| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 11:27:54 AM | I hear many times over and over in the forums that he/she shouldn't have done something until the people have met. Does meeting a person count as talking on here and getting to know one another or does it mean actually seeing them face to face? I guess I am confused about it all.............
I see people talking on here that they have "met" great friends on POF that they value and trust yet I see some of the same saying that you haven't "met" a person until it is face to face. How can you have friends you have never met face to face, yet you can't make a connection and get comfortable and get to know a potential SO unless it is face to face? I guess I was just wondering what others think of this.
Please no arguing.........this is just a question to see what people think. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 11:32:14 AM | | Meeting someone is in person no question. You can "make" a friend via messaging but until you actually meet in person you can't have met. When I say I've met some really great people here I mean I have seen them in person. Get to know someone all you want through messages but until you actually meet, you don't really know them at all. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 11:34:25 AM | To me "meet" means offline in the context of something you are trying to make more than online friendship, but it can also mean someone online that you now chat with but have no intention of dating or seeing in person for any reason...I think it's meant as the above poster meant, that you "made a friend/aquaintance" online.
I usually base it on the conversation in which it appears...and the intent behind talking online. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 11:38:43 AM | | I agree. I've "met" a few really great friends on here, but we've also met face to face. When I refer to "meeting" a good friend on here I mean that we talked for awhile and decided that we had enough in common to meet in person and we are still great friends. Now I'm not saying that you can't be friends with someone just by talking through messaging, but I think it's a bit different. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 11:42:21 AM | Thank you all.........it clears up a lot for me.
For me I say I have met a lot of great people online........I just haven't met them face to face yet? I guess you all are right it really depends on the situation in which you are talking about. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/17/2008 12:25:32 PM | | When you say you have met a lot of great people online...you are safely accurate. :) You HAVE "met" them online. But for the sake of being proper...I agree...you have been face to face off line, to constitute "meeting." LOL | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/20/2008 9:19:10 AM | I think you can "meet" people in various ways and you understand it in context. I can "meet" someone online and correspond and never "meet" them in person. Or I can "meet" someone online and later "meet" them in person. I've met some interesting people through these forums that I doubt I'll ever meet in person but my interaction with them through the written word is more valuable and interesting than some I've met in person.
One can develop some great relationships through the written word. I've had close friendships that have lasted over 40 years that rely primarily on written communication.
Writing can be a great way to get to know someone, particularly if you are a writer yourself. There are many types, many levels of friendship and knowing someone. It's the quality of the interaction that's most interesting to me. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/20/2008 5:39:23 PM | I've "met" lots of people online. I've actually physically met a few; sometimes they're exactly as I had envisioned them, a few have been entirely different in person. Sometimes meeting can ruin a great friendship.
I've known one particular lady for almost 9 years, and I think I know her pretty well- she's one of my best friends, actually. However, I think a face-to-face meeting would be a disaster, because we are from completely different worlds. She's a "Noo Yawkuh" city girl, I'm definitely a small-town country boy (she's lived in the country a bit, I've lived in the city some. Still.)
Maybe we'd get along, maybe we wouldn't clash, but although I "know" her, we've never met. I won't consider it "meeting" unless/until we do meet face-to-face.
Maybe in the spring. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/21/2008 9:24:30 AM | | I have met some people online and used a webcam to have much more in depth conversations with people (around 4 hours.) But I do not consider that meeting them. We both still talk about when we are going to meet for the first time even though we have had some long conversations. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/21/2008 3:53:59 PM | | Most people I started with emails, then some I met them a few times but the context is online and phone communication. But, personally, I don't feel I have really met someone until we have had wild monkey sex. (this isn't how it sounds) | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/21/2008 4:33:22 PM | | In the context that you describe (i.e. he/she should do anything until they meet), it means until you have met face-to-face; and interacted with and observed a potential suitor over an extended period of time, they are still a stranger. | |
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| What is it that qualifies as meeting someone?
Posted: 12/22/2008 1:34:36 PM | | Judging by recent experiences, it is when the person you send pretending to be you meets the person they sent pretending to be them, and after the initial scouting reports are reviewed you decide to emerge from your nearby hiding places and meet for real, face to face, in person, the smarter one approaching from downwind. | |
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