| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:23:23 PM | I wonder how many people actually read the forum links on our home pages. But being such a forum junkie I always figured that anyone could simply follow the links and get to know my thought processes.
I get mail that tells me that forum users agree with my opinions and appreciate my comments far more often than I get negative comments about my posts in the forums. However lately the dating aspects on this site have dropped off. Maybe there is a connection, maybe not.
Do we just come across as opinionated and are people that aren't in the forums intimidated by us?
Just a thought.
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:26:21 PM | | OP, never really thought about it. If it affects my dating by having someone not contact me or not want to date me, so be it. I guess I would think of that as a good thing since my comments are always consistent with me from one posting to another. Also, not everyone is going to like us... forums or not.... | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:35:52 PM | I agree with *catkin*.
If it affects who contacts me or they are intimidated by the postings or the profile then I wouldn't want to date them.......*shrugs*
Some read the links at the bottom of our profiles and some don't.
Most of the people around where I live, apparently don't read much..... period....so......  | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:41:34 PM | People that are intimidated by my forum posts, or put off by em are not my type anyway, and it saves me time as they don't contact me.
I find that excellent as a screening tool. I'd rather they know what they need to right away, I'd hate for them to have half the story. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 6:42:23 PM | I am who I am. Think of it this way... if they can read ahead and decide that they don't like the way you think based on your forum postings... isn't that in a way a good thing? It means that you aren't wasting your time with someone who is not compatible.
Personally, I think I'd be great if we could get everyone to participate in the forums. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 7:39:46 PM | | in my experience, i'd have to say that those who use the site for only dating, mostly go by one's photos, and maybe read the profile. the vast majority do not click on your forum posts. frankly, i find that mystifying. but, while i've dated numerous guys off of pof, nary a one has ever commented on my forum usage or posts i've made. go figure... | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 7:52:48 PM | I don't know if the forums affect much of anything. It's true, many will never bother to look at your posting history. Being a curious person, I always wonder why anyone would pass up the opportunity to get a better insight into someone they think they might be interested in! Maybe forum junkies are a different breed. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:49:40 PM | Everything I am in my forum posts, I am a little "more of" in real life.
So if someone finds me too liberal/too opinionated/too long winded/or just plain crazy on here, then I would surely drive them nuts (or to drink themselves in a stupor every night) in real life :)
JMO | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:51:39 PM | Seems that we are all in an agreement that if our opinions in the forums bother perspective dates than so be it and we are better off. I also agree with the last 2 posts that most non forum users most likely don't even view the forum history.
Funny thing I see is getting mail from people that have read my forum posts that have no post historys but that is off topic.
Thanks,
J Mac | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 8:55:21 PM | All the people who I've dated or really dug have read my forum posts. Heck, if you don't get or appreciate my stupidity here, you'll HATE it in real life. I don't act online any different than I do in real life. The only difference in real life is that I use funny voices.
But, yeah. It certainly effects who I choose to meet.. let alone the amount of email I get. I LOVE fan mail!  | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:05:28 PM | The guys I have dated off of here are mixed as far as reading my posts, but I don't recall any of them actually posting themselves. The guys that have read my posts have told me pretty much they were surprised that I have such an open view of sex. So I guess I am kind of glad they did read my posts and knew that I am totally human.
Now those that read my posts aren't always people that I date, so I have gotten emails both good and bad about what I post. It makes for interesting discussion or emails some times. Sometimes...block city | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:16:19 PM | | I's have to say it does affect some. I also wish I could read some posts about some of the women I have thought about contacting. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:38:55 PM | I guess I wouldn't really know seeing how the one's that didn't like what they saw never contacted me!
Yet I'm still alive and well............ They have never built a monument to a critic! | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:40:20 PM | | Well...I haven't been getting any contacts before posting to forums, nor are any of the women that I have attempted to contact answering my e-mails...so I would have to say that it has not affected my dating here on POF at all | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 9:49:15 PM | I'm not sure how it affects my dating - no one I've actually been out with has mentioned my posts, though I'm sure they've read them.
I do love getting a nice message saying, "I love what you have to say. You're incredibly intelligent."
It's a nice change from "U R hott." And there's no pressure because they're always 1,000,000 miles away!
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:01:31 PM | I doubt one has anything to do with the other in most cases. Although, there are likely rare cases of those that fell in love with each other forum post and acted on it.
I have yet to go on a date from someone I met on POF that even knew the forum existed or was inclined to check it out. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:08:48 PM | | Yep, I've had pretty much the same experience as msg. 17. I mention the forum and they usually say "huh?", or " I don't go for that kind of stuff". | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:22:57 PM | I've had some men tell me they really like my forum posts, but none that have told me they didn't like them. I'd rather avoid the negative ones anyway.
I agree that if it filters someone that vastly disagrees with things I have to say, it saves us both time in the end. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/11/2009 11:54:35 PM | | I hope its not but i think it may though. It actually makes me be more "picky" with the subjects i reply to as it shows up in my profile what i have talked about. I don't want to post on a subject that may seem a bit odd and have someone read it and think no way, what a freak! and loose interest before even getting to know me. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:42:52 AM | Yeah its done wonders for me. hehehe I get all kinds of E-mails telling me what a nice gentleman I am. I never knew I was popular with the ladies. hehehe I wish I had more time in my life to see them all. Theres just not enough days in a month. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 12:45:07 AM | | I find many people dont read the profiles anyway and just look at the pix!! I so far have met anyone, friends or otherwise! If they don''t like what i write then most likely they arnt the kind of bloke id get on with anyway! | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 1:24:27 AM | I noticed since I post in forums, I'm viewed by many people from out of state. I'm sure they definitely get interested in the person ( positively or negatively) after they read some of their postings.
Now, I don't get contact messages, but then I have on my profile that I'm not dating since I found what I was looking for. or maybe since Im out of state, they r just not interested.
PS I'm open for genuine and enriching friendship anytime. | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 1:30:45 AM | Nope no one on this site is interested in dating me out of state in sates read the forums or not.
I did have one gentleman from out of state say he liked some of the funny things I wrote . | |
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| Forum usage effecting your dating?
Posted: 1/12/2009 6:22:26 AM | I find it interesting that once in a while, I'll get an e-mail out of the blue from a perfect stranger, just commenting on something I've posted on the forums. I doubt that it would affect my dating...but then again, I put more effort into the forums right now anyways, so it's all good. 
I do have to touch on something that has already been mentioned though....if you're interested in someone, and you see they post on the forums, what better way to get some insight into their personality and emotional side? I'd say that's pretty slick.  | |
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