| Dating and Distance
Posted: 12/15/2008 9:23:01 AM | Big state we have here. When I lived in Phoenix I remember being reluctant to date cross town women due to the "distance."
Now, living up in Page the dating distance is very real. Have managed to date one local lady when she was seperated but she smoked and drank just a little too much. Have "hung out" with a local lady who's in a long distance relationship with a guy in Florida and two lady coworkers...the "just friends" deal.
But, since moving up here in 2001 I've had long distance dating relationships with a lady in Gilbert, and another lady in Tuba City who moved to Keams Canyon. Beyond that I've traveled to date a lady from Chinle, a lady from Las Vegas (we met halfway in St. George), and a lady in Flagstaff. And dated a lady from Prescott. I've also had lady friends come and visit me here in Page since its a vacation destination.
I really enjoy having visitors and showing folks the area, but mostly, in order to date extensive travel is in order.
Its all complicated with on line dating since I don't think many ladies make a decision to see what is available in a remote location like Page. If you don't have a map handy its 135 miles to the nearest city of any size, Flagstaff. Makes cross town Phoenix seem like just down the street.
So wondering how other remote Arizonans cope with distance in dating. Do you fudge and sign up as living in a big city then get truthful in your profile?
Course the good news is long distance dating can be a lot of fun when the scenic beauty and fun things to do are part of the date. | |
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Posted: 12/15/2008 1:09:05 PM | Why fudge your local? It will come out in the end and you will be seen as not quite honest, dont you think? And a lot of Arizona is rural!!!!
I have traveled to Tucson to see someone I was interested (4 hours), I have traveled to Havasu to meet someone for the first time (3 hours). Long distant relationships are a pain in the keester, but people do make the time to branch out and see whats on the other end of the pond. By the same token, I have had someone drive from Tucson to meet me and one from Quartzite.
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Posted: 12/16/2008 10:55:02 AM | Just fudging to get to where folks would look...actual location would be up front in the profile - not hidden. Have seen ladies do that. Don't know it works.
I mean how many ladies in the Phoenix area are gonna check out the listings for rural towns?
Hmmmm...ladies, if you're reading this, give it a shot... | |
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Posted: 12/16/2008 11:50:11 AM | the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence
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Posted: 12/18/2008 6:21:54 PM | I did change just my zip to a town halfway to the city, because I work there.
Don't listen to Luck, he dates so often he has no time to have empathy for the rest of us...
I live in Ajo. Dating from the city was constantly problematic. As it was, my dating career ended when a longtime long distance friend patiently waited until I gave up on dating, then presenting his argument for marriage. His first, I didn't take seriously because of his age. His second, I considered to the point of looking for work in his area because I could rent a friend's house cheap, and I said we could date and see.... I never found the work and then fell in love here- with someone else, who stayed a friend. On the rebound, I had a short relationship with a local friend, and when I was pretty much DONE with dating, I got the new, logically framed proposal. It brought tears to my unromantic eyes. He's such a sweet heart and the years have proven him to be kind and honest and considerate along with stubbornly goal oriented, LOL. I'm moving where he can get work in his profession but I can still commute for my job- and where four still good friend exes won't be able to see me without an effort! I can't call this experience a long distance "dating" exactly, but it did work! | |
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Posted: 12/18/2008 6:54:48 PM | ^^^^^actually i ment it seems like soooo many people are too busy looking over the fence (at what is usually out of their reach) -they fail to see what's right there in front of them | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 11:18:15 AM | For sure this lonely boy has sorted through every blade of female grass in this small town....and keep on paying attention to any new female blades of grass.
Real conscious of the Acres of Diamonds story too.
Yet, reality remains reality....
Hoping that just because I made the choice to live in peace and beauty that won't preclude me from finding someone to share it with.... | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 6:19:15 PM | If you believe in fate and soul mates, you've got nothing to worry about- from personal experience, I say you won't find much companionship if you don't look for it, especially if you live out of the way. However, when it comes to that elusive mutual bond of love, looking for it just finds half of it. Successful couples keep saying that they found each other when they both gave up on the generic love search and just let fate- or chance, or whatever, take over.
There are plenty of lonely people living where you would hate to live, you may as well revel in your location- I think the attitude and joy you get from being there could only make you all the more attractive, especially to a woman who shares your aesthetics. On the other side of the coin, unhappy in your location, job, etc, makes a man unattractive, so just because some men live where there are more women, doesn't necessarily better their odds of finding love.
and since Luck never peeked over my fence, he doesn't know how green my grass is... LOL | |
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Posted: 12/22/2008 6:37:30 AM | How green is your grass luck?
dead bermuda grass, (my back yard is a disaster area) however
when life gives you lemons...-you gotta smash those f#%kin lemons
then go party with your friends.  | |
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Posted: 12/28/2008 10:10:53 PM | | have indeed dated far away girls,when working long hours though and find theres only a few hours for a date,that here in Phoenix a giant place,can be spent on just the drive and not the date,so stay local now. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 10:51:37 AM | Boy, this is FRUSTRATING. POF sent me "My" matches...okay fine. Trust the system and looked them over....only because I'm so rural they defaulted to "state wide."
I found a profile in these suggested matches of a lady who's photo seemed attractive to me, is age appropriate, and danged if we didn't match on almost everything she mentioned...
BUT, she lives in Tucson....so hey, I have a kid and grans in Tucson and get down there from time to time, so wanted to message her and say hello and how amazed I was that we matched on so many things.
When I did I was blocked because she decided to limit responses to 75 miles. Her choice of course....but really frustrating not to be able to at least message her.
Guess I could go through the motions of changing my location to Tucson and "beat the system" and get a message through and let her decide.
But she already has. Just frustrating that POF can default to statewide, but that I can't.
So, the techie question is, WHY does POF call her a match for me when I live outside the 75 mile limit she imposed on responses?????
Hope this is more of a grumble than a whine. | |
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Posted: 12/30/2008 1:44:18 PM | Doesn't filter much for those matches, me I'd take the chance...
WTF it's a 50/50 shot, right?
I leave mine open due to the fact, that if a gentleman and I ever found each other in for the ultimate long haul. I do in fact have to opportunity to transfer with my job to almost any corner of the State that I want.
Nothing has come around as of yet, ehhhhh no rush right!!!
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Posted: 1/7/2009 2:09:26 PM | First off Luck,
Reason grass is greener on the other side? More bul*chit.
I cant really answer responsibly to this particular thread because of the fact that one, I am only looking for friendship at this point in time. (nearing end of my degree.. who has time) and frankly, its BECAUSE there is nothing of interst to me in my local area that I even went on POF.
Hell Luck probably spends more on a "let's meet and go out on the town" night than a good deal on airfare.
I think longer distance is fine. It gives you time to really get to know each other other than sexually  and travel broadens the mind.
Besides, my last visit to AZ I ended up meeting two fabulous ladies! Hey if a girl has peeps, who needs anything more? Seems all the men chickened out LOL
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Posted: 1/8/2009 12:34:59 AM | its human nature to wonder what life is like on the other side of the fence.
even with animals: i give my daughters kitty cats (one male one female) food water and a place in the back yard to sleep. (and where are they) -usually in one of the neighbors yards or down the street prowling around.
i think its in our nature to always be looking, even when were content with our life. -if we wern't -we would still be living with our parents -or at the minimal living in the same town as we were born in.
i'm perfectly happy to be fenced in here in north phx. -plenty of surrounding desert, shopping, entertainment in the 85032 without having to fight the squaw peak or the 202. (funny -i live two miles from Snottsdale, however i never find a valid reason to cross over that fence)
not totally against streatching out my feat (or stepping on the gas) for an adventure in Tucson, Flag, London bridge or all night blackjack in Las Vegas with margaritas at the pool for breakfast. however as a creature of habit, i default back on the local party scene with good friends, cold drinks, and hard rockin bands | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 3:32:46 PM | OK..... so not to change up the subject to much ....... But in the theme of dating and distance....... Whats does everyone think the protocol is for a distance meet?
The contactor should do the deed and drive the distance?
The Contactee should?
Meet in the middle ...... LOL (picnic at the rest stop mile marker #???)
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Posted: 1/12/2009 8:28:01 PM | ^^^^^seems like you would really need to feel a connection with someone who is at a great distance away. (the freeway is a lonely place to meet -unless its a truckstop wendys -i know your joking) so just pick a place your familiar with and see if they will meet you there for a no strings attached lunch. -if its love at first sight -then you can ask if they want to stick around for dinner
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Posted: 1/14/2009 7:02:36 AM | I myself prefer meeting in a neutral location as it is.. no "home turf" advantage.
I belong to a support group online for people with children who are disabled.
I have met people at the Liberty Bell in Philly, Baltimore Harbor, Montezuma's castle, the list goes on.
In Arizona there are so many wonderful places you can meet up that would be half way from just about anywhere in the state.
This good thing is if you have a "OH MY GAWD, what was I thinking moment" You can focus on the attraction or on the gift shop junk. Buy a tee shirt and call it a day.
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Posted: 8/5/2009 9:31:25 PM | i met a awsome girl on here who lives in az and im from so-cal, living here right now , im really into her and i think she is into me because of what she tells me and wants from me, i told her hell yeah beautiful, but idk were shes from, all i know is that she loves going to the river, i know of havasu already, but is it the only river there in az ? help a so-cal dued out, i have respect for az , a nice place instead of killercalifornia lol, but i love so-cal...... hit me up peeps...... | |
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Posted: 8/8/2009 10:06:24 PM | | lol and im talkin about that hot chick from the az, her name on here is jazelenlicious i think it is how you spell it, shes so fine and a great girl....... | |
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