| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:08:28 AM | Okay, from my person experience, only a small demographic of men actually like women who portray themselves as classy, intelligent beings with a great sense of humor. They may say that these are fantastic attributes, yet I constantly see men chasing the stereotypical sexpot. I've also been dumped a couple times for someone deemed "more attractive", and or frankly dumb. I'm not trying to sound arrogant by any means, but are men intimidated by this? Or, am I just meeting the wrong (shallow) people? I'd like to hear your opinions, or stories. Thanks!  | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:28:10 AM | its fine to portray yourself as classy, intelligent and having a great sense of humour. problem occurs when blokes realise that in reality you are none of these.
classy, intelligent and a gsoh can also be perceived as snobby, up your own ar*se and strange.
scares blokes away that does, not because they are intimidated, but because they feel deceived. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:29:07 AM | | I can't speak for anybody else but I personally love an intelligent and witty woman. I have, on occasion, found myself chasing the "sexpot" but in those instances I usually become very bored and uninterested very quickly. Although, I have also found that sometimes the "sexpot" is also an intelligent, charming gal with a great sense of humor. Personally I think you've just a little bad luck, no reason to get discouraged though :) | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:29:12 AM | I love intelligent and witty women...........it's habitually sarcastic women that I can't stand........they are conversation killers.
Some people don't realize there's a time and a place and sarcasm ALL THE TIME gets annoying, aggravating and boring......
but as far as the question again?..........it's awesome to be able to dialogue back and forth with anyone about a variety of topics....I'm one of those curious people so I'm interested in everything I see or read about on a daily basis...and I need a SO to be the same..........so we can feed off each other....it really is fun! | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:36:22 AM | | Never met a woman yet that didn't think she was intelligent and witty. Never known a guy to say I didn't like her she was too smart. I believe it's just your perception of things. Would it be impossible for these women to be sexy and smart? | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 8:47:55 AM | Why do you think it's your intelligence and wit that are driving them away?
Maybe it's something else.
How brainy you are matters much less that what you do with those brains. It doesn't sound like you pay a lot of attention to your partner when you have one (otherwise you'd have more insights than you do) so perhaps you might be directing your intellect in a direction that is more destructive than supportive towards prospective relationships.
"Intimidated" is what your mum or your best friend will tell you if they are trying to make you feel better. It's more likely to be that you are overly competitive, trying to prove yourself or not perhaps very emotionally involved when it comes to relationships. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 8:58:12 AM | | Well, the only type of women i dislike are the types that just waste time with stupid cat and mouse games, the way i see it, if you have feelings for them, you tell them, not play useless games that waste time, but i like intelligent women. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 9:02:04 AM | | We guys are typically attracted to the dumb sexy type cause we percieve that this will mean she's easy. You're not meeting the wrong people, it's just you should give them a couple of years to calm their hormones, if not, try someone a little smarter. Some of us are pretty nice people who don't follow the stereotypical view that all we want is sex. Everyone's different, so try to go along with that until you find someone right for you. So long for now. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 9:14:12 AM | What is the stereotypical sexpot? I must've missed the part of the human personality construction manual that said being sexually desirable was not to be mixed with qualities of intelligence, class, and wit.
I think the reality is that a small number of men are attracted to bookish, librarian hippies that demonstrate little desire toward the application of make-up and other "stereotypical" markers of femininity.
If you're as sagacious as you would like to be seen, you would understand.
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 9:26:43 AM | Men are not "intimidated" by intelligent, classy, funny women. It's just that many men prefer more docile types to settle down with. Intelligent women tend to call men on their faults and not allow self-delusion to set in. Classy women expect their men to be classy as well, and for some men, this is hard to maintain. Funny women prefer their men to be funny, too, in the same way they are, although I don't think this is much of a problem.
In short, intelligent, classy, funny women are a lot of pressure to be around. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 10:18:38 AM | | When you say "men intimidated" what we are talking about is insecure men outclassed and outwitted by women. Men's reactions to this have pretty much generally been blame deflection. That there is nothing wrong with them, instead it's her "****y" fault. It's a number one sign of inadequacy in a man to say something like this about a woman without concrete details about what she did to piss him off. Sometimes it's general and honest dislike, sometimes it's something else. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 11:00:36 AM |
In short, intelligent, classy, funny women are a lot of pressure to be around.
Wow, glad I’m only moderately funny!
Classy women expect their men to be classy as well, and for some men, this is hard to maintain.
True. Depends on your definition of classy. For me, it is about how a person carries one self, their personal behavior, how they treat others. If they are faking it in the beginning then yes, it will be hard to maintain.
Hippiebookster: You probably are meeting some shallow people, we all do, but in reading your profile and the activities that appear to be the focus in your life it’s hard to believe they could all be shallow. Look at the guys you’ve dated, are they all kind of the same, is there a common denominator there?
A part of dating, especially at your age, is to get to know people and learn about them, discover the characteristics and traits that do and do not work for you, to learn to identify the qualities in a person that you admire and value. Gaining insights as an earlier poster wrote.
There are guys out there that will truly appreciate, admire and value your strengths and attributes. And you will be a “babe” to those guys. You might consider taking that babe disclaimer out of your profile. You’re an attractive girl, don’t diminish that.
Best of luck! | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 3:01:33 PM |
Okay, from my person experience, only a small demographic of men actually like women who portray themselves as classy, intelligent beings with a great sense of humor.
I 100% dig women who exude class and intelligence. What I don't find attractive are women who portray themselves to be classy and intelligent -- it's pretentious.
Maybe you should befriend some of these "more attractive" women. That way you'd know that differentiating them as 'dumb' is just ignorant.
Or, am I just meeting the wrong (shallow) people?
"You have different preferences than I do! Therefore, you're shallow!"
lol
Being judgmental is not an attractive characteristic to most. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 3:47:01 PM | I'll go with a combination of
Some men go for the 'easier' seeming sterotypical dumb sexpot.
and...
Intelligent women tend to call men out on their faults, allowing them no room for self delusion. They dont prop up folly, or repeat cant.
Intelligent witty women are hard work for some men.
They make them feel a bit small.
Intelligent women see through some of the mens BS and call them on it.
All in all, quite formidable to the guys who like to take the path of least resistance.
Simple as that really, OP.
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 5:28:34 PM | hey, all you men who responded in such a positive manner! I'm from probably the last generation of girls who were told not to be "too smart in school or the boys won't like you." how disempowering! (is that a word? it is now!)
the first poster who said boys are intimidated, not men, hit the nail right on the head! kudos for all you smart men who answered this with such rational, intelligent points.
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 6:20:13 PM | | its one thing to be funny and intelligent and classy.. its another to go out of your way to prove how smart you are all the time. I have never had a guy dump me because I was smarter or had a better sense of humor but then I have never talked over a persons head either.. that shows poor taste. | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:03:07 PM | ^^^ I do agree she does have her deciding factor when it comes to picking men.
It's a wonder people don't look at this from another direction.
The divorce rate in United states is 46% , Unless it has changed sense I have last checked. That's almost "half" the population. What about the other half that date, have long term relationships and other that don't want to marry? Read broken hearts long enough you will see as many if not more. Unmarried broken hearts.
Do you really think all them people PLANNED to get into fights, or PLANNED to have a heart broken. I think deep down in the back of Most of your heads we all want that one special man/woman.
If we doubled that figure it would be 92%. ( I could be totally wrong just from observation ).
Is the problem really " because we did not pick right"? | |
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| Why does it seem that men dislike intelligent and witty women?
Posted: 12/15/2008 7:16:13 PM | I have to agree with carolann...............................about the rack part! 
OP: I don't like women whom portray anything other than themselves!
So, if you're NOT classy, intelligent, and have a great sense of humor..........but only just pretend to have those attributes on the internet?? It's just not gonna workout for us sweetie!
"More attractive" than you? Would you rather the guy stay with you, even though he's more attracted to someone else?
Also, some guys like the thrill of the chase.
I'm not one of them!
So, if I come across two single women that I'm attracted to; one is being courted by lots of guys while the other isn't?
I'm picking the one that I don't have to compete over.
Call me lazy. But I think that I should be the obvious choice.........even if by default! | |
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