| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/19/2008 8:16:18 PM | So,
This is my fear, and its one of the main reasons that I haven't uploaded a picture for my profile.
Aren't you all scared those around you will stumble across your profile online and "know"??!
I think I would be in for quite a bit of embarrassing situations if word were to get out that I use this place.
What do you do to buffer over situations when others find your profile online? | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/19/2008 8:31:25 PM | Pfffft...seriously...you care that much? Ah it's not that big of a deal, and honestly, I've never had an embarrassing interaction with anyone in the work place because of it. I've definitely had people at work light up one day and go, "oh yea! I remember where I saw you" and mention it, and I just respond, "yep", and have received either compliments if they've read my profile, saying it sounds just like me, or just random questions like "have you met any freaks on there?" or usually asking if I've met anyone really cute or interesting.
Some at this point have even mentioned that maybe they'd try it, or otherwise maybe they think they wouldn't, but seriously, I assure you, I have never met anyone who's actually made fun of it, to me or to others that are on singles sites. I've even overheard total strangers bragging to each other about meeting cool people online now. I really don't think it's as socially unacceptable as you feel your single online status is right now. Really all you're doing is lowering your chances of meeting anyone because you have no picture, and then, what's the point of bothering anyways? Then you will feel uncomfortable about this if it doesn't yield the results you want, so hey, live a little, put yourself out there. It could be worse, as I'm sure you've seen by some of the bad profiles on here. Imagine being their co workers! :) | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/19/2008 8:39:06 PM |
Aren't you all scared those around you will stumble across your profile online and "know"??!
I don't know what the big deal is..Lots of people I know, see me on here. Actually, I've gotten most of them to join | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 9:12:59 PM | Why is it the only accepted place to meet somebody is at a bar? How is it less embarresing to hook up with a plastered girl who wrote her number on a half used napkin in lipstick?
But if that happened a guy would brag,why? All my friends know i am on dateing sites. Hell i used to hook me and my buddies up on double dates in washington quite often. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 9:37:59 PM | | I don't see why it would be a problem for my co-workers to know. I'm not embarrassed by myself, it's just dating :P I only work with a few people, and one of them was inspired to try it out herself. She is meeting her first person tonight! Another told me today that he wished they had something this easy around before he met his wife! | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 9:59:53 PM | OP I don't want them to read my profile either. Don't care they know I got a profile on the net but don't want to be picked on all day either. Guys on a construction site can be pretty cruel, I know I'd give them a hard time too, probably even set up a fake profile to really mess with them.
More than coworkers I am woried about family reading it. Got a couple nosy sisters, my nieces, and more cousins than I can count. I can just here my sisters now, "I can't believe you wrote that on your profile, I'm tellin Mom." Just great 33 years old and don't want mom to be mad, and everybody teasin me at X'mas.
I should delete my prof. until after the holidays. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 10:03:07 PM | | Honestly if they happened to "stumble across your profile" it means that they themselves were interested in online dating. How else would they find out? I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of either, tons of people use dating sites. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 10:28:37 PM | Nothing wrong with online dating sites, they have become the norm for meeting new people. They are an alternitive to the bar secene or anywhere else you go to meet new people. Not only that, but it's the quickest and easiest way to meet new people.
I'd tell them to come join the 21st century like everyone else.  | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/19/2008 10:53:10 PM | I've never been one to care much about what other people think.... but that's just me. My friends/co-workers/family/etc know and whether or not they agree w/ it, well.... I guess opinions are like *ssholes... everyone's got one. LOL But the way I look at it, it's MY life, not theirs.
I have run across a couple people that I know and it's not a big deal. One was a fellow I went to school with clear back in jr. high and the other a friend of the family's from way back. No biggy. | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 11:05:47 PM | My family , friends and co-worders all get a kick out of me being on here ...
They ask me how I am doing on the internet today and I tell them something like ... I realy like a guy I am talking/seeing and they all want me to find a guy cause they say I deserve one ... hummmmm That makes me wonder what they really are saying ... ... just kiddin ...
And then sometimes I will say something like ... Well another guy sent me a "Im Horny" email and I am so full such of JOY and MERTH now knowing he is horny ...  ...
Its just a dating sight and it can be fun ... Its not like you are striping on 5th Ave or somthing ...
AnglFlyn | |
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Posted: 12/19/2008 11:48:17 PM | Hey op, who cares what they think? So what you are on here, tell 'em ya I am on there, and ya I dig it, if they hassle you,give i right. I could care less if someone knows i am on here.
luck man
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/20/2008 2:43:56 AM | | Most of my single co workers are already members here and loving it. My family are also aware, which seems sensible from a safety aspect. I dont get embarrassed by it at all but I might have when I was younger. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 5:16:53 AM | | I have always siad I dont care what others think about me or think aobut someting im doing. You live your life for you not for friends, coworkers, etc. This is something I teach to my kids as well. In fact i had this talk with my 10 yr old not long ago.What you do is your business not theirs. If you run around worrying what others think about you then you will be miserable all your life becuase there is always someone who dont like something. However the things that you do will not affect their life it only affects yours. You control your life not them. I use to tell people if ;you dont like it then dont look. Its important that you make YOU happy. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 5:45:23 AM |
Aren't you all scared those around you will stumble across your profile online and "know"??!
No, and why are you? If there is some thing wrong or embarrassing of being on dateing site, why are you here?
Is a reason why I require picture with emails. A person who is embarrass of be on dateing site because it is for losers, must think the same of me. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 6:38:06 AM | Erm............NO!
I am quite open about being on here with everyone, and have even "recruited" friends and colleagues to POF.
Then again, i can't honestly say i view this as a dating site. To me this is a social site where i come to post on the forums and interact with people. I have made some excellent friends of both sexes and through the meets i have a good social life with them.
I don't think there is any stigma attached these days, we all lead such busy lives, it's just another way of meeting people and socialising. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 6:59:34 AM | Is a reason why I require picture with emails. A person who is embarrass of be on dateing site because it is for losers, must think the same of me.
Same here. If a person is too embarrassed to be seen on a legitimate dating site, they are (definitely) not the person for me.
Besides the fact (a fact for me) that they almost always have something to hide (such as a wife or girlfriend), the last thing I want or need is a person who worries (and actually cares) what his family/friends/neighbors/co-workers have to say about how he lives his life.
Gawd...where are we, in junior high? 
JMO
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Posted: 12/20/2008 8:47:01 AM | This is why you don't put anything in your profile or in the forums you wouldn't want others to know. However, how would they find out? If they find your profile, it means they were here, too, right?
There's nothing wrong with being here. Lots of people are. Don't be embarrassed about it. It's another way for you to meet people.
Besides, it's probably less awkward than running into them at a gay bar. | |
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| Friends/coworkers/etc finding out you use a dating site.
Posted: 12/20/2008 10:07:31 AM |
So,
This is my fear, and its one of the main reasons that I haven't uploaded a picture for my profile.
Aren't you all scared those around you will stumble across your profile online and "know"??!
I think I would be in for quite a bit of embarrassing situations if word were to get out that I use this place.
What do you do to buffer over situations when others find your profile online?
OP -- what is there to fear anyways? So you're on POF....................................and?
What's there to be scared of? Someone I know comes on this site and stumbles along my profile........................................and?
I also fail to see how any embarrassing situations would arise from anyone using this site...unless they're closet gay and haven't come out yet, and their profile lists them as seeking same-sex relationships. THEN I could see a case for some embarrassment. Using a site like POF or its ilk to look for relationships is just the way things are done these days. Sure you could waste your money goin' to the bar every weekend to troll, but you end up with "bar stars" and "club whores" predominantly. And you generally tend to see the same faces every week. Online, you get to interact (it's assumed) with several more people locally and otherwise that you would never catch in a bar or club. 10 people in a local bar, or 100's of people online...doesn't take a genius to figure out the odds are better here. You have a bigger pool to play in.
I've already had several people I know "find" me here. So what? They can run off and tell 20 of their friends they saw me here, and I couldn't care less. I'm not looking for anyone, but even if I were, it still wouldn't bother me in the least. Sounds to me like you're far to preoccupied with what everyone else thinks, and not enough about your own thoughts and desire to be paired off. Who cares if someone sees you on here and tells a friend who tells a friend. So what?
They have their life to lead, and so do you. Why are you so obsessed with leading their life? Worry about your own. Stop concerning yourself with what others may or may not think.
JMO. | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 11:53:10 AM | | hi... I think that they are not going to care but you seem to be uncomfortable with it... so youre single and joining a huge network of single people, sign of the times... I think that we are lucky to have access to so many interesting people from all around the world... the world just got smaller and I see that as a good thing.... blessings , warmly Mona | |
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Posted: 12/20/2008 3:06:12 PM | I for one think there may be some legitimate reasons for exhibiting apprehension
on a dating site, especially if one is a famous/affluent person where said disclosure
may cause a deluge of persons seeking contact for the wrong reasons.
Imagine the subsequent aftermath and media circus that would follow if someone like Angelina Jolie or Halle Berry decided to post on a dating site.
Unfortunately the accomplished can not divulge their basic need for companionship
without detrimental consequences, like Halle Berry needing to tell a Gent fella to stop
sending hundreds of messages a day.
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