| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/12/2009 2:23:08 PM | I've been here for a couple of months and I've gotten quite a few replies from various types of men, some I was not interested in, some that were clearly looking for sex. Others married, et cetera. Nothing usual, to me, since I know they are both good guys and jerks on here.
What concerns me though is the number of men I get who give me the vibe of being controlling or domineering.
I've had this happened a number of times where a person asks me how would I like to proceed (calling, email or IM) or what would I like to do, and when I state a preference either out right tell me my request is ridiculous or unfair or get really nasty.
It's confusing because in asking they will be very gracious in saying how they're okay with whatever I decide.
I've had a guy ask me to stop responding to his emails in a certain way 'cause I'm making him uncomfortable. (I was just addressing what he said, like he said I like swimming, and I responded he had one over me because I couldn't swim at all). He said I was making him feel like he had to watch what he said to me (WTF?)
I've had a guy tell me I was playing games 'cause I didn't want to call him after one email.
Usually, it is with the calling thing -- they'll tell me let's get to know each other, however you want to do it, here's my number and I'll say I like to talk a little bit before calling, tell me a bit about yourself and like immediately they'll either try to change my mind or get upset.
So is there something in my photographs or profile that says "easy" or "pushover" -- I am looking for a long term relationship, so what gives?
I know I look young for my age, and in person, people always tell me I look like an innocent, little girl --- hmph! That's all well and good as long as guys are not trying to Big Daddy me! | |
|
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/12/2009 2:56:07 PM | I had to read your profile a couple times. But when I read it I was not really WOW'ed! by it. It seems lacking in excitement. Maybe a re-write it with some of your interests/passions in there.
But I would replace a couple pictures with with you doing some of your interests. Dancing would be good or anything outdoors. Of course I'm bias on the outdoor pictures.
Good Luck! | |
|
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/12/2009 3:16:39 PM | Well, I think the issues probably stem from writing:
You should be 100% a man! I have strong personality and I need a person who is secure enough in themselves to let me be me.
... and ...
Here's a tip: IF you inspire me, if you challenge me,
It doesn't draw in psychos or anything, don't get me wrong. Maybe put in there that you want a guy who's confident, but not controlling. I think in your profile it says the opposite of you being a pushover -- it says you have a strong personality, be '100% man' and want a guy to challenge you. A guy bleeding alpha-male qualities will hone in on that. Just emphasize that you don't want a controlling guy, I think that should be fine, right? | |
|
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/12/2009 3:54:17 PM | Don't hate the psychos, hate the psycho-therapists!
Psychos have some advantages:
They are committed (in more ways than one)
If you are ever out real late at night and wonder what time it is, just turn to the one bush 100 yards off behind you to the right with the binoculars glimmering and tap your wrist twice indicating the time and they will contact you immediately with the regional time and the time in five other major cities.
You can save money when talking to them on your cell phone since all their calls will be incoming on your end.
They are such good listeners. While you're sleeping they will put all that you told them in their journal.
You don't have too worry about your pictures with Psychos. They have already made a picture out of you from parts out of old newspapers and magazines.
Talk about an open relationship! You can date any other guy you want (once, then they disappear, strangely)... and the Psycho will still LoVe YoU! | |
|
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/12/2009 6:33:00 PM | What I get out of that profile is that she has a very strong personality and views and will not budge from them in any way, that she's domineering and that she's going to dictate 100 percent any relationship she's in. Not that those things are all bad, but they certainly aren't for me.
Another thing that puts me off is that she refers to herself as "hot" in her headline. Referring to yourself as such is so NOT hot. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Seriously.
The profile is fine as is, aside from the "hot" thing and her intransigence on pretty much having her way or the highway.
As for her complaints, here and elsewhere on the boards, every woman here deals with that stuff. But it's always so much more dramatic in her case. | |
|
| |
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:11:43 AM | Hey Woman, 
High fives on your profile! I think it is intelligent, well worded, insightful, and descriptive. You say very much of yourself and what you are looking for, and that is not always the case in here.
As for the Phycho's... well I suppose we all (women and men) get those, weeding them out is just part of the process.
Just take your time, and I think you will find who you are looking for.
And ignore that mcguffin reply... he does not know what he is talking about! I am straight but I think you are beautiful and definately hot!
CHEERS AND GOOD LUCK!!  | |
|
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/13/2009 12:17:27 AM | Found a spelling mistake up at the top of the page where you have:
Patiences IS a Virtue?
Patience IS a Virtue? would be the correct way, unless that is not what you are gunning for with the heading. | |
|
| |
| |
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/13/2009 1:59:25 AM | Dating sites are breeding grounds for the socially awkward... to put it lightly.
Everyone is messaged by weirdos on here.
Even weirdos are messaged by other weirdos.
Just be very happy that they showed their true colours (bossy in this case) in emails before you met them and they were rude or weird in person.
Use your delete and block buttons as necessary and you'll do fine.
In the future, maybe you'll even be able to pick these people out by reading their profile and you won't even get to the email stage AND you'll have time for the better guys.
 | |
|
| |
| Does something in my profile say: PYSCHO STOP HERE?
Posted: 1/13/2009 11:34:13 AM | Ameera, I read your profile and as a man, what I come away with is that you are head strong, assertive, self oriented woman. Personally, I like those qualities. A lot of men won’t and it’s a good weeding tool for those who don’t have patients.
It was a little repetitive on some basic ideas and the only thing that I think is missing is icing on the cake. I get the flavor of the guarded, self assured woman, but I don’t see the sweetness very much. While I have seen your edge by your forum post, I have also seen your softer side. The only thing I would add would be a little bit of that. No one wants to go into a meeting feeling like they have to prove themselves to a guard.
JMHO, take it for what it’s worth. I liked it though. | |
|
| |
Home
login 
