| | Do you guage physical attraction on.....Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | ....the fact that you had been, let's say married to a 9 or 10 for 20 years? I know some people that have dated or had been to married to "knockouts", later divorced.....and now have a hard time dating women / men any less attractive than the last woman they dated or were married to.
Like, do you have a guage. "Well, the last woman I dated was pretty hot, so if I'm capable of attracting certain attractive women, I should expect that."
Like, the last women I've dated...they were pretty cute...I'd say 8's on the scale....so now I think I won't date less than that. I see a woman, think, "Well, she isn't as attractive as my last g/f.....so I'll move one?"
Do any of you guys or ladies do that in your head? It's kind of like "I expect no less than the last woman I dated". | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 6:48:05 AM | I looked at this question and wondered - what???? But I gave it some thought...
Some people are just attracted to certain "types" - maybe that has something to do with it? I don't think I get it, cause I haven't got a type at all - it's more a person to person attraction for me, and always has been. Obviously we are all going to have people we are just not attracted to physically at all...but if I don't find that I'm thinking "no way I can kiss that goodnight" - then I don't think any kind of "level" comes into play, until I see what they are like, because there are way more important things than how someone looks. JMO... | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 7:26:46 AM | Im from Texas...Is pulling an 8 in brownfield, like pulling a 3 in Dallas?
Its all relative son.
And I say this every time, why do people post threads about "good Looks" and never have a profile pic of their own?
Happy New Year everybody...be safe | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:08:26 AM | One man's 8 is anothers guys 10 or 3.
Taste is subjective and a woman or mans attractiveness rating can vary the moment they open their mouth or you start to get to know them. If an 8 becomes a whiny and clingy or a cheating gal is she still an 8 to you? | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:15:04 AM | | never compare one woman against another. all woman have something about them that makes them attractive. so for you to compare is not fair. do yourself a favor take each person for who they are and not for who you want them to be. besides why are you comparing any to an ex. they are an ex for a reason. just some food for thought. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:27:11 AM | .......interesting.. Most of the women I dated in my life were 7-8's but everyone told me they were smokin , to hot for me...on the physical scale only.
Plus is this before or after the war-paint/hair/nails/push-up/$50 jeans/and fake {______} (insert: Boobs/colored contacts/tan/hair/etc,etc,etc here )
My thing is this....
Let's agree for a moment that the women is a solid 8 in both our eyes.
To me a bythchy attitude/ drama/ nasty demeanor will make her a 5 in my book anyway.
Actually my buddy who's wife is a Doctor/Attorney (yes both) is hot, but such a REAL Beeeeeeitch shes like a 1 (ONE)
Take the same women schooled,confident,congenial , with her shtye together makes her a 9 or 10 in my book.
I think we all have a scale . I just like to average mine out.
What's that old texas saying: "What's the difference between a 5 and a 10?"
A six-pack and a 5th of tequila
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:32:56 AM | | i really didnt truelly start haveing successfull relationships until i trashed the society created idealism of attractive.i was amazed to find out just how influenced i was by media image and status.it was like seeing women in a whole new light. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:39:03 AM | I don't gauge physical attraction, or analyze it. It's either something that's there or isn't....I can't control it, much less try to make sense out of it.
Everyone is attracted to something different, or we'd all be going after the same person.
And attraction and the outcome of relationships aren't really connected to me, so I can't address that one. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:40:33 AM |
Do any of you guys or ladies do that in your head?
Nope can't say I ever have.
I do look at a man and say his body is a 9 then he opens his mouth and he went down to a 3. Is that the same.
Seriously though, I have never judged someone on their looks there is so much more. I have always held the belief that you can only look at a great picture for so long before you have to have some interaction so if there is nothing there but a great body well that is going to get boring really quick.
Everyone I have dated in life there has been an attraction from the way he raised his eyebrow to their smile each person is different in thier own way and should be judged by that. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 8:49:50 AM | | Naturally most people have an ideal of how good looking a person they can attract and they are not going to settle for less unless the other person makes up for having less looks in other ways such as intelligence, charm, and income. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 9:46:34 AM | I think physical attraction and "general beauty" are two completly different worlds.
I find many different types of woman attractive for different reasons. Ideally I would like to find a woman with jennifer love hewitt's body , the mind of a writer/philanthropist, and the sexual prowess of jenna jameson. Good luck to me.
That being said I like many different types, thick, thin, athletic, goth,indy,business, hip-hop, high fashion. It all depends on if they are comfortable in their own skin. That is what is sexy / attractive to me. Also intelligence, that is my biggest turn on.
A 5 with a brain becomes a 7 or 8 . A 7 with a brain is like a 9. I think too many people focus on physical characteristics / stats. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 9:55:30 AM | Wow, I didn't even know people usd the "number" system any more. Can't say I've ever used it, period. Is this mostly a guy thing?
I tend to agree with some of the other posters, attraction is relative ... | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 10:10:50 AM | Yah I am with cookie22222, I believe that some of us are attracted to certain types...
Take for instance my current BF I took him over to meet my mom and you know what she said? " God, I thought it was Pat (ex), they look a lot alike"!
I was totally unaware of this. So maybe it is an unconscious act. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 10:20:06 AM | Its not so much the physical attraction as the chemistry.... because looks are subjective....Both of my relationships were with men that I deemed attractive, yet it was the chemistry that made me want to be with them. The guy can be a 10, but if the chemistry isn't there.......its all over.
I think you should get to know the ones with whom you feel chemistry with, no matter how attractive you initially thought they were. Confidence & charisma can go a long way towards how one is viewed.
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Posted: 12/31/2008 10:35:22 AM | I'm in the same camp as most here that even a 10 can quickly get too a 1 or 2 after they open their mouths. Myself, I've always dated women I concider attractive and even had a few guys say "How'd you get her?" Personality is what I look for. Does that mean there doesn't have to be a sexual attraction? He!! yes there does, but after that there needs to be some substance/connection.
DJ I really don't get this statement vvvv
attraction and the outcome of relationships aren't really connected to me, so I can't address that one.
I think the outcome of any relationship you have is directly connected too both of the people involved. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 11:37:53 AM | Physical attraction is a very strong variable: could be a comination of the smile; eyes; hair; lips; boobs; legs; and brain.
All thses come into intoxicating play...just makes my head spin at times....yes!
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Posted: 12/31/2008 11:38:38 AM | Physical attraction is a very strong variable: could be a combination of the smile; eyes; hair; lips; boobs; legs; and brain.
All thses come into intoxicating play...just makes my head spin at times....yes!
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Posted: 12/31/2008 11:54:49 AM | One of my first boyfriends, after high school, was a GQ model, 6"1" blonde /green eyes - very beautiful and quite intelligent - definately an 12++ on a scale of 1-10. In a relationship for 2yrs. Other women and men alike hit on him right in front of me.
The next one looked like a young Elvis Presley, before the Army, very good looking and smart - on my scale an 8, 6'3"black /blue eyes- relationship 3 yrs.
The one after that was Stu, 5'9" brown eyes/ brown hair (an ugly little Jew-His words) a little guy with a lot of potential-His words also. My scale of attractiveness was about a 4. He was very sexy and all his girlfriends before me were very attractive women. He had impressed me right from the moment we met. Went out with him 4 yrs, got engaged and then broke up when I found out he was cheating on me. Oh well good times while it lasted.
After dating him I gave less attractive men the time of day, if they had personality and were companion oriented.
My last boyfriend was very good looking like Brad Pitt, 6'7" blonde/blue eyes - super smart, 10 yrs younger than me - a certain 10+ on anybodys scale, relationship 3 yrs. Broke up because he wanted kids and I didn't - would have married him.
Best boyfriend Stu - hands down - we were always hot for each other, 3 dates later found out he had a girlfriend. Didn't go out with him again until 1 yr later when he broke up with her. Finally when we were in a sexual relationship, that was the icing on the cake. Outside the bedroom he was all about pleasing me also. We never fought, we disagreed, but left it at that. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 1:57:50 PM | Nope, if she's attractive to me, then she's attractive to me. No comparison w/ the ex's.
(Of course, personality after that can make her more or less attractive over time). | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 2:06:15 PM |
The one after that was Stu, 5'9" brown eyes/ brown hair (an ugly little Jew-His words) a little guy with a lot of potential-His words also. My scale of attractiveness was about a 4.
After dating him I gave less attractive men the time of day, if they had personality and were companion oriented, Best boyfriend Stu
So see there is something to be said for us lesser attractive dudes, wooo hoo, there is hope for us then sweet....LOL. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 2:18:10 PM | There is no gauge..no comparison to past partners..everyone is unique unto themselves... Attraction is an innate inexplicable lure that simply draws me to someone..
It's not about someone being a "knockout".. rather it's who appeals to me and that varies....
Since all attraction is subjective there is no such thing as an "8" because the another person may regard that "8" as a 3 or a 10...
I thinks it kinda high schoolish to assign numbers to a persons look anyway...You are either attracted or not the rest is beans | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 5:15:46 PM | | Either you're attracted to a person or you're not. I don't consider subjective cause it's something you can determine after a couple of seconds. You may find 1 person more attractive than another and be attracted to them both but I don't think anyone gauges it based on an ex. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 5:48:44 PM |
DJ I really don't get this statement - I think the outcome of any relationship you have is directly connected too both of the people involved.
Of course it is, but the level of attractiveness to me or what it is about him that attracts me has no bearing on whether or not it works out (unless I dated someone I don't really like - but who does that?). It's about compatibility and individual effort, not attraction. | |
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Posted: 12/31/2008 6:15:43 PM | I prefer to meet the lady before I have an idea what she is like.
Anyone can look good in a photo, anyone can sound good on the phone.
But it comes to the crunch when you meet someone, can you talk to the person, can you have a level conversation.... | |
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