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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:07:16 PM | i met this guy on here, he is funny, gorgeous, and did i sayfunny...............all he wanted was friendship and sex....we met had thoe most awesome time, he said he wasnt ready for a relationship...he texted me friday ad sdaid he met someone else and really likes her....yes i live 3 hours from him, and this girl lives in his town.....why did he say he wasnt ready but then met someone else and doesnt want to see me anymore but wants to be my friend,,,im so hurt | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:10:30 PM | perhaps you should edit before you post.
Well sorry girl, long distance relations are not easy. Especially if you have no history of dating prior.
But it's like my uncle says.. Whenever one slips away, theres another swimming around you. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:12:32 PM | | Sounds like he just didn't want to deal with the distance, or liked you but not enough to drive the distance, or both. It happens. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:12:34 PM | Because he wasn't ready for a relationship...with you.
Be happy that he was honest upfront and told you he only wanted sex and friendship with you. He sounds like a nice guy.
Edit: Christ on a bike, I thought you must be a teenager, then I checked and you're *38*?! Babe, the time for you to work this stuff out has long since passed. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:15:50 PM | Msg~1...all he wanted was friendship and sex....
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Am I missing something, didnt you answer your own question?
He wasnt ready with YOU...
Im really not trying to be harsh, but you are 38 y.o. Where have you been for the last 38 years? | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:16:05 PM | | this is not a self pity forum, yes i should have spelled check was in a hurry to get it out, sorry....lol.......just wanting to know why men do the things they do ya know, he says im great in everything, then goes off and meets someone else, im just lost, is it the distance he wont say, all he said to me is he wasnt ready emotionally but finds someone else anyways | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:16:34 PM |
why did he say he wasnt ready but then met someone else and doesnt want to see me anymore but wants to be my friend,,,im so hurt
he just wants to keep you on the back burner, tell him you have enough friends and drop him like a bad habbit. Do we have to spell it out for you?? he's a player. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:18:28 PM | He's not a player, he never lied to her. He told her he only wanted SEX and FRIENDSHIP from her. He wasn't ready for a relationship...with HER. He doesn't even want to keep her "on the back burner," he NOW told her he only wants to be FRIENDS with her, nothing more.
That does NOT make a guy a "player."
Edit: VVVV She may be "hot" but she's pretty clueless and immature. Of course, that might not matter to some men. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:18:31 PM | youre hot.. youre in the "mature" woman stage...
you should have an easy time with guys. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:21:02 PM | There's nothing wrong with you. But if the guy said he only wanted sex & friendship, then perhaps, if that wasn't your goal, you should not have gotten involved to whatever depth that you did. At least he seemed as if he was honest about it up front. It truly may have been the distance thing from the git-go.
Next time, make yur expectations guide you, rather than his. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:21:32 PM |
He's not a player, he never lied to her. He told her he only wanted SEX and FRIENDSHIP from her. He wasn't ready for a relationship...with HER. He doesn't even want to keep her "on the back burner," he NOW told her he only wants to be FRIENDS with her, nothing more.
That does NOT make a guy a "player."
I know twice as much as you do about players...I use to be one...and you can take that to the bank.....
the guy is a PLAYA!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:24:24 PM | | think thats happened to nearly everyone, dont know why people do it, dont feel bad about it chickie, some men are just that why xx | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:24:44 PM |
He's not a player, he never lied to her. He told her he only wanted SEX and FRIENDSHIP from her. He wasn't ready for a relationship...with HER. He doesn't even want to keep her "on the back burner," he NOW told her he only wants to be FRIENDS with her, nothing more.
That does NOT make a guy a "player."
Absolutely. He was upfront about everything.
She was hoping he change his mind. He didn't. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 2:25:39 PM | I'd say the question isn't 'What's wrong with you,' but rather 'what's wrong with him?'
Telling you one thing and acting another way entirely shows that you were dealing with a dishonest guy. And know what? You can do better.
Write him off & move on.
Good luck to you! | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 3:12:39 PM | He's tired of making out on the telephone, cuz your so far away from him.. I love that song.... | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 3:20:38 PM | There is nothing wrong with you.
You are gorgeous. He was honest- he is not ready for
a relationship- with you. Thats all.
The girl that lives close- well she can satisfy his need for friendship and
sex. You, well you are three hours away. He wont be able to explain
to his wife why he was away for so long, she is more convenient.
Get it? Good- not you honey. Him. Get it out of your head.
Handsome, and funny- no, stupid and slimy.
Usually and from experience if a Man is into you and all the right
variables are in place like he is indeed single- he will move moutains.
The only time distance like three hours is usually a problem is because
he has something else going on. There are weekends and there are weekends
without the kids.
Am I reading into it- probably but then again, probably not. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 3:36:47 PM |
all he wanted was friendship and sex....we met had thoe most awesome time, he said he wasnt ready for a relationship..
My interpretation of this post, is that they met, had sex on that first date and now he's not interested-for whatever reason. Her post reads as if she feels that all he wanted was friendship and sex....but when she said quoted what he said, it was that he wasn't ready for a relationship. So if in deed they did have sex on that first date, miscommunication was the problem or he is indeed, a player.
I agree with you curlygrl...one of my first thoughts was that he was married or had a gf already.
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Posted: 1/11/2009 3:39:12 PM | Bingo UrsulaMajor................ exactly
Omeeshuwa, why would you think something is wrong with youbecause some guy doesnt want a relationship with you?? Good Lord....... you do know were not everyone cup of tea so to speak, instead of feeling sorry for yourself get back on the horse and rope someone other cowboy. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 4:35:03 PM | Sounds like you went into it knowing he just wanted sex and friendship.
Annnd... that's what you got.
The only thing "wrong" is that you expected more. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 4:42:47 PM | He probably wanted a woman to screw that was closer by so he could get it more.
Why would he hassle with a 3 hour commute when he found someone to boink on a regular basis right around the corner. He is only looking for sex, and probably a constant supply. I doubt if he is that fussy as to who he is gettin it from as long as he is gettin alot. No big loss. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 5:04:08 PM | | There is nothing wrong with you at all...you are gorgeous for a start and seem really sincere and genuine, there are just guys like that, strange I know so dont even bother trying to understand it.....because at the end of the day there are guys who are having thae same probs with women and who are just dying to meet someone just like you....Gil | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 10:12:39 PM | He got what he wanted and he's done. When a man tells me that is all he wants from me, I believe him and leave him alone. I do believe in relationship karma. Maybe he'll do the same to the next one and maybe he'll be the one it is done to. I don't know or care for sure since I won't be around. I suppose you can wait it out for round 2 if you really want more of the same hump and dump. And it looks like he is lazy too.
There's nothing wrong with you. You can't change other people. | |
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Posted: 1/11/2009 10:43:58 PM | And does that mean that when you get what you wanted, you are done and the Karma gods will bite your ass?.........
Why do we make more of all of this than it is? Life happens, and you tried, he tried, and guess what.......you live in a place that does not work as much as someone that lives closer......
I have had women state that I am here, and if you want me, come here and get me, but would not even consider doing the same for me. I had one woman state to me that she very rarely comes to my side of town or area, and even though interested, it would have to be me to make it happen.
I will miss her....... 
Just my opinion......   | |
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Posted: 1/12/2009 7:10:35 AM | | I agree with Ursula Major; but i also think we can be nice to others.. | |
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