| The BBW Issue
Posted: 12/21/2008 7:41:16 AM | OK, this is just a thought, but wouldn't life be much easier if men who like BBW's or wouldn't mind dating a BBW just put BBW Friendly on their profile.
Instead of saying no offense or something along that lines and state all you want is a skinny woman. Just say not looking for bbw.
Some men leave it very unclear to what there preference is and I am sure that is due to that fact they don't want to be shallow. We all are adults and if you state it that is fine I really don't care. And I am sure many women wouldn't. But when you don't state which you prefer than you end up probably getting emails from women who you don't want.
So simple guys.
If you wouldn't mind dating a BBW, Than put BBW-Friendly
IF you dont want to date a bbw, Than but No-BBW
Just a thought I had to try to make things easier for everyone and maybe less fustrating for us all. | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 1/3/2009 11:21:24 PM | | B doesn't always follow with Beautiful. | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 1/7/2009 6:26:43 PM | | I totally agree with you. I've written to so many men, most answer don't date fat women, would have moved right on if profile stated - no bbw. | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 1/9/2009 6:07:23 PM | OK So instead of Big Beautiful Woman how about-
B-Big
B- Bad
W- Woman
Does that help? Either way most people understand what BBW is. Be it if they are beautiful or not. | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 3/14/2009 9:05:32 PM | | I don't think being a "BBW" or "Big & Tall" means that people just read that line and move on. I think most men are probably thinking they are going to jump online and find the girl they see in magazines and not realizing that most of those women are not realistic. Obviously I am overlooked in the same way that you are describing because I am not an ideal size but at least I have fun and enjoy life. It is a state of mind and if a woman/man looks and acts pleasant then it shouldn't matter. The fact is that we live in a world of people that pass judgement on others without getting to know them first. If you really want to talk to someone then do it. No matter what you have to take the chance on flying even if you know there is a chance of falling. I am in the same position where I might get one responce for every ten messages I send. That doesn't sound very good to me considering every woman I have asked out in person went out with me but for some reason most woman online won't even take a minute to say "hello" or even "no thanks, I'm not interested". I think it will always be a little frustrating but we move on and grow stronger. Am I wrong? | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 3/15/2009 7:59:39 PM | | you get a 10% response rate and you complain??? then mine must be horrible some of the time and so are others on here. nothing ventured nothing gained. as for women not giving a hello or a no thanks, the only reason to reply to someone you know you are not interested in is to say no thanks good luck. well, i've given the no thanks and been burned several times and it suddenly becomes MY fault?? so i told one guy that i didn't have to even give the no thanks and that next time i just might not do that. and this type of experience has happened to others also, so that might be another reason women don't give the no thanks. | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 5/6/2009 7:11:39 PM | Honestbigguy-
Dating is all about preferences, not necassarily passing judgement. Looks do matter even if the person is pleasant. Some women prefer bald men, or men with facial hair, or red hair, etc. Some men prefer women with freckles, or long hair, or tattoos, etc. The point is, we all have "standards" and preferences and no one should be deemed a "bad" person for preferring small men/women or the other way around or for having any other standards. Dating is like a job interview... Either you have the right qualifications or you don't. I am not a "thin" girl myself and I have been rejected because of it. It happens. And as you said, we move on and become stronger. We have to be comfortable with ourselves before anyone else can be comfortable with us. You said you have fun and enjoy life... that's all that matters . :D The "right" woman will come along eventually :) | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 6/4/2009 2:53:14 PM | | when i see the words "A woman who takes care of herself" I move on because to me that means not interested in BBW. I take care of myself but I am also a big girl. I hesitate contacting someone who hasn't made it clear what kind of body type they are attracted to. | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 6/5/2009 4:17:56 PM | | i have no biffs about big women but when you get older thats when it hits shortness of breath, diabetis and heart problems you will pay the price | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 6/25/2009 9:26:06 PM | hahahaha....CNN did a poll once and you would be surprised at how many men have the BBW fantasy, but afraid to act upon it....sad, really sad.  | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 6/26/2009 12:19:27 PM | I'm not even sure what image comes to mind when most people see BBW, but to me it implies a voluptuous, somewhat tall and very wide-hipped woman, kind of like a cartoon opera singer.
Now, I'm 5'3" and quite plump, but not in the hips or thighs at all.
(I'm more Hobbit-shaped... minus the furry feet)
Recently I got told I should go to the BBM/BBW sites. As if we larger folks should be segregated: since I'm rounder I shouldn't expect to connect with a slimmer man? Am I cutting into the dating pool that is rightfully belonging to slimmer women?
Besides not seeing myself in that category, I don't want to date a BBM. I'm attracted to lanky, towering fellas who seem to be all arms and legs. I'm not interested in big-built or big-muscled guys.
.. and surprise! The guy I see just happens to be lanky and towering, all arms and legs. Evidently he doesn't mind the Hobbit.
Sorry to rant: I just got really annoyed at the directive to seek men in the bigger range just because I am bigger (than I want to be). Yes, I am in the process of weight reduction. In the meantime, I can like whomever I want, beanpole or bear.
So, to that person who told me I need to stick to 'my own size', that applies to mind and heart & soul, not to shape. | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 6/27/2009 12:40:18 PM | hi ya hunnie im a bbw and im proud to be 1 and just for the record i think your absolutely gorgeous you have a stunning smile and for me a bigger guys is far more attractive good luck in your search xxx jane manchester england  | |
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| The BBW Issue
Posted: 7/11/2009 1:43:05 PM | Well, a lot of women have ruined it for the other's..They call themselfs a BBW when in fact the are obease....there is a big, and I do mean BIG difference  | |
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