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 2:11:08 AM | I think she is testing you. If you are okay with it then she has received your approval if it happens again. If your against it she has declared it was a mistake and by telling you it puts her in a light of honesty. Either way the coin drops her bases have been covered.
I could be totally wrong, maybe she has such a huge attraction to you that she wants to clear the air so her past doesn't come back to bite her as*
Hard to say good luck | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 2:52:03 AM | If I was getting to know a man and told him something of a persoanl sexual nature and he went and published it here, Id dump him, regardless of the concensus.
Are you really trying to get to know her, or looking for reasons not to spend time with her?
If it bothers you, thats all that matters...what a bunch of strangers think is not relavent. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 2:53:23 AM | OP-it kind of sounds like she is testing you to see where your tolerance level is. I wouldn't be surprised if, by the 5th date, she'd ask you to troll the bar with her to find others to join in.
Hey, if you would be OK with it, go for it-to each/her own I say.
However, that is nothing that I would be comfortable with, so I would be hesitant to continue dating someone who even tried the orgy thing. For me, sex is a one on one experience and is not to be shared with multiple partners.
Even though she said it was a mistake, the fact that she told you so soon, instead of keeping it to herself, should be a warning that she may be considering it again-based on how you reacted when she told you. However, you failed to tell us how YOU feel about it and what YOU said to her in response, so kind of hard to advise you. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 3:49:10 AM | lmao I've been here before
EDIT: I was a little surprised when she told me, I got the whole 'I feel so ashamed, it was a mistake' speech too but before I knew it, she was saying things like, 'how would you like to see me with two guys in bed???' while we had sex
Just dont judge her else you'll spend the relationship making her feel ashamed for her so called 'mistake'
We've all been a little wayward in our time.
If you can't let it go or you've lost respect for her, believe me, it's best to let her go.
All the best
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 3:49:55 AM | | Who really gives a crap what she did in her past?! I don't even know why she's telling you if she's so ashamed!? There are a multitude of people who get carried away - want to experiment and have some unhinged fun!! Why hold it against them in a fresh new relationship at another time - apart from that experience!?! You say she's 'beautiful and loving' - go with that - be understanding and don't judge!! She will love you for beings supportive! Go into a relationship with her - free of blame! | |
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Posted: 11/19/2008 5:25:37 AM | First thought - get tested if you have been going unprotected with her.
Second - we don't date other peoples pasts. Let it go - the more you get to know her you will find out if this is either in or out of character. Then make a decision. | |
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Posted: 11/19/2008 5:31:34 AM | I think the fact that you need to ask people here says that you're not to sure about going forward with this woman.
I also find it intriguing that men are always saying how they really want a woman that would do "anything" sexually etc. yet when faced with one they seem taken back somewhat. Just my opinion. Cheers.
Perhaps men are looking for the impossible................LOL | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 5:42:29 AM | There are an awful lot of judgmental comments here.
OP: If she's given you no reason to think she'd be unfaithful or untrustworthy, then I don't know what the issue is.. Make sure you get STD tested together--a good practice regardless--and if you enjoy spending time with her, don't let one night in her past ruin the potential for a great relationship. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 5:51:10 AM | | I can't say anything, I've been with multiple women to who am I to judge. My excapades were well in the past where STDs were not really a problem, in current society, I'd would have to be a little leary of her though. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 5:56:50 AM |
Aaaaaaahhhhhhhaaaaaaaahhhhhhhaaaaaaa! Be happy you found a lady in the street and a freak in the streets! Seriously is this not the fantasy of EVERY man I know? Please.....get over it or move on! It was before you. Whats in your closet? Are you perfect? What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas! Does she know you're airing her dirty laundry on the internet? I think that may be something she'll have a hard time getting past herself!
Yeah. My biggest fantasy is to be in a serious relationship with a woman who has had a train run on her. Yippee!  | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 6:09:41 AM | | wow alot of narrow minded people around here, whats the year again um 2008 life is all about being open minded whether it be sexually or just in general, if it was a woman posting this about a man there would be lotsa high fives and back slapping but because a woman did it all of a sudden that means shes going to do it again and be unfaithful? come on people grow up we are adults not teenages leave judgements and steriotypes at the door just because you wouldnt do something adventurous like that doesnt mean that anyone that does is a bad person. Personally I high five her for being brave enough to try it most women arent, I know ive fantasized about it but never had the guts. But seriously OP she is with you not those other men and she didnt have to tell you about it but she did so shouldnt that mean something at least you knows shes HONEST isnt that what everyone asks for? has she asked you to do the same with her? no so get over it and appreciate the fact that she is open minded but mostly HONEST cause most people arent these days, think back in your past can you HONESTLY say you have never done anything you wished you hadnt? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 6:43:04 AM | Wow, she broke the "Vegas" code. If I did that, I'd leave it where I did it...what's the point of telling you, and so soon? Hmmm...doesn't change anything.
Course, I'd call my girlfreinds and tell them, but some dude? Naahh.
Oh and yeah, almost every guy I know has either fantasized about or done the reverse....funny how it's not ok for a woman to do this tho. Interesting...
I also find it intriguing that men are always saying how they really want a woman that would do "anything" sexually etc. yet when faced with one they seem taken back somewhat.
Exactly. They all want the virgin with years of experience. Pfft. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 6:48:11 AM |
Should I allow this incident to prevent me from pursuing more of a relationship with this woman?
Only if you want it too. Don't do things based on what other people tell you. Do things based on what your heart and soul guide you to do. If you really can't get over the idea that this woman trusted you enough to tell you something she apparently regrets and is embarassed about, then do her a favor and walk away now. She deserves someone who will. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 6:56:00 AM | Has this girl never heard what happens in Vegas stay in Vegas ...well if she told you this either she is bragging or you have already been sexually active and this is why she feel the need to confess ... so if you have already hit it ..then testing is a bit late ..../ we all do stupid things and sometimes feel the need to confess ..though it is usually not advisable ... if you think it was just a sowing wild oats thing then she is as good as anyone else ... you are young ..just be glad you dont have to listen to the confessions of us that were teens in the seventies ... one girl and three guys is not an orgy ..an orgy involves double digits....one girl and three guys is a fmmm ..an orgy is where you hand gets tired from typing F's and M's
I guess the true question would be ...Have you ever done something you are ashamed of and wish you had not done... if so then you can relate ...and it matters not who's sin was worse | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 7:21:40 AM | | I would but she would have to take a shower first, and brush her hair. Going out to dinner with a woman who has just come from an orgy but has not fixed herself up would make me self-conscious. She would probably be hungry after her work-out. I would except an early evening because after eating dinner she would probably be tired and want to go home to sleep. | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 7:30:13 AM | This just sounds like you are being tested to see what you can tolerate, in other words she will most likely do something like this again and not expect you to be upset when you find out while you are dating her...So if you are dating her for a while and get very emotionally involved and she decides to have another adventure she can turn the tables on you when you get upset with her for doing said action again...Her answer will be most likely, "you already knew I was this way so why are you upset about it." And of course she will probably blame you instead of herself for her actions....I have seen this all before.. It is not fun and it is nasty..as the saying goes, when you hook up with someone, you are hooking up with everyone they have hooked up with....nasty....nasty...nasty...      | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 7:40:26 AM | | Well I would but that's because I've done alot of things in my past that I've regretted. If a woman was honest enough with me to share that I would be impressed. Plus the fact that she even tried it shows that she has a open personality and she's not shy about her sex game. Think about it as more if you did it would you want to be judged by that? Even if she did enjoy it and didn't regret it, that doesn't mean she's not capable of having a loving and faithful relationship. She was single when she experimented right? I think the question is more if you can handle it? Does it intimidate you? | |
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| Would you date someone who has had an orgy with 3+ men?
Posted: 11/19/2008 7:42:32 AM | A fourgy!
Well, at least you know that she likes sex for sex, and not for manipulation, to barter for love, or duty, or...etc.,..
People dating should be tested regularly if they have an active sex life, whether their partner has confessed to a horn-out or not; I think someone's gotta start a PR campaign to bring about changes so that "showing your bill of clean health" is hip, not an embarassing taboo thing, and should be demanded of your partner as a part of responsible sluttiness. Viva la Libido.
Viva Las Vegas
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