| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/2/2009 3:24:52 PM | | If you're being played? What has surprised me is there are so many players out there...men and women, and I'm not one! But how do you finally come to the realization you've been played? I've had guy friends that are players, and it almost made me sick. But to think, find out you've been played (by a gamer) makes you wonder!!! And I realize there are alot of vulnerable people out there, like widows, widowers, newly divorced. Do you hide things like how much you have in investments, retirement accounts,own your own home etc. or what? | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/2/2009 3:31:49 PM | To be honest....I don't EVER disclose ANY of my financials to anyone....not even when I DID have a boyfriend...my paycheck is MY paycheck....& no one is going to know what's in it but me & my employer. Although I'll tell ya right now....the best anyone can get outta me is a Redneck Paradise! LOL~!
Having said that....you just have to watch for all the usual "red flags"....if something doesn't add up...if something doesn't feel right....get the hell outta dodge...cuz it's NOT right. If he keeps telling you something that doesn't add up....then just drop everything...because chances are there are more things out there that will toss up them red flags......you don't want to be left holding the "I'm stupid" bag when all is said & done! It's all about GUT instinct....& I know that people don't think that they have those....but everyone does....too many times I hear "I KNEW something wasn't right with that!" and it turned out to be TRUE....so in the end...no one but YOU needs to know about your financials......& go with your gut instincts!
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:04:22 PM | Just follow your instincts.
If you get the impression that someone is using you,whether it's for financial gain,
sex,ego,etc,then gtfo,and quick.
If someone is treating you with kindness and respect,then you will have
no reason to question their liking for you.
Just common sense. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/2/2009 5:43:43 PM | As the other posters have stated, there are red flags...
Things don't add up, the stories don't jive and quite frankly, they seem too good to be true. That doesn't mean that someone can't be honest and not a player, but coming from the life I have had, I've learned to heed the signs and to listen to my gut instincts.
Tell me what you've seen your friends do - inform us... I'd like to hear how they're doing what they do. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:24:16 PM | It's fairly simple, but not necessarily easy, to avoid being "played."
Make all of your decisions from the belt up. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/2/2009 9:40:36 PM | | OP, one of the down sides to internet dating is that feelings of comfort and familiarity between 2 people can sometimes move at the speed of light, and people begin to let their guard down too soon to perfect strangers. I think we would all be liars if we said we have never been played. I personally like to take things slow and I have no problem telling a man when I think the question/s he asked is out of line or inappropriate for the time frame between us. I want to be sure the person I am learning about is worthy of my respect, my trust and I believe that he should be testing me to see if I am worthy of his respect and trust. I dont hide things and will answer honestly questions asked of me that are relivant for the time and closeness between me and a possible suitor. I agree that their are a lot of vulnerable people out there, but it is the responsibility for each of us, to watch out and be careful with strangers. I have found that when you take things slow and let the other person know that you will not be rushed into anything, the players seem to loose interest and go to find easier pickings. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/4/2009 10:22:02 AM | | Go with your gut. You'll know when something just doesn't seem right. Just pay attention. You don't necessarily have to question every little thing they do, but do listen and put all the pieces together. It's hard NOT to be played, especially when you want a relationship and the other person is telling you everything you want to hear. That should be your first red flag. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/4/2009 2:46:36 PM |
Go with your gut. You'll know when something just doesn't seem right. Just pay attention.
It's hard NOT to be played, especially when you want a relationship and the other person is telling you everything you want to hear.
Agreed. 100%. If something or someone is too good to be true... 9.9 times out of 10, it is. Someone telling me exactly what I want to hear is a huge red flag. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/4/2009 2:57:19 PM | """What has surprised me is there are so many players out there...men and women, and I'm not one! But how do you finally come to the realization you've been played?"""
Rick as you mature and grow older this stuff should be obvious. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/4/2009 2:58:23 PM | | I don't discuss any of those things nor do I ask about any of those things. How do you spot a player? They are the ones who do. Take the time to really build trust and get to know someone. In my experience...people will usually tell on themselves. My problem is with men who only care about the physical stuff. How do I know that that's what's important to them? Why, they always ask for more pics of course. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/4/2009 3:03:46 PM | hmm..
Dont have expecataions from anyone until you get to REALLY know them!!
Dont take anything for granted! You never really know what a person is capable of till they start to bite in!
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as some of the others have already said!!...trust your instincts! | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/4/2009 3:27:30 PM | | The game plays until the evidence is in. Just make sure you are getting a return on your investment, and there isn't usually a problem. Sometimes its not about naming the prefession as much as naming the price. | |
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| OK guys and gals, how do you know?
Posted: 1/4/2009 3:30:03 PM | The only expectations is to simply meet and if there is a click....enjoy each other. "Dating" should be about enjoyment for both, no pressure, no commitments. Revealing financial information is reserved for l-o-n-g down the road situations.
LOL... Many guys ask for more pictures because they don't want to get off their asses, take showers and make an effort to meet, just as some women don't. It's much easier to be what ever it is you want to be while hiding behind a computer screen.
Even if the most beautiful woman in the world with Brinks trucks following her around would ask me after we had been intimate for 6 months any financial information she wouldn't receive it.....much less a loan!!! LOL. Oh play me baby! | |
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