| | boring peoplePage 1 of 1 | | how come no one off this site ever meets thay all say dont be time wasters but they never want to meet.? | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 3:52:20 PM | Maybe because they could tell you weren't their type?
Why should I go to the hassle of meeting someone whom I already know I'm not attracted to even after just a few MSN convos.
I prefer to chat on MSN for a while and see if there's any compatibility rather than jumping straight in to coffee-meet ups. Oh, and it's generally a good idea to talk with them for a while first, or you end up like me -in a dress, in February, at night 2 miles from town with the "put out or get out" discussion thrown at you.
That was a long, cold walk. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 8:30:07 PM | Halokitty™
How did you end up in that situation??
Why weren't you with your own car or near a bus stop etc???
Two miles from town?
Oh honey, you might need to brush up on your internet dating safety rules!!!
I agree that people should msn a bit first before meeting up to see if there is intellectual chemistry. Personally, I think meeting within a week or two is ideal.
If you chat too long, you risk being stuck in msn buddies forever territory.
Also.... it's too easy to get attached to the idea of what you think the person is like instead of being aware of who they really are. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:01:24 PM | ^The first time was when I was 15; that's the dress in the middle of February incident. I don't wear dresses now unless I'm going to a funeral or a wedding.
The second time happened a few years ago; in October I believe. Luckily, I was stranded only a few blocks from my house when I refused to go to his place in Richmond after having known him for all of 3 days (online).
I know my internet dating rules, I just chose not to follow them that time and I'm lucky nothing serious happens. Which is why I'm now staunchly opposed flying off to meet someone after the first few e-mails. There are very, very very very few people I meet nowadays. Either romantically or otherwise. | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:14:16 PM | ... in February, at night 2 miles from town with the "put out or get out" discussion thrown at you.
That was a long, cold walk.
Any POF user who pulls this Crap, Lights-out, perma-banned, Bridges burned.
Ain't ever coming back again !!!
 | Pay Sites or 'low-traffic' Freebies will be their Lot from that Point on. |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:38:19 PM | Tickettoride..... that's great that you are willing to weed out those sorts of people.
I am curious... how do you determine whether or not the person accused of being a jerk is really a jerk and the person telling on them isn't lying?
Do you wait for more than one person to complain or ask the accused what happened or what? | |
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:43:29 PM | Tickettoride..... that's great that you are willing to weed out those sorts of people.
You file the Report, The Admin does the Rest, taking whatever Actions he deems just to remove such offensive Users. The Site Policy is quite clear on that, the rest just Logistics. This is one of the few Sites that Boots Users who are not fit to date.
To deliberately leave Someone in a precarious and dangerous Situation if she doesn't put out ... is not just Soap Opera. Its one Thing to leave and say Buh-Byes, its quite another to leave someone stranded if she doesn't perform in some sexual Capacity.
If a User doesn't have public Pics on his Profile, save the hidden ones he's sent you with his E-Mails to your Hard Drive. Don't meet Users who don't send you Pics.
Don't write a Novel. Keep Infos to the Point only.
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Posted: 1/14/2009 10:46:19 PM | But... can the Admin guarantee they do not return???
| They get booted as soon as they get seen again, plus the Admin has many other Tools to sniff them out / Ticketoride |
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Posted: 1/15/2009 9:16:49 AM | With all due respect Ticket, How will Admin, know that the person making the report is being honest, and not just a woman scorned from rejection?. It seems to me that a situation like that would be his word against her.
Don't get me wrong for a second, if anyone pulls something like that they should truly be banned forever. But so also should a person making a false report, solely based on spite and vendictivness. I hope admin has a way of getting to the truth before just banning some poor guy solely based on just a report. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2009 9:45:58 AM | Starting to feel like a mod..... this thread is going in a whole different direction from the OP's start.
Boring people abound...
Many do NOT want to meet... too scary, too much work, too fat... who knows | |
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Posted: 1/15/2009 10:49:08 AM | With all due respect Ticket, How will Admin, know that the person making the report is being honest, and not just a woman scorned from rejection?. It seems to me that a situation like that would be his word against her.
There are no Trials, no Lawyer, no Investigators. You'll have to contact the Admin how he goes about it. Users who are deemed not fit to date are removed from Site. | |
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Posted: 1/15/2009 11:54:16 AM | Starting to feel like a mod..... this thread is going in a whole different direction from the OP's start.
Boring people abound...
Many do NOT want to meet... too scary, too much work, too fat... who knows
Good job, Pig 
In my experience most people DO want to meet ... and some of them want to meet right NOW!  | |
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Posted: 5/17/2009 2:34:21 AM | how come no one off this site ever meets thay all say dont be time wasters but they never want to meet.?
Speaking for myself, I've met a fair number of women from this site - and there have also been other offers to meet that I didn't take up on, so I gotta disagree with you there. But, I will agree that the odds of getting the opportunity to meet are low.
Also, getting slightly off topic here, I know some people complain that the people they meet don't look like their pictures, or are nut-bars. My experience has been that most (but not all), were instantly recognizable, and none were what I would consider nut-bars. | |
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Posted: 5/17/2009 9:31:17 AM | I read your profile..
Okay, I'll admit it, I too would be one of those you consider to be the boring people .. but then, I'm not 19 years old, nor am I into threesome's ..
B. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2010 10:35:59 AM | How do you define 'boring' though?
He or she might be thinking the same about you.  | |
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Posted: 10/29/2010 8:50:20 PM | I agree with Mr No Baggage. Who defines boring? Some people think I'm boring and others don't. We can't be everyone's type and we can't click with everyone.  | |
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Posted: 11/1/2010 3:43:39 PM | I can understand one being frustrated with the lack of replies. I think I'm a decent guy and I get a lot of ignored messages, but to the OP, I still average 1 meeting per week. I hope this doesnt make me sound like a manslut, thats not the case at all, just havent met the right one yet.
A few things I have learned though having met my last long term girlfriend here and we were together 4 years and had 2 children...
DO NOT:
talk about your gimmick. By gimmick I am referring to your sexual organ. trust me. No one wants to see it on MSN, or anyplace else.
Talk about sex. Wait for them to bring it up.
Send messages saying something like "care to chat", or simply "Hi". Make sure your messages have some content to them.
DO:
Take the time to actually read the profile
Think about what you are going to say.
Be Honest! If you lie about your income, living situation, etc the truth WILL come out. So far since coming back to POF, I have ran into several friends I work with, etc. we all talk. Girls seem to know who to avoid, and so do us guys. Sounding desperate, overly horny, etc will not get you a date.
Just my 2 bits.  | |
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Posted: 11/5/2010 7:41:55 PM | | An excellent point, JessKo. However, when it has been proven... I and a few fellows I know, would love to go have a 'chat' with guys like this... They give the rest of us a bad name. | |
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