| Dating in Iowa and general stuff
Posted: 12/27/2008 10:49:17 AM | I've been in Iowa and on this board for about a year. I've met a few people but really haven't found "The One".
One thing I notice on here is that a lot of ladies seem to post picts of them and their children like they're advertising an Instant Family or something. Don't get me wrong, When I married my ex-wife, she had two kids and I am okay with people having kids. I have 4 girls of my own. One is full time and the other three are joint custody. I just prefer to keep the kids out of my dating life until I'm sure it's going to be a long term thing. Kids get attached so easily and a breakup is bad enough on me, I don't want to put kids through it more often than need be.
I've also got the sense, that women here are very timid about replying to e-mail. Am I that ugly that nobody wants to say hi back?
You never know who may be the one and if you've had a few failed relationships, maybe it's time to look outside the box. Just a thought. | |
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| Dating in Iowa and general stuff
Posted: 12/28/2008 10:37:37 AM | | I agree. Kids do get attached too easily and need to be left out of the adult life until need be. On replying to emails, sometimes its hard to know where to go with an email if there aren't questions to answer it's hard to get it started. Sometimes I feel like I ask too many questions. They answer them but never ask any back. How are you to keep the conversations going? I have found by not posting my picture, it has tend to weed out alot of people whether that be good or bad I'm not sure. | |
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| Dating in Iowa and general stuff
Posted: 12/28/2008 6:22:35 PM | | I think it is better to meet than to send endless emails back and forth.Too many times I have spent weeks sending messages to someone that can't seem to make up her mind or has a dozen other things going on and won't commit her time for a real date. | |
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| Dating in Iowa and general stuff
Posted: 12/28/2008 8:45:34 PM | I agree with the family pix thing. I understand "stating" you have familial obligations, but posting pix of the kids {IMO} is just not cool for a "dating" site. I would never want to involve my kids in an online community like that and until I'm sure that this is going somewhere in a positive light, no one gets to see my "offspring's or meet them."
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| Dating in Iowa and general stuff
Posted: 1/7/2009 1:47:06 PM | Hmm , I don't know... I have older children and the only reason I would post a picture of me with them is because ... some of my best smiles are to be witnessed while my kids are in the photo with me.
Another reason I can see folks posting these type of photos is because they are proud of their children and naively do not think there are weirdos out here in cyberland. | |
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| Dating in Iowa and general stuff
Posted: 1/8/2009 11:10:05 PM | | I understand your position on not meeting the children too soon, but you're confusing that with a picture. I can understand why some women would want any suiter to understand her position right up front, but that doesn't mean that same mother would be exposing anything, other than a picture. I didn't date while I was raising my children, but if I had of, I can imagine that I would have wanted to show off my pride and joy, while still making the statement that we were a package deal. And for the record, I am of the same belief that I would not want my children seeing mom in a short term relationship, much less having them get involved in said relationship. So just because the kids are in the picture doesn't mean that the kids would be in the relationship. | |
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| Dating in Iowa and general stuff
Posted: 1/10/2009 7:31:27 AM | | Well, this mom will not post any pic of her kids, my kids are even older.I dont feel this is the place for them. Let the man and woman get to know each other before the kids are involved. | |
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