| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:09:36 PM | Well I am dating this girl and have been for a little more than a month, and well we hit it off pretty good, we felt comfortable enough around each other to sleep with one another. But here is the thing I don't know if this is just jealousy or not. I was looking at her new pictures on her my space page and well I saw a couple of comments from another guy and her reply to him and quite frankly i don't think she cares about me the same amount as i do her. I am going to post the comments but no names obviously
Him: "love the view i should do the motor boat lol "
Her: "hehe thank you! you should call me or cum see me tonight :D"
and this was all on New years eve, when we were suppose to hang out. She told me that she was at the bar with her cousin, so it leads me to believe that she lied to me and screwed this guy on new years eve. I am pretty livid that she would do something like this since she says she likes me and see's a future with me. Honestly I don't know what to do. Help me POF! | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:13:25 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^...............................
Well.. did she say what type of future?
Maybe.. it was just as a FWB.
Maybe.. that's all she wants with.. many men.
Ask her.
Communication is the key to any and all relationships.JMO | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:14:04 PM | | Come right out and ask her if she is seeing someone else. Then tell her that disappoints you if it's true and see what she says. If she is not the least bit concerned about how you feel, then you know what to do. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:23:46 PM | well, i think you're making too many assumptions. off of what could be no more than some tongue in cheek jests on my space.
you don't know if they spoke or met up. much less have you reason to assume they had sex.
and, what's that w/ "supposed" to hang out on NYE. didn't you go? i guess not, or you'd know what she had done. did you get cold feet? a hissy fit? have you spoken since? because they way to find out what is going on is to talk to her.
and, yes, i do think it's jealousy. with a heaping dose of immaturity and unfounded speculation thrown in.
agree w/ prior poster - no discussion about exclusivity, you shouldn't expect it. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:23:57 PM | | I was in a similar situation many years ago. He was screwing a number of other girls. It was not going to change. I finally had to leave, literally moved to another city. Good luck, I think you should talk things out with your girlfriend. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:24:45 PM |
She told me that she was at the bar with her cousin, so it leads me to believe that she lied to me and screwed this guy on new years eve. I am pretty livid that she would do something like this since she says she likes me and see's a future with me. Honestly I don't know what to do
You sure do jump a mean conclusion OP.
Is there more to your story than assuming deep meanings to banter on
My Space that could just be light-hearted flirting ?
How do you go from “she went to a bar with a cousin” to
"She slept with this guy on New Years Eve ?"
I have no idea what she did, but neither do you
Jealousy can screw with your Life in a big way OP.
Get over it and/or get over her.
But even if she is no longer in your life, you might want to
work on the inclination to being jealous. Life is to short
to look for ways to be unhappy. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:25:06 PM | Maybe I'm naive... but how does this point to cheating? Is motor boat some kind of sexual position? Is it because she spelled come 'cum'? Because she invited him to go see her?
Maybe the motor boat is an inside joke, she's writing in txt speak and she was inviting him to the bar with her and her cousin?
I don't get the connection... I'd just ask about it before jumping to conclusions. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:41:51 PM |
Is motor boat some kind of sexual position?
A “motor boat” is when a man places his face in between some bodacious ta-tas and blows a raspberry. It is not an indication that she rode on his dinghy. 
The more you know!! | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:47:41 PM |
A “motor boat” is when a man places his face in between some bodacious ta-tas and blows a raspberry. It is not an indication that she rode on his dinghy
Wow... you learn something new every day... Thanks, FB! | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:49:16 PM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^.................................................
Yeah.. the spelling of the word cum... and the motor boat thing.. is suggestive.. it isn't anything that states sex.. and isn't written in stone.
Then again.. neither is someone stating they "like" you.. and having sex with them state that's an exclusive relationship.
Talk it out with the woman. Communicate. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 6:57:05 PM | | Just talk to her. Ask her if she's seeing someone. You have to be clear and communicate. You might see you two as exclusive and she does not. Only way you'll find out is by asking. If she is seeing someone else and you're not cool with it move on, and then when you meet someone new and you start dating talk about being exclusive. I know I do that with guys when we get to a certain point. Communication is key to a good relationship whether it's brand new or been going on for decades. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:04:56 PM | OP,
From what you stated, I would have to agree that there is some form of extracurricular play happening behind your back. If she was hanging out with her cousin at the bar on New Years eve, the only reason that I can think of her not wanting you there was to allow "the other man" to hang out with her and not you. New Year's eve is a night that everyone enjoys together, it's not a usual "girl's only" night out.
The fact that he posted a form of sexual connotation to her while she allowed it with out deleting it also shows a disrespect towards you if you two are a couple. That allowance also suggests that she is at a level of comfort with this other fellow for such remarks.
Nine out of ten people are aware of the spelling of "come" and when used in its other form, is often done with the intention of having sexual characteristics. Some may say it was innocent flirting, I beg to differ. A woman who is faithful and loyal to you would not engage in such activity.
You two need to talk. Good luck. Maybe she will give you the best line out there, " Stop being so jealous...he is just a friend." If she starts her reasoning off that way, run for the hills. To at first point the blame on you when you did nothing wrong is simply allowing her to create a diversion of truth to make you feel bad. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 7:16:01 PM |
OP,
From what you stated, I would have to agree that there is some form of extracurricular play happening behind your back. If she was hanging out with her cousin at the bar on New Years eve, the only reason that I can think of her not wanting you there was to allow "the other man" to hang out with her and not you. New Year's eve is a night that everyone enjoys together, it's not a usual "girl's only" night out.
The fact that he posted a form of sexual connotation to her while she allowed it with out deleting it also shows a disrespect towards you if you two are a couple. That allowance also suggests that she is at a level of comfort with this other fellow for such remarks.
Nine out of ten people are aware of the spelling of "come" and when used in its other form, is often done with the intention of having sexual characteristics. Some may say it was innocent flirting, I beg to differ. A woman who is faithful and loyal to you would not engage in such activity.
You two need to talk. Good luck. Maybe she will give you the best line out there, " Stop being so jealous...he is just a friend." If she starts her reasoning off that way, run for the hills. To at first point the blame on you when you did nothing wrong is simply allowing her to create a diversion of truth to make you feel bad.
exactly my point, we have went on at least 6 dates and we have had the exclusive talk, but i cant get a straight answer from her regarding it. I had just found this all today. so ya i havent seen her to talk to her face to face. hell i have bent over backwards for her. i gave her a pair of tires for her car because hers were bald, i am willing to give her the shirt off my own back. I guess i am just too caring towards people thus me getting walked on. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:10:18 PM | I have to agree with Scoparius. New Year's Eve is usually celebrated as a couple-if one is lucky enough to have a SO. There was a reason she didn't want you at the bar that night. When you said you couldn't get a straight answer out of her, were you referring to the exclusiveness itself, her reason for dumping you on NY's Eve, the note from the other? What?
It could just be that she came across your profile on here that states you're single and looking for a LTR - with no mention of being in a relationship.
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:28:28 PM | | DUDE! WAKE UP AND SMELL THE COFFEE! You have little invested so theoretically there is little to be lost. Better to find out early that she in not in to you, or is not honest, than later on. The same thing happened to me recently and I was REALLY into this gal. It was hard to walk away but it was the right thing to do. There are 3 billion plus females on this planet. Find another one. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 8:42:25 PM |
a “motor boat” is when a man places his face in between some bodacious ta-tas and blows a raspberry. It is not an indication that she rode on his dinghy
… or on the other hand, that she was going down on the Titanic…
OP
You are further along in the relationship than she is. Like the others have suggested, speak up and talk to her about what she wants from you. If she wants less than you do, you need to slow yourself down. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:06:33 PM | | You've known each other a month and had maybe 6 dates and you think it's exclusive,she's evasive and sounds like she's yanking your chain and seeing whom ever she wants when she wants. I don't think this is your girlfriend, I think it's someone who has sex early on and with any guy she feels like having sex with. The best thing for you to do is stop thinking you are a couple, date her and have sex with her if you like, but do no assume she's your girlfriend and stop thinking she's not having sex with others. You barely know each other, sex may be clouding the issue, but the fact is, you don't know her or anything about what she's doing or not doing. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:07:13 PM | Twitchy, unless you're pretty stupid, It doesn't sound like you're exclusive and if you're giving the shirt of your back so to speak, and buying her things, you would be classified as a sugar daddy ..... you see sugar daddies buy love, the others get love, understand?
I don't know if she cheated on you but one thing is for certain you're not FUN For her, sounds like you're more convenience
You've invested some time with so far a bare minimum return , time to unload your assets and take a loss and chalk it up as experience. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:09:42 PM |
It could just be that she came across your profile on here that states you're single and looking for a LTR - with no mention of being in a relationship.
i doubt that.
and i didn't get a straight answer on any of it. | |
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Posted: 1/13/2009 9:39:14 PM | Paramount, IMO, is, did you have the exclusivity conversation before or after the day this exchange was held?
If the two of you agreed to be exclusive before that, this doesn't mean she slept with him, but it is cause for concern. Even if they were just joking, she should've had more respect for you - and him - than to carry on like that.
If you agreed to be exclusive after that, she was a free agent at that time, but still, she should care that seeing it hurt you.
In either event, I find the vulgar terminology troubling. It tells me she doesn't think much of herself. That's a problem right there, too.
All in all, it doesn't look good, sorry to say. But I do think it's worth discussing before making a final decision. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:54:42 PM | Him: "love the view i should do the motor boat lol "
Her: "hehe thank you! you should call me or cum see me tonight :D"
OP...When I read your post, a few things came to mind.....
1. Where in the message did it say she "screwed" (as you so eloquently put it) the other guy on New Year's night?
2. What time was the message written? At the same time she was at the bar? Before? After?
3. Yes, if you and her are exclusive...that was inappropriate for her to be sending another man comments like that. You didnt mention whether or not you were exclusive. Only that you were "dating" for a little more than a month.
4. Did it cross your mind, that it might just be a guy friend (seriously....a guy that is actually a friend.......not a fwb).....and they might be just clowning and making goofy comments towards each other?
5. IF you are exclusive......and she's making comments towards another guy......even if he's just a "friend"......you're right.....more than likely, she may not care about you as much as you care about her.
she says she likes me and see's a future with me
6. She LIKES you and see's a future with you? Let's see, you're dating for just over a month, sleeping together and she LIKES you and is seeing a future with you.... Ummm
not so much. | |
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| Girl your dating screwing another guy what would you do?
Posted: 1/13/2009 9:56:54 PM | As for the posted myspace comments, seems like those two have shared something in the past or there's a sexual attraction and they're about to. In anyway, i would absolutely reconsider my feelings and my thoughts about a girl like that who lets those kind of sexual comments on her myspace profile. She says "Call me or come to my place" which means that he has her phone number and knows where she lives already. But this doesn not mean that they spent the nye together. Maybe he never called or she really hung out with her sister and there were interesting guys at the bar so she didn't want you to join them. Anything is possible.
Seems like you have a feel and you two are definitely not on the same page. Either slow down and try to control your feelings for this gal and just hang out or if you're feeling like it's gonna be hard for you seeing this gal with some other guy, end it right there and move on. Because if you don't, you're gonna get hurt in the long run. It's your call. Trying to make her like you by buying, giving things will not help you, believe me. You're saying that she's not giving you straight answers which is not a good sign. If she really cared about how you feel or what you think, she would try to be clear as much as possible. Ask this to yourself, would you like to be involved in something that is always questionable? How can you enjoy what you have when your mind is filled up with jealousy and suspicion? It's not healthy, man. Stay away from drama as much as you can. | |
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