| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/6/2009 12:24:53 PM | | My ex cheated on me, lies constantly and even will deny the lie once she is caught. She would leave the house at 10:30, 11:00 at night, and I would ask where she was off to. She would tell me that she was going for coffee. Ya ok. She would tell two different people lies about eachother so they would argue. When she was moving out she dumped water into my electronics and I caught her with a camera. I didnt show her the camera but she denied it, then about 30 mins later she called and said she didn't do it but she would pay me for the damages as long as we didn's go to court. After all this the truth finally came about her cheating. And I didn't even care. I wasn't angry or sad or upset. I just wanted her to leave me alone. I knew I was unhappy months before the break up, but is that wrong of me not to care?? | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:03:28 PM | | what is there to care about? you win when you stop caring. And You are eventually ganna find another gf and move on to better things, while she will never find happiness. Once a cheater,always a cheater. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:07:17 PM | Good for you....You sure dont need that mess. Truthfully though I dont think she will pay for the damages up on your stuff. I would take her to court make sure she does pay.
Im glad for you that you dont care and probably felt a since of relief when she left, thats
got to feel better than having your heart ripped out and stomped.
Look ahead better things will come, cant find Ms right hanging on to Ms wrong! | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/6/2009 1:46:31 PM | | I went out with a girl for 2 1/2 years. Everything was good until she got a new job in the last 6 months of our relationship. Her job is 90% guys, and 10% girls. In the last 4 months of the relationship, she would purposly try to get me mad so I would leave her but she would always end up apologizing. There was no reason to leave her, or so I thought. We eventually broke up and a week later found out she had a "new man", from work. Well, her new man isn't the smartest, because he changed his Facebook status to "in a relationship" approximately a month before me and her actually broke up while having a open profile. I contronted her and yelled for almost 3 hours. She took it cried knowing she was wrong, but she'll never feel the pain I felt...actually, still feeling. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/6/2009 11:29:25 PM |
I contronted her and yelled for almost 3 hours. Damn. 3 hours? Without repeating yourself?! | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/7/2009 12:33:52 PM | No, OP, it's not wrong of you to stop caring. It's probably a good sign that you have cut off your feelings for her in the wake of the pain she caused you.
Don't feel guilty; be glad. In the future, you'll know what signs to look for, but avoid painting all women with the same brush. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/7/2009 12:37:20 PM | | No it's not wrong for you to not care that you two broke up. You knew at an earlier time that you two were not meant to go on anymore. Seems like she's spiteful and no one needs that. I would have taken her to court regardless just to teach her a lesson. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/7/2009 4:48:20 PM | OP don't feel bad. I have a lying sack of sh*t for an ex myself. He stepped out, cheated AND he STILL LIES TO THIS DAY ABOUT IT!!!!
Well, the real karma comes in when the cheating ex has done to them what they did to you: The person my ex left me for, ultimately left him. He then tried to call and write me a letter asking me back to no avail.
So what comes around goes around. - and it WILL happen to your ex. It may take a bit of time, but it will happen.
So don't even give her a second or even a third thought, get your legal stuff handled, and possibly a restraining order of need be, and move on with your life, because in the end, when it does come to the ultimate judgement day, she has to answer to a being much much higher than us. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/7/2009 6:50:27 PM | | Well, let's see, let us add up your sweeties merits. Ummmmm, still trying to find something good here. Sorry, I've got nothing for you. Obviously you invested more into her then she did you so while your feeling all bad about her transgressions she has moved on to her next victim. If you want to feel sorry for anyone, feel sorry for him. | |
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| She cheated, and She got busted and took off
Posted: 1/14/2009 12:12:05 PM | | Dude I relly know what your talking about.It just happen to me lastweek and it rip me aned me to pice's.The day before she was telling me how much she BLA BLA BLA well you know but I busted her cheating on me then she broke it off with me saying that she dosent want to date at all.So she went home and at three am.I see her in this guys truck passing my house.She went strieght over to this guy's and did there thing and was thinking im sleeping when I was so stressed out smoking a cigg there`she was looking right at me and she keeps saying that wasent her cause everyone knows how twisted `that would be.She still say not her but it was.But you have to find the bad not the good in her to let her go.Like my thing on my matter is (That ****ing **** is a ****ing whore then call her up and her your going to get check out and she will ask why and then you say if you can bounce from guy to guy well it would be better if I did.And that will do 2 thing's.Now next time she will think about you and her self on catching something.But back to your pain.I know it hurts bad I mean hell I cryed my head off for a week and a half every day the women is so mean you should see her i mean trying to have my friend to have nothing to with me I mean the hole nin and I did not do a ****ing thing to her and that hurtbut Im done with it and you will to I know .I was there, | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/14/2009 1:04:18 PM | You will care eventually...just don't take her back. I'll also add you will also eventually be happy to be out of there, especially when you're with your new gal!
Go figure human emotion, who knows what is right and wrong. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/14/2009 1:10:34 PM | | It's not wrong that you don't care the relationship ended. You had been unhappy for months before it actually happened. More likely you had already removed yourself emotionally from the relationship. I'd imagine you probably felt relief. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/14/2009 2:54:50 PM | | Thanks to everyone for the messages. Yes I did feel relief! People have told me that they notice how happy I am now, and that I smile a lot more. It feels pretty good to be done with it all. It just has left me wanting to be single for a while, and I think that is what I need. Thanks again. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/14/2009 3:58:28 PM | | I can understand about wanting to take a little break from dating. The relationship that you had was very unhealthy. However, please do not compare all women to the one you just ended your relationship with. There are nice girls out that for you. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/14/2009 4:33:42 PM | | You are not wrong to care at all. If your instincts tels you something, Chances are it is true. The biggest success is to walk away and don't look back. Don't give her the best of you, otherwise she will not respect you at all. Leave her exactly where she is at and just say "congradulations!, you got what you wanted....have fun with your freedom." | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/14/2009 4:34:26 PM | Sometimes it takes little time after separation to start to feel the pain. Been there done that... you may find yourself hurting and remembering and funnily enough, the thoughts may be of good times and really, it's just a fantasy one makes up when missing someone and to try and feel better about it.
I'd take her to court asap. She's lied to you about everything else, she's obviously lying to you about this reimbursement, moreso now that you are no longer with her. Start the proceedings and do it officially and without any feelings of revenge.. try to be detached emotionally.
Get this out of the way so you can move on with your life. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/16/2009 5:24:48 AM | | Count your blessings she is gone and don't open the door to her again. | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/16/2009 5:36:40 AM | | I'm with WindF - you should feel like you've dodged a bullet. Heal up, take care of you for a while, and be gentle on yourself. Take it day by day...you'll be okay! | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/16/2009 7:50:57 AM | ...yelled at her for 3 hours?
Well that's about as stupid as all hell...
Waste of time... Makes throat sore... Feeds your negative energy even more into a frenzy...
That b*tch didn't waste any time cheatin' on your ass - don't waste your time yelling at her... So what if it makes her cry - woopidity doo... After you're done yelling like a friggin' banshee - and she needs to be comforted - where do you think she's gonna go??? Gonna yell at her again?
Save your damn voice for a concert or a ballgame next time - just take a deep breath - say "NOTHING" - because there is nothing you can say that is going to make things better or change what happened...
Angry? Hurt? Yeah no sh*t... Use that energy to prepare yourself for a new journey and forget about that one - because it's over now... | |
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| She cheated, and I left.
Posted: 1/17/2009 6:27:32 AM | I agree with WindF and Forum Phantom. This lady has some real issues! Count your blessings and consider yourself lucky. There is no telling what this person is capable of doing. Remember the movie Fatal Attraction? Yikes!
I was once in a relationship similar to yours. The guy slashed the tires on my car when I tried to break it off with him. When find yourself in a relationship with a cruel, deceitful, and destuctive person, it does tend to make you gun shy.
There is nothing wrong with you wanting to take a break from the dating scene for awhile. It takes time to work through the emotions, anger, and feelings of distrust that you are left with. You don't want to carry these negative feelings in to your next relationship. It's best to take time out and heal.
The best of luck to you.
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