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|Ive noticed that women i deal with are leaning on this new wave of texting what they want to say instead of actually saying it in person or on the phone- Things I know they would NEVER say in my face are coming across thru text- some of it good some bad-lol but my question how do women feel about texting? is it 2 impersonal if a guy gets your # and texts u instead of calling?- would YOU rather text then call nowadays? is it more comfortable and easier to express yourself?-|
Posted: 12/11/2008 8:46:57 PM
|i think texting is the way to go these days. it does give more of an opportunity to be a little bit more outgoing then you might be otherwise. personally i like texting before actually talking.|
Posted: 12/11/2008 8:57:45 PM
|Texting is too impersonal for me but not all girls. There are people who are texters and people who can't stand it. I can't stand it. I tell every guy I date specifically not to text me. I'd use her as the gauge. If she texts you a lot, then reciprocate.|
Posted: 12/11/2008 8:59:34 PM
|I also like texting and emailing because it allows me to really think about what I want to say and to word things just right. Live, sometimes the other person takes the conversation in a whole other direction before you can get out everything that you need or want to say. Sometimes saying things in person can also be more intimidating, because you are watching their reactions. Putting it on paper (or electonically) gives you the chance to be more thorough.|
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:00:48 PM
|Texting, schmexting. I like keepin' it old school.|
And that's the reason I have a fleet of flying monkeys always at the ready to do the talking for me.
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:03:00 PM
|I absolutely HATE texting! It's so impersonal especially if it's with someone you're dating. I would rather hear my man's voice than reading his words. A simple text here or there is fine, but to actually use texting as a regular form of communication ..... pfffffffttttttt give me a break! No thank you! MAJOR MAJOR pet peeve of mine!|
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:05:29 PM
|I see texting as just another tool for communication. It's convenient and I can give or get information quickly without breaking the stride of my day with a phone call.|
I'm not keen on having important conversations through text and I wouldn't accept a first date via text.. but in a progressive relationship, sure.
I don't feel one way or the other about it. I do like it as a means of staying in touch with people when I don't have the time to sit and actually talk to them and I have a lot of fun flirting through text.
It's not more comfortable but it is more convenient. When I have the time and am inclined I prefer to talk and conversate but I'm a busy person with very limited time so the text option helps me to keep in contact and let someone know I'm thinking of them even if I really don't have a spare five minutes to call and say hi.
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:23:53 PM
|I guess I'm just old fashioned, I do not have a text plan on my phone and the only texts I was getting was spam so I had all incoming texts blocked also, I drive for a living so texting is definitely out of the question for me.|
Posted: 12/11/2008 9:27:01 PM
|Text is great for quick 'business' like communications - confirming meetings, times, etc, "I'm running late", dealing with time difference problems, etc etc.|
However I think it is really to the detriment of interpersonal communication in general the way it has become so pervasive in the way we now 'talk' to each other. This thread already has loads of great examples of why.
Instead of learning to communicate effectively with others (which can only come with practice) and connecting appropriately in our interpersonal communication, we take the "easy" way out using text.
Of course it feels more comfortable. It gives you total control of the situation. And that is not necessarily a good thing for your relationship with the other person at all. Nor does it do your communication skills any good.
Avoiding people's reactions, not learning to deal with possible interactions that might be intimidating or go in a different direction than you expected is not a positive thing at all, IMHO. It just makes for ineffective and unskilled communicators and poorer quality, more disconnected and often unhealthy realtionships.
Right then, off my soapbox. As you may have gathered I HATE HATE HATE the overuse of text in the current we communicate now days. And I am no technophobe, that's for sure. LOVE my mobile and all other great extended ways of keeping in touch with people. Just think that overuse of texting and email etc, is making us emotional and interpersonal cowards.
Posted: 12/11/2008 10:05:14 PM
|Texting is impersonal...it best for simple things like saying 'see you in 15 minutes' etc.|
Personally I give men my number as a test to see how obssessive/needy/crazy they are. If a guy texts me all day long and sends me angry texts when I do not constantly respond quick enough as far as he is concerned, then I call Bell and have his number blocked.
Texting is fine in moderation and only to deal with the simple things. Explain to your lady that you want things to be very clear between you and she should understand that talking in person is the most effective.
Posted: 12/11/2008 10:07:45 PM
|I think texting has become more of a convenience than anything. You can text in the middle of a class, or a meeting, you can text while sitting in a movie theater or a library. Texting has just become, "the new way" of communicating. |
The negative side of texting is that the emotion is often not properly constrewed and it causes problems. I think initially when meeting someone, texting is a way of communicating that is more personal than email, but still far enough away for shy people to hide behind the shyness. Pick up the phone, and have a real conversation. Someone can be anyone behind a text message.
Posted: 12/12/2008 1:42:09 AM
|As a general rule, I loved text messaging. It gives me the chance to talk to somebody throughout the course of the day, without having to divide my attention between whatever i'm doing and trying to listen to them talk my ear off. It's a great way to pass unimportant information, and just make small talk over the course of the day.|
However, I have one major rule in regards to text messaging.
Do not, and I repeat, DO NOT, say something to me via text that you don't feel that you could bring yourself to say to my face. I hate experiences with women where they'll say something via text, then when you talk to them personally, they act like they never said anything, because they're a different person.
Posted: 12/12/2008 2:02:49 AM
|I use texts a bit with my current partner, to arrange when to meet, but that's because he never turns his mobile or landline on as he doesn't like being disturbed. I quite like calling for a quick chat so it frustrated me sometimes, but not that much now. |
What I do like using texts for is for when I've left him, I like saying "I had a great time" and other lovey-dovey stuff, or sometimes if I'm thinking about him I'll text to say something nice, he reciprocates and I like keeping the really sweet messages and re-reading. Different people are different I reckon, it's meeting in the middle that matters as sometimes people have to pay more for texts than you may.
What I don't use text messages for is rowing, talking about issues, or dump people. I've had partners do this and it gets to me, have a phone conversation or save it for face to face as I always find you can go too far.
Posted: 12/12/2008 2:21:09 AM
|I personally love texting. It's like e-mail or instant messaging, only more convenient.|
Everyone has a life, and phone calls can sometimes get in the way. Texting is a discreet way to have a conversation even during a busy day. Texting also allows you to ask if they're busy and then maybe switch to a phone call instead.
Asking someone out on a date, breaking up, etc. are things that should be done in person or AT LEAST over the phone. Text messaging has its limits.
Posted: 12/12/2008 3:01:37 AM
|I like texting if you are in a situation that you cant talk ie: work, office meeting, movies, for a quick what r u doing kinda thing. I hate when a friend one in particular ask me a question that I cannot answer in one text and I end up calling her. I do like to text when I dont feel like talking like (the answer is no don't ask any more question) kinda thing.|
my 2 cents
Posted: 12/12/2008 3:46:22 AM
|I think texting is ridiculous. It's ok to drop a little note every now and then, but not as a form of communication. I also get annoyed when I'm out with my daughter or friend and their texting every few mintues. I think it's rude. |
I prefer to move from email, to IM, and then if I like someone still and see it going somewhere, I give them my number. I actually still have a home phone...and no texting on my cell phone because I don't want to be texted.
Posted: 12/12/2008 4:50:53 AM
|When I first start communicating with a guy I'd rather texts and emails. If we are dating, I'd rather face to face or voice. I still like texts when this isn't possible for some reason.|
Posted: 12/12/2008 5:34:26 AM
|Grab some paper, and list a description of the women who texted you...and who didn't.|
compare the list. See any differences running down the list of ladies? any differences in common?
Posted: 12/12/2008 6:00:45 AM
|Each to their own, but I personally find texting to be irritating. If someone has my phone number, I'd much rather they call and talk to me.|
Posted: 12/12/2008 6:54:54 AM
|Texting is impersonal, childish and annoying.|
Posted: 12/12/2008 7:46:56 AM
|I'm pretty new to the text thing, but I'm learning that it's sometimes the best way to initiate conversation--I still prefer phone or in-person though.|