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Posted: 1/13/2009 2:55:41 PM | Have a question about women viewing profiles.
Since a lot of women I've ran into on this site don't make the "first move" as in sending the first email. I was wondering if women ever look at a guys profile hoping that he'll see that she's viewed him and hope he'll send the first email? Or am I just grasping at straws? | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 2:57:44 PM | Oh, it's entirely possible. Though usually when I see that someone has checked out my profile but not messaged me, I assume that he wasn't interested in what he read/saw.
I think it's really more to do with the mass surplus of men on the site, so women can afford to be lazy. It also goes along with how men really are quite SOL in today's society due to the mass spread of "feminism to the extreme."
Anyways, all the best.
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Posted: 1/13/2009 3:00:31 PM | Er...for me..that's grasping at straws..
You see a tiny teeny pic and you can't see which country they live in, whether they are single or with someone, their reason for being here doesn't show in that teeny pic...nothing basically..
So...nope..they took a look..and it happens more if you post..but only because they want to see the person behind the posting.
Don't sweat the small stuff..
If they add you to favourites..then you can ask why they added you..but it could be any number of reasons including that they want to remember you because they don;t like you...I've had that as a reason why someone added me before now..  | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 3:00:55 PM | | We look at profiles for the same reason men do, to see what is out there. If someone captures my atttention then I'll email him....but I view many profiles just because the photo in the small version looked interesting (like cute pet, or something unusual) not because i'm interested...after all until we look at the photos AND read the profile how would we know...and that requires a view don't you think. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 3:40:42 PM | I'll weigh in. A man's perspective. I get a lot of views. From the start, I knew it was just curiosity. I know what I look like and I know how my image presents. I acknowledge the same on my profile.
The picture is intentional and calculated. Like my posts. Like every early interaction I have on this site.
Favorites? Could indicate interest. Maybe. Parlaying any sort of interest from a woman into something more substantial is a traverse...I have been on this site a year. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 3:56:35 PM | I also think you're grasping at straws. How can one tell if there would be any potential interest without viewing the profile? A view doesn't always equate interest. However, if after you have viewed her profile, why not send an introductory note? I'd advise against something along the lines of "Hi, I noticed you viewed my profile, and didn't email me, why not?" however.
This is the reason I have that feature disabled, no one can see that I've viewed them. It's pretty annoying to get emails demanding to know why a woman didn't contact a man after looking at his profile.
On the flipside, I never click the 'who's viewed me link' and even if I did, I would never presume to think that meant there was an interest on a man's part. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 4:39:19 PM | You're grasping at straws IMO...a view is just that, a view...it means nothing.
You have no choice but to view and open a profile in order to find out anything about the person, including their age, location, marital/smoking status, interests, etc.
How would I even know whether or not I'm interested in someone without opening their profile to see if we're even remotely compatible?
Plus, I view and read a lot of profiles belonging to my fellow forum posters, both men and women alike, because I like to know where they (and their posts) are coming from.
So no, a view doesn't mean anything in and by itself - hence why I'm on stealth mode.
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Posted: 1/13/2009 4:45:58 PM | That's so cute!!!
Man, as they've been saying, people look at profiles for a variety of reasons. Okay, PERHAPS there might be a few people out there who are so meek and of high school mentality that they hope against hope the guy will JUST KNOW she wants to be contacted by him. But, no, I doubt that's going on too much, really.
Just send a gal a pick of your junk. They like that. DANCING BANANA!!!!  | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 8:08:12 PM |
I think it's really more to do with the mass surplus of men on the site, so women can afford to be lazy. It also goes along with how men really are quite SOL in today's society due to the mass spread of "feminism to the extreme."
And that is why so many men in our society have simply never learned how to be a man. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 11:15:31 PM | | I'll grasp anything a woman wants to dangle in front of me, except a hot electrical cord. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 11:35:59 PM | | If this was dating site for people in middle school....it would be "the way" things are done. Here not so much. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 1:17:28 AM |
If this was dating site for people in middle school....it would be "the way" things are done.
Lol, he could send her an email saying "If you like me, check this box." | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 1:49:59 AM | | If someone has viewed my profile but not sent a message I take it to mean they aren't interested, they didn't like what they saw or read. Now if someone adds me as a favourite but hasn't messaged, I guess this could mean they are shy, hoping that I'll see this and make first contact, or they have tagged me so to speak to come back to later and write a message. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 9:58:56 AM | When I'm interested in someone whether it be online (which I'm here for the forums, so not really lookin) or in person, I put the ball in their court.
So online, I would send them an email. I thought they were handsome and liked what they had to say on their page about them. So I will send an email.
In person, I gradually flirt and get to know them. I think they are handsome and I like them as a person. So I will give them my information if it leads to that.
Point is, if I'm interested I will make it easier or somewhat easier on the man so he'll know I'm interested in getting to know him.
However, like for you probably just because I'm initially interested in sending you an email or flirting with you in person doesn't mean that interest will last.
He won't have to guess too much or grasp at straws.
Hoping gets you no where in the dating world. Stupid me though, I'm still hoping Brad Pitt finds me someday. And while we're on the subject of hope, I'm still hoping Brooks and Dunn want me in their next video.
I was wondering if women ever look at a guys profile hoping that he'll see that she's viewed him and hope he'll send the first email?
Unfortunately I bet some do. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:09:03 AM | | No! It would be a waste of my time to search the profiles of guys. They will all contact me anyway if they think they have any chance. And, besides, there are way too many guys for me to take the time to look at their profiles. Let the guys do the searching. There are few girls on POF so it doesn't take them long. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:13:16 AM | | Yes, it's grasping at straws with me. I will either add someone to my favs (usually to go back and read more thoroughly later) or contact them directly if interested. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:19:27 AM | | It's definitely possible. But you want to keep in mind that people look at A LOT of profiles and the majority are going to be profiles they pass without messaging due to not being interested. So you don't want to assume someone was interested just because they viewed you. If YOU'RE interested whether they viewed you or not, message them. It's really the only way to find out if there is interest and if something can get going. A lot of people have their profiles set so people who they view can't see that they viewed them. But some dOn't know or don't care about The feature. So they leave it as is. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 9:00:30 PM |
Let the guys do the searching. There are few girls on POF so it doesn't take them long.
Obviously you've NEVER played 52-card pick-up. It gets dull before you get a quarter of the way through the deck.
....and there are only 52 cards.
How many women are registered on POF? | |
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Posted: 1/15/2009 12:50:35 AM | How many women are registered on POF?
Very few women are on POF. In fact within 50 miles of me, Texarkana, AR, there are only 12 women on POF in my age group, 18-25, and only a few more than the number of cards in a deck for all ages, 18-99. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2009 1:00:48 AM |
I was wondering if women ever look at a guys profile hoping that he'll see that she's viewed him and hope he'll send the first email?
Hehehe. I have that option turned off on purpose.
I don't know if someone is anywhere near being right for me until I've read their profile.
Plus my friends are always linking me to people THEY find interesting.
I figure if guys out there are interested in girls like me... they know how to use the search engine. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2009 1:02:29 AM | | Kelly that isnt true .. I just did a male for female search within 50 miles of 71854 for the age 18-25 .. the results listed 120 users.. changing it to 18-99 it stated 600+ | |
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