| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:22:10 AM | Never done this before, but, hey - what the heck, could be interesting to know what others think.
I know from life experience that often times people can be putting out a particular msg or attitude unintentionally and not even know. I dont think that I am doing, that, but for all I know I could be (and not know).
so would be interesting to see what ppl think of my profile, whether its putting me across the way I intended it to....
Thanks for taking the time - anyone who replies | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:29:14 AM | The pictures aren't great..they are grainy and the third one is more flattering than the first because you are looking into the camera but you also look pretty angry in it. Try to get a smiling pic.
You should add some things to your interests section. These are just key words, not descriptions.. and people can find you if you have matching interests, so it will get you more views.
As for the "about me" section...way too long. WAY too long. People don't want to read that much, but not only that... it's very repetitive. I could not count how many times you mentioned that you want to be "friends first" but it was more than 3 times. Try doing this...make an essential list of what you want to include on your profile and then go from point to point filling out the list. When it's done then its done. The basics only really include:
1) describing your personality
2) saying what you like to do for fun/hobbies
3) describing what type of person and/or relationship you are looking for on here
good luck | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:35:53 AM | | Agree 100% .... way way to long. If you have to scroll down - it's to long. Stick with the 3 basic paragraph mentioned above. But limit it. | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/13/2008 4:40:33 AM | thanks for that guys
will work on that and revise the profile - i do tend to ramble lol
cant help the grainy pix though, as my decent camera died
though one WAS good qual when I uploaded it (taken before the ricoh went kaput), and must have been resized or something because it is crystal clear on my pc, but grainy on the profile.
better pix will unfortunately have to wait till after xmas when I get a new camera, im at the mercy of the ph one till then. | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/13/2008 12:51:16 PM | | The part about drinks to lubricate the conversation made me laugh, awesome! Add more pics when you get a chance. I like the profile | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/13/2008 1:17:25 PM | | Agree that the 3rd photo looks angry. Would remove it. Camping, camping, camping. Enough already with the camping, it's just too repetitious (the xvermonter likes camping too but....) Need to go through with the spell check, you've got some typos. About the last part, inviting someone to go CAMPING with you over Christmas. That is only 10 days away. That doesn't give you much time to get to know a man first. You are inviting a total stranger to head off to the wilds with you on a camping trip alone! I would delete that invitation, it just sounds too "anxious/desperate" and not very selective. You are on a lot of favorites lists so not sure why you feel you need a profile review (?). XV | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/14/2008 12:58:40 AM | have added pix as requested (quality is rubbish but i cant do anything about that till i get another camera) shortened profile
havent removed 'angry' pic but put more smiley ones in
re camping trip im not going to go away just me and one other person without even meeting them first
i am looking for a group of campers and meeting friends at various points along the way, dont know why everyone seems to think that I am just looking for one solitary person to disappear (and never be seen again, wolf creek style?) with | |
|
| |
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/14/2008 1:19:54 AM | | Hi cynic; love the new pics! The rest of the profile is a lot more managable now as well. One thing that you might yet consider removing is the "just got out of a relationship" bit. It just isn't something that you NEED to advertise...you can if you want to, but it would make ME think that you are not after anything serious; it would make me wonder if you were looking for rebound. I don't have anything else to suggest; good luck! | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/14/2008 2:14:31 AM | | Iread your profile,it doesn't sound too desperate ? like others think. i guess that the camping invite was very upfront and trusting of you, which could get you into trouble or attract the wrong types, but then again how does anyone know who we are talking too until we met them. then your first impressions will let you know what vibe they are sending out. Good luck with everything. | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/14/2008 7:52:48 AM | thanks for the feedback
I guess the 'just got out of a relationship' is me being upfront
not that i am not ready to meet someone
but Im not ready to rush headlong into anything and would want tyo be friends first
so I just wanted to be upfront with peopleabout that
as for the camping, Id be wanting to meet and suss out anyone before I went anywhere with them. IN a safe public place - they wouldnt be going anywhere with me till I felt comfortable they were geniune/nice ppl | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 12/14/2008 7:59:25 AM | | Duh, of course you would need to meet them first before going camping with them. So in about a week's time you're going to know enough about a man you met on the Internet to go away on a camping trip? Your profile didn't say anything about going with a group of people, and it leads the reader to believe it will be just you and him. You say in your thread title that you've "braced yourself", yet you are defensive when given advice that wasn't what you expected. In your original post, you mention you "don't know" several times and seem confused. That sums it up. I would think about this for a bit longer until you "do know" and would be a little more cautious about these things, but that's just me. | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 1/9/2009 4:45:56 AM | | Oh yes! REMOVE the "just got out of a relationship" remark. You don't have to turn everyone away before they even knock on your door! I would NEVER message someone that had that on their profile - but if we started talking and she explained herself with a heck of a lot more than just a one-liner, then she could fully explain what's going on under the surface and I could evaluate for myself. Having it on the profile means it's the #1 thing on her mind! | |
|
Spiece
|
Joined: 10/28/2008
Msg: 14 | |
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 1/18/2009 1:44:07 PM | Hey Cautious,
I think you're great. Profile is fine. Watch out for the snakes and spiders... | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 2/19/2009 6:23:32 AM | Dont listen to anyone on here, write your profile how you like it, who cares if its long or if your pics are not perfect etc. And camping is cool! | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 2/19/2009 6:31:35 AM | Personally I think your 4th pic would attract the better attention from guys looking for the right kind of woman. You look pretty, demure and confident still.
Good luck and all the best xxx
Pam xx | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 2/19/2009 6:33:06 AM | | If you dont listen to anyone on here you would ignore ALL comments including Londudes. lol | |
|
| Alright, I've braced myself
Posted: 3/25/2009 5:48:23 PM | The one thing nobody can ask someone anymore than is " just be you" that should be satisfying enough or why would they be standing there with you.
Cheers ! Look out for false prophets they come in all shapes and sizes and sometimes even offer you the world.
Be yourself but try to stay open minded.
Take care ! | |
|
Home
login 
