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Posted: 12/26/2008 6:36:21 PM | Okay, Fishies. Is there a word for the feeling of dismay you get when you find out your friend has only called you to pass the time as he/she waits for something else to happen? A friend of mine, who lives in Hawaii , mind you, called other day and just as I was getting into how awful the weather is here she said, "I'll have to call you back. They're done with my car now." When I asked where she was, she told me she was getting an oil change. I may be old fashioned, but I felt somewhat used.
Anyway, I know this has happened to more than just me. Is there a word for it? | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 6:45:29 PM | Actually I'm glad that you mentioned this. Do you think this feeling is common? Because honestly, I do stuff like that all the time. I'm not much of a phone talker.....
Don't view it as "a way to pass the time"....view it as your friend seeing an opportunity (which may be rare, as it is in my world) and you're the person she was thinking of....
Someone was thinking of you...saw an opportunity, and called! She may have only had a few moments, but it was you that she chose to call during those few moments yes? | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 7:12:25 PM | The word I would use for that is dismay. Dismay is the dismal feeling of having your happiness dismantled.
Women use cell phones to avoid ever having to go ten minutes of the day without being able to talk with someone. She was going through the names alphabetically, couldn't reach anyone until she got to you. If your name starts with a B it happens a lot more than if it starts with a Z. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 7:15:30 PM | | I agree with the poster who said that your friend probably just found a good opportunity to call you during a busy day. The friend probably thought she'd have more time than she did, then had to go (hence telling you she'd call you back). No biggie. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 7:17:22 PM | | My best friend of 35 years has done this to me. She likes the phone, I hate it. I'm always glad that it's me she thought to call. However I have had others do this and it is a little irritating. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 7:58:47 PM |
Is there a word for it? Pissed?
Chagrined?
Disillusioned?
Befuddled?
Discouraged?
Consternation?
Disheartened?
Bewildered?
Perplexed?
Envious? | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 8:00:03 PM | | I have a friend that does this but it's cool she got me a real nice Christmas present..I think it's more of a safe thing for her too because I don't answer my phone don't like the phone either..Because it sounds like shes talking to me..It don't really bother me. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 8:02:04 PM | | I agree - sometimes we think we have more time when we really don't. If she doesn't call back can you call her to finish the conversation? I'm not much of a phone person so I won't even go that far - a quick text is all you're likely to get if it isn't anything important. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 8:14:15 PM | I am just curious as to who was doing most of the talking, and was there any negativity on your side? Like being down about this or that, and the other person was busy and eventually just lost the motivation to continue the conversation.
If not, that is cool. It was only one possibility I wondered aboot. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 8:22:21 PM | I know a word for these types...cell phone users.
Okay, so 3 words...sue me :P
Yep, I see it all the time. People talkin' away on their cell phones to whoever will answer just 'cause they're bored and want someone to pass the time with. See 'em in bus stops. See 'em in checkout lines. See 'em in traffic snarls. See 'em in movie theatres. See 'em just about everywhere.
If you own a cell, chances are you're just like them. You're bored so you'll call up your whole list of friends til one answers and actually talks back to you.
Reason #32 why I don't own a cell. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 10:30:32 PM | Multitasking!
There's many a time I really want to call someone,and I'm either someplace loud and busy,or have unexpected downtime during reasonable phone call hours.I am not usually done with my day and free for phone conversating until after midnight or before 8 am.Neither is a time I'm going to make a social call.I use oil change time and waiting for my connecting flights and such to catch up and connect with friends I don't get to see or talk to often because of my travel schedule.
I'm big on mailing postcards while traveling,but it's still nice to be able to hear a friend's voice.
Luckilly,my friends know my schedule and are understanding when I can get to actually speak with them.
If it's just to pass time,I'd rather read or draw. | |
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Posted: 12/26/2008 11:17:39 PM | She thought enough of you to call. She had other things going on in her life, but she thought to call you.
If someone thought as well of me I'd be flattered.
Right, you needed a word.
How about "sincere?" | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 12:19:15 AM |
I know a word for these types...cell phone users.
It depends on the situation, but I am kinda with this guy in the situations I've had it happen. I've seen this trait quite a bit in women, where they will kind of call to talk about nothing in particular, while they are driving home from work or waiting for a car repair, etc. In the situations where it's obvious that this is going on, yes it can be annoying- not so much that I feel used, but more because they assume because they have absolutely nothing to do that at moment, they it's ok to waste my time as well (particularly if I am working, etc).
If someone thought as well of me I'd be flattered.
This is another way of looking at it, and again depends on the person. But it seems as though the same girls would do it regularly, so sincerity is going a little over the top- they were bored.
I literally watched one girl clamoring for attention - while she was next to me walking on tread mill of all things- go through and call one person after another, and talk until they basically let her go. Then she'd call someone else and have the same inane conversation. After about the fifth call (and 30 minutes), I was about ready to rip the cell phone from her hands and throw it in the Olympic size pool down the hall. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 5:23:17 AM | op i don't think your friend has given you any evidence that she has "used" you in any way. or at least, you certainly haven't provided it here. you may have other reasons to feel used, but a friend calling you and then having to cut the call short is NOT one of them.
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Posted: 12/27/2008 2:39:26 PM | I'm somewhat guilty of this, though I will always mention to the person that I'm just waiting for whatever and had a couple of moments to spare to say a quick hey...
This is generally followed with a lengthier phone call within a day or so. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 3:00:45 PM | so lets get this straight...you dont call cuz you miss someone, or cuz you got great news, or cuz you want to get together...its cuz you dont have anything right then to do...
I think I would rather you save your minutes and read a magazine...no reason we both gotta be bored. | |
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Posted: 12/27/2008 4:07:51 PM | | I think they thought of you , more than anyone else! Maybe your making a mountain out of a mole hill .The real question was did they get back to you? | |
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