| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/20/2005 7:26:31 PM | | Me and my ex of 2 years broke up 6 months ago, in Jaunuary. We were good friends, still keep in contact with her. Shes now in another serious relationship, and I'm still kind of stuck in limbo. Im moving 3,500 miles away in 6 weeks, getting a little studio in portland, and the thought of leaving this part of my life behind, and never seeing her again is killing me. I know its been 6 months, but Im definatley still in love with her, with no end is sight. I feel like I let my soulmate slip away, simply becuase I met her too soon in life, when I wasnt ready for her. Anyone else been in a similar situation? | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 11:49:57 AM | I can understand.........my b/f broke up with me in the last 2 weeks....and it is difficult........HELL it is hard! My heart is crushed!! mutual agreement BUT it still hurts!I look at it like this if it is meant to be it would of happen between you and her....everything happens for a reason! She found someone new you should wish her the best and whoever she is with....overall that you can become friends after being togethe,alot people can't even do that! I think life is too short to hate someone over a breakup!
As for myself I hope in 6 months from now that me and my ex have become very good friends and I have mended my heart! | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 12:04:30 PM | | Totally understand where your coming from. Bf broke up with me in Jan although the way things were going I know it was best, I am still very much in love with him. I have met others since but cannot have feelings for any of them. I am hoping in time it will get better, it has never taken me this long to get over someone, I really thought it was meant to be but I suppose not. Good luck and just do what you know will be best in the long run. Sometimes listening to your brain is better than following your heart. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 1:10:12 PM | | Hey I was with my ex for a year and it was th most amazing thing that has ever happened to me.He came along and changed my life we were awesome together never fought were always doing something and our sex life was absolutely incredible. Until one day he came over and said tio words to me "it's done" No reason no nothing all he could say was H e didnt deserve me, I gave this guy everything our relationship was going soo great we both had space it was just awesome what went wrong I ask myself every freakin day that question I loved this ***hole with all my heart and now He cant give me the time of day when I never ever once did anything wrong. so guys help me out here what was wrong was it really me and he tried just to be nice or what.. I wish I could move away ... | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 1:35:21 PM | Allyweiser its not you at all...probably another interest (3rd party interference I call it lol) involved.
For the original post here...remember everything happens for a reason. If you really were meant to be with her (regardless of her being in another relationship at the moment) you will meet again. But don't wait on her - you have much to still learn and love in this world. Take this opportunity to do just that. I look at past relationships as learning lessons. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 3:59:26 PM | I know how you feel man, I went round to see my ex-girlfriend tonight to pick up the rest of my stuff and she'd left the lot in a bin bag outside for me. We broke up 5 months ago after nearly 2 years together, and now she insists it was all a lie on her part. I know how hard it is to let go, after everything u go through in a relationship they can just drop u like that, our break-up was supposed to be a mutual thing until she said that to me. I'm devastated | |
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Posted: 6/21/2005 4:20:51 PM | Hey,
I was with my ex. for only a month. He was so cool!! Real nice guy.
We had a lot in common!! Music was his thing!!! Every-time I listen
to music I think of him.
Our sex life was awesome!!! It's really hard to get him out of my heart
& head!!!
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 4:45:19 PM | | I know we were the same way always going to concerts and live bands and music was everything f*ck now I ball my eyes out listening to the radio. I think im a bit better now but it's hard at first I actually attempted suicide and ended up in the hospital after we broke up. I know now it was the stupidest thing but when u get in a certain state of mind its hard to come to reality. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 5:27:57 PM | | actually, Me and my b/f broke up over two weeks ago we were together for over a year..we got along so well!! Sex was awesome, HELL it was fantastic!! everything was great!! he taught me alot of things as I did teach hima few things... once I am my wounds have healed, he wants us to continue our friendship, which I do not know if I can do or not, time will tell...How do you actually get through this s***? Always thinking of him..heart and mind....is it normal to obsess over the person after a break-up? Does it actually get better after a breakup? does your heart really mend? | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 5:41:40 PM | | I don't want burst anyones bubbles or sound like I'm cold. But the best way to get over it is pretty much to ignore it and go about your life. One thing that I've come to figure out is when you sit down and think about it. have you changed? how? arn't you still the same person without them? of course you are, you're still you. And nobody can take that from you, Not even if it was a good relationship, you're still you pick your head up high and let your pride carry you along knowing you didn't do anything wrong or even if you did at least you admit it and you can go about your normal routine. always know that there is someone better for you. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2005 5:53:21 PM | | i just want to let you know its very hard moveing on when you break up with someone ,,buts its even harder to move on when you lose your husband or wife,,,i know its been 2yrs for me since i lost my husband ,i was married for 37yrs so when i lost him i lost my best friend,,but we can move on,,you dont forget you just move on,, | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 6:13:47 PM |
Totally understand where your coming from. Bf broke up with me in Jan although the way things were going I know it was best, I am still very much in love with him. I have met others since but cannot have feelings for any of them. I am hoping in time it will get better, it has never taken me this long to get over someone, I really thought it was meant to be but I suppose not. Good luck and just do what you know will be best in the long run. Sometimes listening to your brain is better than following your heart.
My boyfriend and I just broke up last weekend, and I'm crushed. I hope I can get over him in 6 months! Sorry you're still hurting, Dragn
To OP: I think that move is the best thing for you. I believe in fate, and if you're meant to be, fate will bring you two back to each other.
Best of luck to you, and everyone on POF! | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/21/2005 6:27:21 PM | | niceprmale4u, dont worry, your not bursting my bubble, thats pretty much how I've been treating it. This move is my new beggining, I'm just hoping it all works out for the better. There are times you cant help of looking back on the relationship though, and wondering what might've happened if any one of a million things had happened differently. I'm sure my prospects are gonna be a lot better there then they are here, but I cant help but feel a little sad that this chapter of my life is coming to a close. | |
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Posted: 6/21/2005 10:13:08 PM | Oh my gosh I remember being 20 and hurt it is awful, but something I have learned is the we meet people for a reason, a season or a lifetime and looking back, you can see each for what it was.
Letting go is so hard, especially when you still feel love for that person but sometimes it just is the best thing to do. You know in your head the right thing but your heart says another, there are many times in my life , as hard as it woud have been to do , I wished I had followed my head more and not my heart, it seems that in a situation like this, following the heart only leads to more pain in the end.
Take time inbetween to re-group before you start another relationship, you just need that , plain and simple.
I say cut your losses, pick yourself up dust yourself off and keep on going in the new direction that you have found and don't look back, until, when you do , what you see won't hurt you anymore.
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:30:53 AM | | Wow snowbird You put that in the most amazing way possible that's exactly what everybody needs to do. I hjave come along way since my break up and I know when people say it gets easier you wanna smack them but it will everything takes time. Just remember if that person just made you feel like that why would you want to keep going, nobody should ever be hurt like that if the person cares about them. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/22/2005 11:31:20 AM | | Do what u like to do. Keep telling your self inside everyday you dont need her getting girls for you is easy. Trust me after due time u will start to forget her. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/22/2005 7:59:04 PM | | wow, well heres a little update, my ex broke up with her bf today, guess he lied to her about something, she stopped by for awhile. *sigh* I have no idea where this is going. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/22/2005 8:31:35 PM | | hmmmm...I would be careful if I was YOU! It might end up as another broken heart...Don't want to do that twice in a lifetime with the same person...No matter how much you still LOVE her. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/22/2005 8:34:50 PM | Man, stop spreading retard all over the place.
It's a damn shame you'll probably reproduce and kick out another waste of perfectly good oxygen.
Leave these people alone, sheesh. | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/23/2005 2:50:24 AM | I agree with sunshine and others.......
I have been hurt by the same man TWICE now and he was the one that I thought would always be there for me. I don't know if anyone is worth the heartache TWICE. But, I also know how very difficult it is to move on. I am havin a hell of a time shaking him this time more so than the last.
I seriously thought it was meant to be considering that, we found each other again after several years. However, Our problem was the fact that he could not get over the past and move on. He was scared of gettin back into another relationship with me. For the simple reason, that I might break his heart again. Can anyone say COWARD! | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/23/2005 5:20:03 PM | Just be strong buddy thats all I can say. keep your head up stick your chest out and be what you are. if you take her back lay down some laws and don't go back on them, more specifically about trying to break your heart again, and don't get close to this person they do it once they could do it again. if it's one thing I've learned since my move to the US is that believing people isn't always in your best interest. no offense to anyone else just through self experience.
But then again thinking she could do it again.. I'd say let it go unless she proves herself she's worthy either that or just find someone else, and don't worry about what she has to say. good luck | |
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| Having a hard time moving on....
Posted: 6/23/2005 7:09:32 PM | Yeah.. I am. But we do live 2500 miles apart from one another and that still doesn't help much. We met online on another site, back in the fall of last year. It was not an easy thing... living that far apart from one another.. but I did fall in love with the man. We were never on the same page at the same time and therefore the relationship was not an easy one. Things came to a head when I came home from a 10 day visit back in March/05 and we broke up. But I never stopped loving him. The final severance of ties was in May/05 but again... I still love the man. The odd thing is I introduced him to POF and what would you know... he met the ONE for him.. the ONE he is moving in with now (for many reasons other than being madly in love with one another) and they are already talking marriage.
My heart is so torn in two because I am happy for them... she is a wonderful, incredible woman. But my heart is torn because I am still grieving the lost of what was. I miss my best friend. I hate that he gave our dreams to someone else. I don't know how to move past all this.. but I know that in time... he will be nothing but a speck on my rear view mirror. In the meantime, I honor my ups and downs - and have decided to even walk away from being friends at all because of the yoyo effect it has on my emotions. I am wanting and willing to move forward but still grieving the lost of what was and dreams.
Welcome to heartbreak. | |
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