| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:22:05 PM | | I am just wondering if there is passion after 40. This question isn't really geared toward either gender because I think both sexes probably have problems with this. Is being passionate something that is just inherent in someone such as them being affectionate? Do people over 40 change their behaviours (perhaps weren't passionate people in their 20's/30's, but do become so in their 40's+?) . I am sort of in a relationship at the moment that is frequently lacking (one-sidedly) some passion - not to say I expect it 100% of the time, but more frequently than not might be nice. Any help? | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:40:34 PM | | Yep there definitely can be passion over 40 and for some people they are more passionate then than when they were younger - perhaps because they have found a partner with whom they can be passionate. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:43:19 PM | | In MY case, there sure as hell is a lot of passion! The trouble has been finding an OUTLET for my passion! All the women that I like are already attached or not interested (and some are close to my age). I may not be Brad Pitt, but I'm a fit, confident, intelligent guy who still has a healthy libido. They see me as a teddy bear, not the strong, virile man that I am. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 3:51:48 PM | Of course there is passion after 40!!
I am 46 and my passion has not ceased nor has the amount I possess changed.
I think what happens all too often is (some) people let their passion die~they give up.
Use your imagination and MAKE passion happen!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:05:40 PM | | Holy crap..the closer I get to 40, the more I hope passion runs rampant.. I sort of feel like I've wasted my 30's working on my family and financials... please don't tell me passion dies off!!! LOL | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:13:09 PM | I think for people over 40 on a dating site, there certainly is or most likely they wouldn't be here looking for relationships, so I expect just about all positive answers to that question in this venue. Passionate people are going to look harder for what they want.
Off the internet, I'm not so sure. I know you're not gearing this toward either gender, but I see a big difference in my area gender wise - I know women over 40 looking for men to have relationships with, including sex, but I don't know any older men looking for women. Then again I don't know any single older men, and I think that's because they are not out looking (offline) as the women are. They seem to not exist, and there are not enough young women to go around for all the young men and older men who want them - so it seems like there ought to be some passionate guys left out there over 40.
I think they're hiding from me. LOL
Seriously I do think if one has a lot of passion when they are young, they are more likely to still have passion when they are older as long as serious health problems haven't come along. Some people may discover passion at an older age if they finally become matched up with someone who is right for them, as opposed to someone that stays in a bad marriage for years.
I guess I'm rambling, but here's to a New Year and may we all find the passion we desire! | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:26:03 PM | | Passion is something that springs forth from a person when they are healthy, exhuberant about life and can still appreciate the opposite sex . If that doesn't happen then maybe the person is depressed or needs some vitamins to get in balance. It isn't somthing that comes with age in my opionion a person can feel deeply passionate at any age. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:26:57 PM | I think you need to find a new relationship if you are seeking passion. Some people just arnt passionate, it has nothing to do with age. I am getting really tired of people assuming that when the clock strikes the moment of your 40th b-day , you suddenly change into some old decrepit geezer. Speak for yourselves people, I am alive and doing just fine! | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:44:21 PM | Well I am definately past fourty (51) and quite honestly I can say that I certainly am full of passion. It ebbed for a while .But when you find the right person ,those embers turn to flames very quickly. Every person knows what makes them feel passionate, the key is to let your partner know what it is. I have always said I love a person who can use their words. Are you wondering if the passion is still there? Try having an intimate conversation. Detailing what you desire and what you want to do. Your just talking at this point, so even if it's something others may think is off the wall ,you can explore the possibilities. I believe passion starts with the mind. From there it travels to beautiful places.
Words are beautiful !! Use them ,explore them, exploit them !!!! If you are too shy speak them then write your lover a letter. I would never settle for a lover who is not passionate. It will slowly drain your own.
Here is to passion and may you all find this coming New Year | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 4:54:01 PM | | True passion doesn't even begin until age 40. Up until then it is just a hint of what is to come. Too bad it dies out at 41. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 5:07:45 PM | OP, passion never goes away.
wished it would cus at times it's a big distraction let me tell ya...
But as to your question...
Has your guy had a checkup?
Lots of stuff can accumulate over time healthwise and hit us in our forties.
If someone's actions/behaviors change there could be a condition to deal with.
Most times minor and easy to solve.
Tough as us guys are... we are not totally oblivious to time and slowing down. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 5:21:53 PM | Passion after 40?
I'm so sorry you found the need to ask that question.
Passion after 60 is ecstasy.
All you need is the right combination---persons, touch, atmosphere, longing, love, caring. I could go on & on with various combinations. Whatever it is that works between the 2 of you. Then put yourself into enjoying it, as that passes on to your partner. It multiplies itself. Should work at any age.
Enjoy! | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:10:04 PM | | There definitely can be passion after 40! By this age, they have more experience and are usually more into pleasing their partner than they might have been 15 years ago, and that goes for both men and women. Also, chemistry plays a HUGE role in it. By now, people should be comfortable with their bodies and not afraid to relay to their partner what they like. People should do what comes natural. However, if you're with a selfish lover, it will probably leave you feeling unsatisfied and frustrated! A friend of mine has been dating a guy for over a year and while he wants oral sex from her, he's not willing to do that for her and she said that basically as soon as he's finished, that's it there is no consideration for her needs. Well, he's getting his walking papers very soon. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:29:16 PM | Hey, if he's not being passionate to you the way you need then you are with the wrong man! Cut him loose. Lonliness drives us to forget sometimes the things we need the most in a parnter. I think we all know who it ends. with you unhappy and unsatisfied.
As to the paasion after 40 OMG your just starting!!!! this is the best time to be expressing and recieving it. You want it ASK for it and if he can't give it he's not for you. sorry to say.
but then this isonly my opinon and those will varie
thats all it took | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:54:48 PM | Any help? Tell him what you need and want. That should do the trick and if it doesn't you need to find a guy who matches your passion level.
I'm more passionate in my 40's than I was in my 30's and have learned how important it is to have a guy in my life on the same "frequency" as me.  | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:57:28 PM | Lol at Capt. Truthiness. Heather Locklear & Hugh Jackman look pretty darn good and I bet are still in the game.
But I'm beginning to wonder that myself. Met too many 40+ men who seem to have minimal passion anymore. Maybe because they don't exercise and let themselves go? | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 6:59:42 PM | yourgal, Yes, there's passion after 40, and it's not quite the same as when I was 20-to-30-something. It's even greater than what I as the naive boy once thought possible. My SO seems to answer a what I've been ISO for such in a woman since my late teens. Romance not as advertising tells us for how it can be afforded, but nevertheless a direction that seems to suit us both for wanting more of it.
My passion for caring to do the right thing when, has been answered and reciprocated in kind by a much wiser, kinder, caring, and why-the-hell-not woman also in her 50s. True that neither are in the same physical shape as when we'd probably be expecting child #2 between us since first meeting fourteen months ago, but the passion is mutual for caring to be there and here as the sane adult for the other while she helps me w/my child from a previous marriage gone bad ...and I for the two children of her only child. That my own and they are about the same age to not yet be concerned for other than a good playmate? Priceless for not feeling that I should have surrendered earlier for less a woman. No settling here for the passion-under-grace that each brings to our "us" here and elsewhere as needed. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:00:05 PM | Hell yeah......and it just keeps getting better and better!
If you're having issues now.....it's only going to get worse.
Talk to the man.....let him explain why he's not as passionate as u would like him to be. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:01:19 PM | Re the Opost
Is there Passion after 40?
Of course there is, why would there not be? The exceptions exist but as exceptions. One could even suggest that passion may be more frequent after 40, because one is wider and more philosophical, unless of course one becomes cynical (most of philosophy and wisdom does not lead to cynicism, though!) | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:12:08 PM |
I am getting really tired of people assuming that when the clock strikes the moment of your 40th b-day , you suddenly change into some old decrepit geezer. Speak for yourselves people, I am alive and doing just fine
So there are two of us! Thanks, Diamond, nice to hear somebody else make this point occasionally. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:12:39 PM | Oh I do hope so................otherwise we are all doomed 
I am a passionate woman but I seem to attract men that just want to have an affair (ie married men etc) and I'm not interested in giving my all to a cheater.....................looking for that one passionate man!! | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:15:05 PM | | I am just as passionate as I ever was. I think your NEED for sex slows down for both sexes as the years go by. It's probably better that way, if you know what I mean. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:24:52 PM | Definitely! The 40s were the most erotic years of my life and I'm well on my way to making the 50s even better. Among lesbians, women in their 40s are considered to be really hot.
Around the time I turned 40 I got rid of my husband, who really suppressed my passion, and got with a woman who really fired it up. Later I found out I could be just as passionate with a man who did not suppress me and it's been getting better ever since. I'm afraid at the rate I'm going, I'm going to be completely out of control by the time I'm 80.
I have to say that at this point in my life, if I were with someone who lacked passion I'd have to say to them, honey, you either get it together or I'm finding it elsewhere because I'm not living without it. Your choice.
I think your NEED for sex slows down for both sexes as the years go by. It's probably better that way, if you know what I mean.
Mine hasn't. If anything, it's increased which I primarily attribute to leaving a husband who was self-centered in and out of bed. So no, I don't know what you mean. Of course, I haven't had a steady partner for five years. If I did, maybe I'd be slowing down but I hope not. I'm not ready for bed death. | |
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| Is there Passion after 40?
Posted: 12/30/2008 7:43:16 PM |
I am just wondering if there is passion after 40
I have several passions in my life, but for causes, and certain activities. At present there is no significant other in my life; perhaps, at long last, I have finally, after innumerable recommendations, successfully redirected the sex drive. Lol. But if you are inquiring about passionate sex, and the intensity of appetites after 40, I think those of us who are older have learned to channel passion, give it direction. The young radiate in every direction, all at once. If you are not in my path, you may not feel the heat; if you are in my crosshairs, I just might scorch your butt! Lol. | |
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