| Suicide by Lies...
Posted: 12/29/2008 3:24:00 PM | My ex and I ended our relationship 4 years ago...trust issues, lies!
Throughout the past 4 years he has begged for my return...now some of us know when we are beating a dead horse, but he just didn't/doesn't get it!
I have come slivers away from a restraining order...but we all know anyone can walk through paper.
As the story goes...
In the past bit this man loses his father, loses his 20 year job, lost me (starting to come to grips or at least I thought) and now is telling me he is going to take his life.
I shoot straight from the hip and tell him that is a cowards way out!
I don't need this sh*t.
I don't hear anything more until Christmas eve..."I tried to hang myself."
Like WTF!
This makes me ill to think a man of 52 has no common sense to know how stupid and finial that is. Not to mention our youngest is only 12. What this does to the living...!
Feeling the stresses of this I chose to end our call voicing my dismay.
Christmas morning very early a sad call is left on my ans machine.
Leaving me with that empty feeling...all day I call, all evening now worried I phone his grown Daughters (living 6 hours away)...without too much alarm but just enough to let them know I am worried, I ask if he maybe there.
Muffled phone, few seconds pass and then an answer of NO.
24 hours pass, soon 36. After 2 more concerning messages to his girls, with no return answer...I call the police.
All I can picture is him hanging there...
Police do what Police do and I got the call back...he's not dead he's having dinner with the very girls I left messages for. Having your kids lie for you is so wrong...Lying about suicide is very sad!
Now I must ask...with such behavior as to let a person think you are dead, would you call their Doctor (same dr), a suicide hotline line or turn your back?
I hate to turn my back on anyone in need but this is too needy! Almost Sick to me. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 3:40:45 PM | | This was beyond sick, and it seems he's trying to control what you think and do. You did the right thing "THIS TIME" by calling the police ... but how many 'next times' will he pull this? He needs serious psychiatric therapy, and if you still talk to him, I'd tell him that. Maybe he thinks he's holding you hostage with these despicable threats ... and involving his daughters as well ... but he's sick. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 3:46:48 PM | | I would have called the police, because they are trained to remain objective, intervene, and involve the suicidal person with helpful resources. The thing is, when someone is that despondent they are to be considered as irrational, and so however you might take what they say and do, don't take it personally or respond on the same level. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 3:50:15 PM | Very sad indeed;I can honestly say I've tried to take my own life because of a romantic interest.I know sad thing;but I've never told them about it.I think telling someone no telling the one you"love" that you tried to kill yourself shows how much you really don't love them.
As for what you should do;I'd give him a ultimatum.Either get help and in doing so we can establish a friendship(that is if you want him as a friend after those antics),or wash your hands of him.You don't deserve such psychological stress,if he actually has it in him to take his life all you can say to yourself is "I did everything in my power to get him the help he needed" and move on.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 5:08:41 PM | ... wow, that man is sick!!
i hope his daughters see that and encourage him to get counselling
i do know of a case where the man did carry out his threats
third threat wasn't taken seriously, hence the police weren't called
his exwife (whom he made the threats to)
refused to take responsibility for his action
her words:
he placed the rope around his head
he jumped off the chair
he hung himself
his life
his responsibility
what a **stard!! | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 5:48:02 PM | | Honey, that is emotional abuse. I would get an order of protection. Police do take those seriously these days and he will go to jail if he violates it. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 7:10:03 PM | Pathetic would be an understatement!!!
He's just playing with your emotions.
And using your kids too to do it!
Turn your back, woman.
Games. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2008 11:04:08 PM | If this man does not warrent a second chance? why do you care if he Off himself? And your not turning your back on him he turn his on you and is now playing his last card to try and force you back into his life. People die every day and we as human only miss the ones we care about.
I sorry if I'm sounding inhuman but your story hit a nerve. Just remember you can't control the action of others. | |
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