| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 3:45:09 PM | It seems that all I see in these forums are threads from some women complaining about being used for sex. If I'm to believe these threads, most women hate sex, and only do it to please some horny guy. Once the guy uses them they usually will kick them to the curb and go find another victim.
most women never ever have sex because they want to, they only do it after being seduced by some smooth talking guy. Is there ANY woman out there that actually love sex?. Are there Any woman out there who don't feel used and abused when a relationship ends in regards to sex?.
Are most men just evil seducers looking to seperate some damcel in distress from her Victoria Secrets?
From my own personal experience, I always thought women loved sex just as much as men. But after reading these forums, maybe I'm wrong?. It seems most woman need to be protected from most men, everytime they are left alone with men something bad happens, something that they have no control over. If I'm to believe these threads, most women are just prey, while most men are predators, just waiting on the right time to pounce. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:16:49 PM | Wildman. Allow me to introduce myself. Ms PREDATOR.
I use men for sex. Squeeze 'em til they're dry. Until they're begging for mercy. Until they want to turn gay.
But then there's my evil twin sister. Hey, you think I'M the predator? She literally eats them up after she's finished using them, then uses their urethras as dental floss....
Wildman, good topic for heated debate. Let the denials flow.................and the gender bashing begin... | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:20:54 PM | I just think women (generally speaking) tend to get more/easily emotionally attached... I for one, absolutely love being intimate and often find myself in an argument with whom ever I;m dating at the time because it's not enough.
You hear all the "used and abused" because I think we (generally speaking) want the relationship to become more then just sex.
I want more then just sex. I want a monogamous relationship. Not someone who is there at "his" convenience and so, until I get that, I will be one of those complaining women.. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:22:03 PM | Hell no....I hate to say it, but men are primarily FOR sex as far as I am concerned - yeah they need to be nice to talk to and all that, but consistent and GOOD sex is a requirement in my relationships. I don't keep em around long if they don't put out....what's the point?
Then again I was born with the good fortune of not having to want to marry a guy first to want to sleep with him - and although sex within a relationship is nice, I can also easily enjoy it for what it is. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:37:02 PM | Didn't the guy with the screen name similar to the name of the t.v. show with Dana Sculley and Fox Mulder ask this exact same question, in almost the exact same way, with almost the exact same stereotypes and polarized bias a few months ago?
Here's a recap:
Individually women love sex. Generally some sort of "relationship" is needed for it to be "meaningful" sex, which is better. Men and women agree, meaningful sex is better than "sex" sex.
Women (seemingly) get their emotional validation via mens expressed emotions, men (seemingly) get emotional validation via expressed behavior (sex).
This is generally taught, not necessarily biological.
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:40:13 PM |
I use men for sex.Squeeze em til they're dry.Until they're begging for mercy.
Really there are women like you out there? Then how do you explain this constant barrage of whiney" I was used and kicked to the curb after he got what he wanted" threads I see in the forums 100 times a day?. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:42:37 PM |
Is there ANY woman out there that actually love sex?. Are there Any woman out there who don't feel used and abused when a relationship ends in regards to sex?
I think you will find that most women enjoy sex, but they don't enjoy being used only for sex.
In answer to your questions that I copied above... Yes, I love sex. The only time I've ever felt used/abused at the end of a *relationship* was when I allowed myself to be used/abused. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:50:47 PM | I think you will find most women enjoy sex, but don't like being used for sex
believe it or not, guys get used for sex all the time. How come we don't write whiny threads bitching about it. I had a woman awhile back tell me straight up, "you're not what I'm looking for as far as a relationship goes, but we can have fun until he comes along". I never complained, I never whined, I just kept right on tapping that ass as long as I could. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 4:55:33 PM | I had a woman awhile back tell me straight up, "you're not what I'm looking for as far as a relationship goes, but we can have fun until he comes along". I never complained, I never whined, I just kept right on tapping that ass as long as I could.
I like the honesty wildman, but I'm curious to know how you men not allow the emotional attachment?
How can you keep "tappin that ass" and not get attached? What do you do different? | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:01:55 PM |
most women never ever have sex because they want to, they only do it after being seduced by some smooth talking guy. Is there ANY woman out there that actually love sex?.
Based on what I've read/heard on here and many other places I think that at least large minority of women don't have sex just for having sex (at least not at first). They do it as something to ensnare a man in a relationship, or as something that is a necessary evil if they want one (i.e. a relationship). This is the way it seems, but there may be reasons why it seems the way it does other than women being the way I just described.
In fact, I think most women don't like sex. The essence of sex is a particular act (intercourse), not a particular act in a relationship. When when women say they only like "sex in a relationship" they're basically saying they don't really like sex -- the act itself. They like 'relationship sex,' not just 'sex'. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:02:25 PM |
I like the honesty wildman, but I'm curious to know how you men not allow the emotional attachment? How can you keep "tappin that ass" and not get attached
Because he sees her as an "ass" and not as a person.
I guess. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:03:11 PM | I think that is a pretty broad question with a variety of answers. I know of five types sex some women have (maybe men too) but I'm sure there are others.
Martyr sex - The woman has sex because she believes it's a gift that he should be grateful for have received. When he isn't grateful, she was used and he is a bad bad person.
Permission via blame sex - She demonizes the man so she can be absolved of guilt for having sex outside a relationship.
Voodoo Punani sex - she has sex in hopes of manipulating him with her awesome skills. When he isn't blow away for her sex skills, beauty etc it's all his fault for not knowing when he had a good thing. I think the saying "You'll never meet another woman like me" originated from this type lol.
Love me sex - she just needs to feel close to someone and convinces herself there is more feeling in the relationship then there really is. Find me one sexually active single person who hasn't done this and I'll have phone sex with Gilbert Gottfried.
And good ol bang me like a screen door during a hurricane sex lol. Having sex just because you love it.
I know there are men with player (I hate that word) lines to manipulate women into having sex but honesty goes both ways. If you're not having sex because you want too, you should state it instead of playing games too. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:03:49 PM | There are men and women that get used for all kinds of things..........and while most of the time they know it or see the signs of it they allow it to happen and then are upset because it happen. Denial is a great thing until reality slaps you in the face.
I would never have sex just to make a man happy. I love sex way too much to not be enjoying it. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:12:55 PM | believe it or not, guys get used for sex all the time. How come we don't write whiny threads ****ing about it. I had a woman awhile back tell me straight up, "you're not what I'm looking for as far as a relationship goes, but we can have fun until he comes along". I never complained, I never whined, I just kept right on tapping that ass as long as I could.
Because to do so would make you less of a man, make you look weak. Men aren't supposed to b*tch and whine about getting laid. This is the fundamental difference between the sexes. I'm not saying it's right...
If you let it happen, you don't have the right to b*tch about it. You let it happen. You were in control of it. You could have walked away or stopped it at any point, but you chose to keep getting sex on a regular basis... how does that make it that she was using you? I think it was mutual.
There are men and women that get used for all kinds of things..........and while most of the time they know it or see the signs of it they allow it to happen and then are upset because it happen. Denial is a great thing until reality slaps you in the face.
I would never have sex just to make a man happy. I love sex way too much to not be enjoying it.
Kirota.. yup. Exactly. I don't have sex to make my partner happy. I have sex to make ME happy. His happiness is an added benefit I think.
I've had a few first dates that went a little further physically than I would normally allow... but I did allow it. I've had those men come back the next day or a few days later and say.. Not interested. How can I say they used me when I allowed things to get carried away in the first place. I have a voice, I know how to use it, and I do use it. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:17:16 PM |
Really there are women like you out there? Then how do you explain this constant barrage of whiney" I was used and kicked to the curb after he got what he wanted" threads I see in the forums 100 times a day?.
This is the same as the male version of "Why won't women date nice guys?" thread. They whine because they can.
Yes women can enjoy sex, very much so and we have no problem using a man for sex. I use to have a T-shirt that said, "I'm not Ms. Right, but I'll F**k you till she gets here." The reason there are friends with benefits type of relationships is because many woman are not patient enough to sit around celibate waiting for the right man to come along. The biggest problem we encounter in these type of relationships is stereotyping. Men are Studs and women are $luts. I was in a situation with a guy who was an excellent lover and our relationship started off good with a clear understanding that there was no commitment involved. However he could not get past his Redneck Catholic upbringing that lowered his opinion of unmarried sexual women. I am a hard working, very respected in my field, woman who can be fun and interesting. But I will not tolerate disrespect from a man who think I should not be allowed to enjoy the same type of healthy sex life he is. Having a lover does not make me less of a woman. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:23:24 PM | I like the honesty wildman, but I'm curious to know how you men not allow the emotional attachment?
How can you keep "tappin that ass" and not get attached? What do you do different?
I'm not a guy, but I can answer this. It's mostly wiring and personality, but for those who have the correct wiring, we just enjoy the act for the act. It's a skill of separation. I enjoy sex because I like the pleasure it gives ME. If I am involved, then I also take into consideration the fact that the other person should be satisfied also, but when you're not - it's not your problem, really.
The "does he like me/will this make him like me/will he respect me" bit just doesn't cross my mind. If I'm having sex, it's cause it's what I want - period. It doesn't relate to whether he calls, or likes me, or anything - it's just something that I either partake in or not depending on my interest. It's more like "do I like him/will I call him/do I respect him" than the other way around. I've had men call me and I've said, "meh - no thanks" - where they have mistaken the sex for me liking them and I was just curious as to what they were like in bed.
Again, it's wiring. Most men are wired to compartmentalize and most women are wired to attach when intimacy occurs, but there are men who attach and women who separate as well....you just hear less about it. The trick is to find out what you are wired for and be honest with yourself about it. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:26:30 PM | Not a woman, but figured I'd throw my two cents in:
From reading the posts here, the issue is not sex, it's the FEELINGS BEHIND sex. The motivation, if you will. Some ladies do indeed simply want a booty call, others something with more lasting emotional resonance.
I'm not a woman, but I'm in the latter camp (and am actually not gay nor impotent--everything works just fine and I find ladies hot). Not all guys are just horny dogs out to get their rocks off, but, for some a little lust is enough.
Lust is nice but it's short-lived (only lasts from stimulation to orgasm). A little warmth before, during and after sex is nice, calls throughout the week to say "how are you" or "just thinking of you" is great to keep the fires burning and to feel like someone cares. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:28:15 PM |
I'm not a guy, but I can answer this. It's mostly wiring and personality, but for those who have the correct wiring, we just enjoy the act for the act. It's a skill of separation. I enjoy sex because I like the pleasure it gives ME. If I am involved, then I also take into consideration the fact that the other person should be satisfied also, but when you're not - it's not your problem, really.
The "does he like me/will this make him like me/will he respect me" bit just doesn't cross my mind. If I'm having sex, it's cause it's what I want - period. It doesn't relate to whether he calls, or likes me, or anything - it's just something that I either partake in or not depending on my interest. It's more like "do I like him/will I call him/do I respect him" than the other way around. I've had men call me and I've said, "meh - no thanks" - where they have mistaken the sex for me liking them and I was just curious as to what they were like in bed.
You sound like a sexually liberated woman. Wish there were many more women like you. But I think it's more socialization and social expectation than anything. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:30:57 PM | I can NOT believe I am going to say this on this sight ...
I love sex ... I think about it 24/7 ... In my 20s (the 80s) my thoughts of sex were like a guys thoughts ... A f**K was a f**K ... I was told that I didnt have a heart .... I had that song Cold has Ice sung to me ... I was told that I was not a woman ... All of these things made me feel like there was something realy wrong with me and I was NOT even a human ... With that being said I am glad I am not that only woman that can enjoy sex and not act like its something more than that ...
Now days women are more willing to go for sex and enjoy it for what it is and I fit in better ... I am like that now but I do what I call Christian sex and I also let the guy know whats up with me ... It amazes me that I will tell a guy how I am and then afterwards he thinks I am suppose feel more than I did ...
I have to admit MAYBE I was a lil icey ... ok a lot icey .. but being told I wasnt a woman and I had no heart ... Huh ? ...
AnglFlyn
I am shocked I am saying what happened and how I felt ... It realy took a tole being told those things ... | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:40:21 PM | most women never ever have sex because they want to, they only do it after being seduced by some smooth talking guy. Is there ANY woman out there that actually love sex?. Are there Any woman out there who don't feel used and abused when a relationship ends in regards to sex?.
Are most men just evil seducers looking to seperate some damcel in distress from her Victoria Secrets?
 Baahh! another see Dyck and Jane run question, stop fooling your self of course women like sex. There is always going to be some one crying they got used, by the big bad wolf....every once in a while you even see a man cry about getting used..  (like jeezus whats his problem) makes me question his masculinity
when I hear some man crying he got used for sex. Women love sex or they wouldn't be giving it up how hard is that to understand? ya they get laid too and they cum and it felt good, it's not so much the sex aspect of the act it self it's just convenient to whine about it afterwards ...the only moaning he heard was when he was stuffing her like a thanks giving turkey...she didn't seem to mind it then.
The only reason you hear Women ranting about sex is when He turns out to be a dead lay or they realize they gave it up to the wrong man.
It is her choice that should be under scrutiny...not if she likes sex or not... | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:50:08 PM |
most women never ever have sex because they want to, they only do it after being seduced by some smooth talking guy.
Actually I rubbed her feet.
Is there ANY woman out there that actually love sex?
One woman said she saw colors exploding in her head at times when we had sex. I sort of took it she liked it.
Are most men just evil seducers looking to seperate some damcel in distress from her Victoria Secrets?
I only wish.
while most men are predators, just waiting on the right time to pounce.
I feel like Snoopy on his doghouse doing the vulture thing. Boy am I scary. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:58:32 PM | a T-shirt that said, "I'm not Ms. Right, but I'll F**k you till she gets here."  I love it - call the printers.
I will not tolerate disrespect from a man who think I should not be allowed to enjoy the same type of healthy sex life he is. Having a lover does not make me less of a woman. Again, Bravo. You're absolutely right in that society perceives women who enjoy sex, especially outside committed relationships, as sluts. Women can enjoy sex just as readily as men - and we don't all need an emotional relationship to do so. Let's call a spade a frekkin' shovel... women can and do enjoy sex.
Are there Any woman out there who don't feel used and abused when a relationship ends in regards to sex?.
Are most men just evil seducers looking to seperate some damcel in distress from her Victoria Secrets?
Yup and yup - sometimes, but don't kid yourself that we aren't willing.
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 5:59:44 PM | | Women hate sex with bad lovers, Wildly Maybe a man can get over the good-lover or not: I can't. It depends on the man, end of the story. Women that complain about being used are usually those not intelligent enough to discriminate between what feels right and what doesn't. So.....they regret and fault the man. Unless they are forced to act , they are deemed to be complacent. Never mind, some men do put women to sleep.....but saying that women hate sex? I don't think so. It's the man that they did not appreciate. After all, sex is not all there is.........meaning: to keep a woman a man needs to shine a little brighter than that, at least for me. Women nowadays are self sufficient, they don't need men for sex pleasure only. I could easily do without. | |
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| Do most women hate sex, and only do it to please men?
Posted: 1/3/2009 6:17:21 PM | Wildman, Wildman, Wildman...You love to stir the pot dont you?
Well, I for one will not go public on these forums with my sexual desires, competence, appetite or preferences. Why??? I dont want a bunch of alcoholics, workoholics, sexaholics, commitment-phobics, peeping toms, megalomaniacs, emotional fvckwits, or perverts emailing and IMing me constantly, thinking they are the answer to my dreams, without getting to know me on an intellectual, spiritual and emotional level. (Thank you Helen Fielding for the descriptives).
I am confident an intelligent man with the right approach and strong communication skills will be able to determine what he needs to know and whether or not our needs are compatible on an intimate level. And if he is unable to initiate the right discussion to determine that, well, I am more than capable of it myself. The last thing I am looking for is an assumptive mouse of a man. | |
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