| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 6:51:06 PM | I'm 22 and most of the women I meet, have chemistry with are drama queens who have a new crisis each week and sometimes even just one crisis that never gets resolved.
I met someone a few months ago, Issabelle, at the gym whom I initially found interesting mainly because she came on to me so hot and heavily but over time, began to bore me to death because 90% of what she said was about her problems and she never said anything of any substance. I tried switching the subject to politics, religion, movies or even something about MY crisis and she proved time and again that she lived in a very small and trivial world. It is boring to listen to people's problems all the time and the only reason men listen to it for prolonged periods is for sex and the possibility of more sex, which she doesn't offer and why I've stopped listening.
With six billion people on the planet, how much do we care about the crisis of a single individual? What about the rest of us?
When I left high school, I had outgrown this "me first" phase so at what age do others grow out of it? | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 6:58:43 PM |
the only reason men listen to it for prolonged periods is for sex and the possibility of more sex
C'mon--most men listen to the politics, religion, movies, etc., for the same reason.
sex and the possibility of more sex, which she doesn't offer and why I've stopped listening.
Uh huh--so if she had put out, you'd still be listening and not on here complaining. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 7:39:31 PM |
A couple of months ago, I met a 20 year old named Issabelle at the gym during swimming. She comes onto me VERY hot and heavy, with sex on the mind, while telling me about how she fights with her fiance, whom I have never seen.
I had a feeling that I am helping her cheat but said to hell with it. Am I headed down a dangerous path?
Liam,
I pulled this from your history, I think it's from back in October. My suggestion is that you found yourself in this situation of being the "drama" dumpster because you said, "to hell with it" and went down the dangerous path. I suggest you stay away from women like Issabelle. Trying to switch the subject to politics, religion, or other topics is not going to help if you've made the choice to enter a certain type of woman's "very small and trivial world." It smacks of being in the "me first" phase.
But, also keeping in mind that I'm willing to say that I could be wrong here. This is just what it looks like to me from your prior post. Maybe some clarification would help. Just my opinion. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 7:58:44 PM | | ^^ Niiiice research skills! Talk about service... not just some half-assed forum response, you put crazy effort into that! Nicely done. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 9:21:33 PM | | OP - part of it is just the age... a fair amount of women between the ages of 14 and 26 are drama queens. It's what they thrive on.. it's what drives them... it keeps their lives as exciting as the soaps they religiously watch every day. At some point, they get tired of it and realize how exhausting it is and grow up. Now I'm not saying EVERY woman is like this.... not by a long shot. But a fair amount of them,... yes. And unfortunately not EVERY woman will outgrow this self-centered, high drama, high intensity lifestyle. I know people like this in their late 30's and I avoid them like the plague because they are simply exhausting to be around. Sounds like you did the right thing by walking away. So what..she's hot... so are half the women out there. Keep looking and find one who isn't so self absorbed. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 9:30:29 PM | Why is that when some guys find themselves attracting a particular type of woman it must be the women who are at fault for being the way they are? Or it must mean MANY women are like this?
OP, Look into yourself as YOU are the one attracting such individuals. Why do you find you have chemistry with such women? Because in this YOU are the common denominator.
I have no clue of what age others grow out of that phase you speak of, my guess would be it varies. Many men are like this too, I've come across many who are my age and older. Thankfully, haven't attracted them though. I hope I don't start to either, lol. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 9:47:24 PM | You are still on the "me first", just that the "me first" in you comes out in your need to have sex. Me me me. Sex sex sex. Sorry, but you're as bad as she is.
If you're only with someone based on their sexual appeal/aggressiveness, don't expect it to last long. Had you chosen someone with more substance in the first place, you might listen to their problems AND be able to have good conversations about all those topics.
Maybe *you* need to grow up in terms of what you're looking for. The woman who comes on to you the hardest or the one who can you see yourself being friends and good conversationalists with, as well as lovers.
You KNEW she was drama, yet you chose sex. Doh. Face the consequences like a man. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 10:08:00 PM | I remember that thread about the woman with the boyfriend....pretty much EVERYONE told him it was a BAD IDEA and so he ignored us all and comes back whining....
....so now we know WHO the dramatic one is. Go pick up your Oscar, OP.... | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/10/2009 10:55:53 PM | I remember that thread as well!
So... the OP put himself and his penis first, and expects that someone who is selfish enough to dump the person she was committed to, in order to do him, will suddenly be the paragon of virtue and a scintillating seat of intellect, well versed on current events and bristling with altruistic features? Is he obtuse? Or merely delusional?
Time to sit down and realize that you and your bad choices are the problem and try to fix them, making better choices that are guided by your "big head" and not the little one... or you can wallow in misery making bad choices until you are bitter and hateful.
You can either try to live as an example, or you can serve as a horrible warning to others. Your pick. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 12:23:55 AM | First, I must also commend your research. 
You're right. I did continue seeing her because I have very little willpower when it comes to women coming on to me, no matter their marital status. And I did meet her fiance for one night and I thought he was a nice guy but quite frankly, a dumbass as well as the rest of their company.
She hasn't been at the gym since November though and I haven't seen her or been terribly excited to see her or even give her a call, well since I met her fiance. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 1:14:18 AM | | "Their company", they were interested in you being apart of "their company" you called "dumbasses", so what does that make you? I'm not name calling but trying to get you to see that you need to make changes with YOU. If you're unhappy with the people you attract. There is a reason you're attracting these people. Gain some willpower, girls that don't have "issues" won't date a guy with no willpower. Gain some control over your urges, stop falling for anybody and everybody who "comes onto" you. Get some self respect and it would do you some good to get some for others as well. If a married man "came onto" me you better believe he'd get an earful of what an idiot he is and how I'm too good for him and so is his wife. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 2:47:10 AM | Some women love the attention that drama brings. There are women out there who create drama just to be in the "spotlight". But take note that those women don't necessarily have a broad audience surrounding them.
As you said, you grew out of the "me phase" in high school. Most women do by that time; however, there are those select few who choose to hang on to the "me phase" for other substantial reasons. Some women may not choose to hang on to that phase and Drama just seems to find its way into their lives (so they say).
Everyone has drama in their lives, though it's not the same drama we see on stage or on T.V. It's more or less, "OMG that blond girl looked at my boyfriend!" (No offense to blonds). Women are threatened by anyone and anything that will interrupt their routine. By this I mean, relationship, career, and home life. Therefore, some women tend to make a bigger deal out of a situation to thwart off any threats that may interrupt their daily lives.
This is just my perspective not to be taken to heart. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:13:51 AM | I think a lot of women chatter on about their issues because they are nervous with a new person. It can be that simple.
Women also talk a lot with other women about things that are on their mind. They may be out of the habit of talking with men or have never learned. There is a certain style that women use when conversing and they often mix up conversation styles with men and women.
Too, I think some women are trying to gauge how compassionate and caring you will be in a relationship. They try to find out how you will treat them in the future.
There is, in truth, a certain level of 'woman talk' that a man actually accepts in a relationship. Women and men never completely adopt either one or the other conversation style to talk to each other. Conversations always have a certain tension between different styles of communication, even between two women or between to men.
Additionally, you may have to accept that the woman simply is trying to push you away, LOL! Some women do this. They talk about their own stuff in hopes the man will get bored and go away. It's possible you may not be quite as interesting and appealing as you think ;) | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:29:33 AM | Okay ..turn on any single dating show on tv. You know what I mean ..the Rock of love, The bachelor ..you name it.
Now ..watch the sorts of girls that the men pick although keep in mind some is obviously for ratings but still.
The really quiet girl who might have a ton to offer but doesn't flounce it around in a blatant manner is always the first to go. The ones with a little bit of drama usually stay. The half naked supposedly "hot girls" who are catty and ****y and lack a few brain cells are usually the ones kept around till the end.
Now flash forward ....and find the guy asking why he only gets the hot girls who are catty and ****y and can't discuss current events .....
hmm ..nope ..no idea .. | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:55:55 AM |
You're right. I did continue seeing her because I have very little willpower when it comes to women coming on to me, no matter their marital status. OK, so we have established that you have no integrity or an iota of self control. Time to find some values. Should you ever choose to marry or live in a committed relationship, will this behavior continue?
And I did meet her fiance for one night and I thought he was a nice guy but quite frankly, a dumbass as well as the rest of their company. Well, look at who she picked, and how you think he is a dumbass... then get a mirror.
From over here, it does not look as if he was the only dumbass she has chosen. Apparently she is seeking her own level.
She not only comes on to men when she is marrying another, but sees someone behind his back. Find the Crayolas and color me stunned.
How about you not paint an entire gender with your bad attitude, when you are holding the Academy Award? | |
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| Why are many women I meet so dramatic?
Posted: 1/11/2009 10:50:38 AM | First question - only time will tell. Looking at the world around me, I have had less and less faith in committed relationships and due to, among other things, my parents' divorce, I believe marriage, maybe even monogymy in general, is an absolute sham.
So no, I wouldn't cheat because I don't believe in committing to one person in the first place.
Secondly, I knew early on she wasn't right for me so I looked around for other women to go out with while just keeping her as a "friend". I had planned to go to Six Flags with someone on Halloween - first there was Jessica in my Graphics class - who already had a boyfriend, then there was an 18-year-old Republican at the gym, she couldn't make it, then Issabelle tried to hook me up on a blind date with her friend Diana, who said she'd be there on the phone but just didn't show up. | |
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