| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 7:42:03 PM | I'm sure this has been asked prior to my post, however I've not been here long enough to know, and I sure as shootin' ain't gonna read no archives!
Example: for those of you who have seen the film "Monster"... remember the scene where Charlize Theron's character kills the cop, and she and he are both torn up about it because the only reason he was picking up a prostitute for sex was because his wife was in a wheelchair with severe MS and she couldn't meet his sexual needs? (Whew... long one.) The director purposely staged that scene to cause the audience to empathize/sympathize with the cop. Now, agreed and admitted that it would have been better for him to have wanked off in private, but he didn't and everyone makes mistakes... so is it EVER okay for a spouse to cheat?
What if the cheating is ONLY due to a biological need being met and not mired with emotional attachments to the third party? Does that make the adultery more or less viciously disrespectful to the marriage? | |
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 7:46:48 PM | | I dont feel that cheating is ever warranted. I would NEVER cheat! I have been through hell and back and never cheated on the man I was with. But I do believe to each is his own! Everyone feels differently about that. If I was in a wheelchair I would want my husband to cheat.....what I dont know wont hurt me!!!!!! | |
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 9:18:55 PM | I have been married for 6 years my wife enjoys sex so much it took 1.5 years to consumate the marriage we have had sex 5 more times since that day 2 kids no more sex she has no sexdrive (circumsized in her country) and firmly believes that sex is for kids only otherwise sex is for whores only. no playing hand hockey is not the same, tangoing alone gets boring. sometimes the circumstances change what the "rules" say and a person has to make a choice in what to do.
no i havent cheated (yet) old school beliefs i guess (and a cramped wrist)
no we dont get along anymore(mainly the sex issue) | |
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 10:22:48 PM | | A person only cheats when their needs are not being met within a relationship...The one who is lacking owes it to his/her partner to turn and say...`This isn`t working for me`...and let the partner have a chance to right things...Failing that....a person will do what a person will do... | |
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 10:25:30 PM | all together now..... CHEATING SUCKS.... how would u feel if u found out that the person u were dating cheated on u? I don't like cheaters and don't like being accused of cheating. I was accused of it when I found out that I was pregnant with my first baby, and come to find out he was the one cheating on me. I don't thing that it is ever RIGHT to cheat on someone no matter what they do to u, if u don't like being with them then tell them that u don't want to be with them or at least let them know that u want to see other people.... I have a friend that he and his wife both have one other person besides each other and to them it isn't cheating they call it something like having extras.... swingers no doubt... NOT ME.... I am a one man woman and I want my man to be the same way.
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 10:46:41 PM | Never is it good to cheat,even if the marriage is so bad at the point of no return.It's better to get a divorce and then be with someone else because if you cheat you're lowering your moral standards and no better than the person you're married to if they've done bad to you to warrant it.  | |
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krayon
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Joined: 5/12/2005
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 10:49:54 PM | To OP,.. You're referring to the Terry Shiver case..I take it.
Cheating is wrong. AND.. it always comes back to haunt both parties.. it may take years, but, it does. Plus, there is no excuse for cheating. If one partner is in a wheelchair and incapable of sexual relations .... let's remember that not all in wheelchairs are non sexual in capability... then, the other can meet their needs via their own self.
I've also seen cases where it was thought.. almost a medical certainty that the one incapable of sexual reactions later becomes medically capable...and when cheating has taken place, well... you get the picture.
I've counseled couples, etc. and, 9 times out of 10, even when one couple agrees to a situation as outlined here... one can't have sex, agrees for mate to... there are still emotional issues which lay seeded and show up later. | |
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/20/2005 11:56:21 PM | Tim....but if there is no sex going how would that person be putting the other person in harms way? When I said that I meant that I was incapable of having sex.
Cresia you seem like such a wonderful and extremely thoughtful person I would be flattered to have such a neat woman interested in me so message me anytime.
Cresia you said this:
If I was in a wheelchair I would want my husband to cheat.....what I dont know wont hurt me!!!!!!
First of all if you WANTED me to cheat I personally would NOT because that is not me. I actually had a girlfriend ask me to cheat in no uncertain terms. I never did it before or since and did not like the behind the back thing, it's just not for me. However, If you were interested in experimenting with me, I would be up for that but only in a safe way that really turned you on. Seeing you turned on would turn me on to you and I'm sure I would find a way to make REAL, hot, steamy, lusty, craving, mmmm, love to you, wheelchair or not, watch out because here I come. RRRRRRaaaarrrrrr I can be wheelchair accessible, for the right woman. Didn't anyone ever see the movie "Coming Home", it had one of the steamiest love making scenes ever in a movie he was in a wheelchair and he had nothing below the belt.
The truth for me is that I wouldn't want to be that shallow, to dismiss that part of someone just because of a disability.
What I do know is that what we don't know CAN hurt and even kill us these days. You can kiss your husband and get hepatitis C. Sorry about the reality check. | |
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cresia
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Joined: 3/21/2004
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| Is it EVER okay to cheat? (Thanks Terry for the inspiration for this one.)
Posted: 6/21/2005 5:21:31 PM | | Tim....you are right...however I would love to have a man that did not cheat under any certain terms...I have had 2 really bad relationships in my life I have NEVER been with a man that did not cheat. So maybe I think there is not such thing as a faithful man....Thank you for setting me straight....I have been real shallow after the break up thinking all men are just the same....That is wrong....The longer I am away from him the more I see that....you just opened my eyes a little more...Thanks again! | |
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