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 dilettante_84
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and "hotter" than men?Page 1 of 10    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10)
Because I just had a certain female from my past admit to me that she had "gotten off" to sexual fantasies that involved women, and that she thinks that women are the "hotter sex" and much more attractive than men. She insists however that she has no interest in women sexually, and is only attracted to men.

I consider this to be a bizzarre contradiction, and can't understand this at all.
 dilettante_84
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:14:26 PM
what does that have to do with anything?

I should add that she said in her fantasy that the girl contact only involved breasts and that genetial or oral contact would be gross.

But personally, I think she is actually kind of fucked up and confused in general, not just speaking sexually here.
 64 Classic
Joined: 7/5/2006
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:16:25 PM
Sounds to me like your friend isn't really sure of her sexuality. While I can look at another woman and see her as attractive it's in looks only. I have never had a sexual fantasy involving women. I'm with you, her statement is a bizarre contradiction.
 dilettante_84
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:28:55 PM
Well naturally, as a dude, you should think chicks are hotter than dudes, assuming you are a straight dude.

But I don't see too many straight dudes, saying they are only sexually attracted to women, but think men are hotter, nor do I know of many gay dudes who say they are only attracted to men, but think women are hotter.

Therefore this is a trait (only wanting men sexually, but thinking women are actyally hotter) that seems to be unique to women.
 Msh90
Joined: 8/30/2008
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/19/2009 10:44:16 PM
Yes,

As a straight woman I think a lot of chicks are hot and I have lots of sexual fantasies about them...I still want men and date men and love men. But yeah it's a nice little fantasy to play out sometimes....

I donlt think it has to do with being bi or straight or gay......women are just more open with their sexuality
 Missabz
Joined: 11/10/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 2:02:42 AM
I will be honest, i have had plenty of fantasies about women, both just me and a woman or a threesome with man and another woman. But fantasies are very different than the real thing, as much as i may think about it and it would turn me on, i would never go through with it. However the men i have been with have all found my fantasies incredibly sexy and loved being apart of them, I love men, having sex with men, i am just very sexual. Mabye your new Miss is the same. ENJOY IT!!
 sweet lady Lori
Joined: 3/19/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 3:11:39 AM
Normal? Absolutely.

I am 100 % heterosexual and only am attracted to men sexually.

I never fantasize about having sex with a woman but I am not afraid to admit a woman is beautiful. My friends are that way as well.

If your friend is having sexual fantasies about women, maybe she is bisexual (?)

Straight women who are comfortable with their own sexuality are not afraid to admit they think other women are beautiful.

I think a lot of men are afraid to admit when they find another man handsome out of fear others will perceive them as homosexual.
 _Icon_
Joined: 5/18/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 3:23:22 AM
Women are beautiful. Seems like a no-brainer to me.
 spicynicegirl
Joined: 8/10/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 4:45:47 AM
OP she was expressing a "fantasy" to you. Nothing to get all stressed out over. Alot of women fantasize about other women but admit they wouldn't do anything in real life.
 newblue1970
Joined: 3/7/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 4:57:45 AM
Its very normal for women to fantisize sexually about other women - read any of the "Womens Sexual Fantasies" books by Nancy Friday. It puts your friend in the 'bi-curious' range, but it doesnt mean she'll ever actually do it or want to. Although maybe you could encourage her!
 MsMicki
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/20/2009 6:58:42 AM
Women's bodies are beautiful.....and sexy.....
we're not blind......or stupid.......so why is it so hard to believe we can appreciate the female form?
and alot of men absolutely love hearing their woman talk about other women.....
she may be doing it just to turn u on....
or she may just find women's body sexy.....
why overthink it? just enjoy the fact your girl is willing to be this open with you.
 Incuubus2113
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Posted: 1/20/2009 7:06:15 AM

Its very normal for women to fantisize sexually about other women - read any of the "Womens Sexual Fantasies" books by Nancy Friday. It puts your friend in the 'bi-curious' range, but it doesnt mean she'll ever actually do it or want to. Although maybe you could encourage her!


I recommend My Secret Garden by her. Protip: Read in private, you're gonna want to. Trust me.
 MsMicki
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/20/2009 7:11:56 AM
I'm going to have to get this book.....
 Katherynne
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Posted: 1/20/2009 7:12:32 AM
Have you *looked* at a woman's body recently? Women have amazing bodies that are beautiful and sexy - not to mention that having the same plumbing makes tinkering easier.

I'm straight, I love men, and I will always be attracted to men exclusively. However, I can't discount my experiences with another woman (MFF) as something I wouldn't fantasize about. Fantasies are all about the shit you don't normally do, so it comes as no surprise to me that women would fantasize about another woman.
 Sasstastic
Joined: 12/15/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 8:38:02 AM
Why isn't it normal?

I agree with the other posters, a fantasy is just that, not based in reality and besides that boobs are awesome!
 whytwater
Joined: 8/7/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 8:55:15 AM

Women are beautiful. Seems like a no-brainer to me



Women's bodies are beautiful.....and sexy.....
we're not blind......or stupid.......so why is it so hard to believe we can appreciate the female form


I've been thinking this since, like, birth. If a woman agrees, how exactly do you argue with that? Or why?
It's kinda reassuring another another human sees the same things as I.

 pinlynch10
Joined: 12/16/2008
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/20/2009 9:24:48 AM
OP--the word "fantasy" should've tipped you off to where she was going with this.

But, I can't fault you on your principle. Because as a man, I have no intention of waking up from a dream of playing "the crying game".

I guess women don't understand or think they perceive how me men think. Women are beautiful, both physically and emotionally. And it is our pleasure to warm our hearts and minds with their mystique. Their sensuality and interpersonal warmth drives us wild--naturally.

I'll stand on your soapbox with you, because I understand you completely.
 newblue1970
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Posted: 1/20/2009 10:54:06 AM
Msmicki - "My Secret Garden" is the first from the early 70's and reflects the sexual revolution/awakening of the times. "Forbidden Flowers" came a few years later and "Women On Top" was written in the 90s, after women gained more control over their lives and sexuality. They are all good reads...
 dilettante_84
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/20/2009 11:04:53 AM
Wow so many people are either misunderstanding my question or not reading it at all.

I am not asking if it is normal for women to find other women attractive and appreciate their beauty. Any human being is capabale of appreciating when someone of either sex is attractive and being conscious of it.

What I am asking is it it normal or common for a totally straight woman, or one that claims to be, to consider women to be *more* physically attractive and "hotter" than men, and yet still only desire men sexually, men who she has suggested have inferior and less attractive physical attributes.

This is not the same as asking if it is normal for straight women to find other women attractive.
 briargate
Joined: 8/18/2008
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/20/2009 11:35:03 AM
If a woman has fantasies that involve getting in bed with another woman but doesn't act on it, it mainly means that though she finds this idea erotic, it's not enough to actually overcome the taboo she feels about it or how it would fit her sexual identity as far as men are concerned. A woman like that is one step closer to bisexuality than a woman that never has these fantasies. But it's a long spectrum to true bisexuality. This is both common and as you put it, normal. There are men who have the same fantasies about men but would not act upon it and have similar conditions about touching. But men in general are more close mouthed about it I would say, as both men and women severely stigmatize this. Men, on the other hand, tend to encourage bisexual fantasies in women.
 Leeanne
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Posted: 1/20/2009 11:57:15 AM
I think women visualize other women in fantasies because they can place themselves into the situation they are seeing! There is no shame is saying you have been turned on by the same sex - transferance is a part of fantasizing!
 mysticaries
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Posted: 1/20/2009 12:01:06 PM
Yes, it's normal. I think we got the better end of the deal when it comes to bodies.
 GEANNIE LaRHEE
Joined: 9/27/2008
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Is it normal for straight women to consider other women to be more beautiful and hotter than men?
Posted: 1/20/2009 2:09:48 PM
Totally normal in my ppinion. IF i'm going to see a body naked, I'd much rather see a woman than a man. For example, Watching Porn/Adult natured movies - I'm going to watch the woman, not the man. But at the same time, would much rather have a man to satisfy me sexually... (most of the time)
 LonestarStar
Joined: 12/14/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 2:22:34 PM
It's completely normal! Women are beautiful - our emotions, our curves, our lips, everything. Even we're not immune to our own charms!
I find maybe 10% of men to be attractive and maybe 60% of women attractive. Women are often in my fantasies, but in reality I would rather be with the ten percent of men I enjoy than the sixty percent of women.
In reality, sex with women isn't pleasurable at all for me.
Reality is much different than fantasy!
 REDDRAGON.
Joined: 10/9/2008
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Posted: 1/20/2009 2:35:08 PM

Because I just had a certain female from my past admit to me that she had "gotten off" to sexual fantasies that involved women, and that she thinks that women are the "hotter sex" and much more attractive than men. She insists however that she has no interest in women sexually, and is only attracted to men.


I hate to burst your bubble but I'm more inclined to believe that what she actually meant by that statement was she'd rather think of women while having sex with you.?
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