| | lmao I'm in the wrong?Page 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | hehe I found this rather funny so I thought I would share....
I recently started seeing someone I met off here, he was looking for long term as am I. Things were going ok until I find out that he is on a sex site, plentyofmorenaughtyfish lol
Thinking I would give him the benefit of the doubt and that it might be an old account he is no longer using no he knows me, I created a fake profile "Maria" with no photo or anything and winked at him, low and behold I get a message off him within 24 hours giving me his number telling me to text him to arrange a meet! I raised this with him and told him I don't like cheats or liars, only to be told that he isn't a liar etc telling me that it was an old account that he never uses, I then tell him that I know he has been on there recently to get told he went on recently to delete old messages and that he has never sent any....so I tell him that "Maria" was in factually me seeing if he still used the account or weather it was from the past and he no longer used it. Apparently he is the injured party here, according to him by doing what I did shows that I never trusted him? Why is it that when someone gets caught out they still try to pass the blame, and yes he was a nice guy that has had a lot of bad experiences with women (apparently....me no think so any more lol). So how many losers is that I have met now on here? I am trying to set a record lol anyone know what the highest number is so far....hehe
And for the record I only actually created the account to check if he still used it as if I had of asked him he might have
1) been embarrassed about it
2)lied about it and said it was an old account (which I think we can guess here he would have done lol) | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 5:33:49 AM | Reminds me of when Willie Nelson got caught in bed & supposedly ran after his wife, screaming "Are you going to believe me or your lying eyes?"
Y'know, you played a hunch and you were right. Sorry he feels like the injured party. But he *did* have a choice. Just made a bad one. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 5:33:51 AM | | Unless you are a couple that has declared itself to be exclusive then you were wrong. Snooping is never a good idea. Right now he is a free agent and should be allowed to respond to anyone that emails him. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 5:35:46 AM | | yeah we had discussed everything and we were supposed to be exclusive. I don't like jumping to conclusions so I thought I would check rather than ask him and risk being lied to, and yes he is NOW a single agent lol | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 5:41:33 AM | i think meeting a guy from one site he/she is on a few other sites old or new accounts
but i know where ur coming from it happend to me 2yr ago lol
men lie to hide a lie WHY? i havent a clue | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 5:50:20 AM | | Good for you for using your brains and checking this out the smart way. You didn't do anything wrong. Even if you were not exclusive, you had a right to know the truth, and he obviously wasn't going to tell you. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 5:51:13 AM |
Thinking I would give him the benefit of the doubt and that it might be an old account he is no longer using no he knows me, I created a fake profile "Maria" with no photo or anything and winked at him,
You DIDNT give him the benefit of doubt!..
You created a fake name and profile, and then you went after him!...YOU ARE WRONG!
I raised this with him and told him I don't like cheats or liars,
but YOUR a liar by creating a FAKE name and profile pretending to be someone you arent!
Apparently he is the injured party here, according to him by doing what I did shows that I never trusted him?
He is RIGHT!! you obviously didnt trust him!! You set yourself up and it backfired on you!
Dont go asking questions that you really dont want to know the answers too!! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 5:58:48 AM | You DIDNT give him the benefit of doubt!..
You created a fake name and profile, and then you went after him!...YOU ARE WRONG!You DIDNT give him the benefit of doubt!..
Sorry, I disagree..
They were exclusive, she found out he was on a sex site, she made a fake account to see if he was still using it. Had he been a faithful MAN, he wouldn't have responded or deleted the account. If she had asked him outright, he would have lied, and she would have still been with the snake, while he was possibly sleeping with others...
Sorry, but if I'm in an exclusive relationship, I have EVERY right to know if he's sleeping with others, for my OWN safety.... | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:02:04 AM | Im curious, how did you know he was on a sex site?
while Im not a fan of snooping, but im still curious how did you know? | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:05:11 AM | YES! You DO have every right to know, but to disguise yourself and trick someone is also WRONG!
Not only did she create a FAKE person..( how many threads do we have about that here?) She went after him!
Its not like she just sat and waited for him to contact her.
She contacted him! We dont know what she said to him to get him to respond.
She accused him of being a liar..saying she hates liars..when she was a liar herself!!
She was WRONG!!
Im curious, how did you know he was on a sex site?
oh my dearest iceman!!..Its because EVERYONE is on a sex site!!..(winks)
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:08:18 AM |
You DIDNT give him the benefit of doubt!..
You created a fake name and profile, and then you went after him!...YOU ARE WRONG!
I raised this with him and told him I don't like cheats or liars,
but YOUR a liar by creating a FAKE name and profile pretending to be someone you arent!
Apparently he is the injured party here, according to him by doing what I did shows that I never trusted him?
He is RIGHT!! you obviously didnt trust him!! You set yourself up and it backfired on you!
Dont go asking questions that you really dont want to know the answers too!!
Jesus what are you smoking? He denied ever using the site and I openly admitted what I had done as I have here (meaning he couldn't LIE anymore, even though he did try bless him), therefore I didn't lie, if someone is with me exclusively then I expect that they are faithful and not trolling the internet for NSA sex! I suppose it would have been so much better had I not of done what I did and engage in a future with him instead not knowing his double life. If no-one ever investigated anything the cheaters out there would NEVER get caught out?! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:14:17 AM | You told him your name was Maria! Is your name Maria? If not...ITS A LIE!!
You must have been on that site as well in order to "catch him" in the first place..therefore you were also "trolling the internet"
You talk about a "double life" LAUGHS....ok "maria"!!
I am not smoking anything!
You dont like liars..but you certainly dont like hearing the truth either!! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:34:59 AM | Iceman....to cut a long start short he had asked me to create him a new hotmail account as he didn't like his old one, he was next to me whilst I did it, he then asked if all his old e-mails would go to the new account so I had to log into his old account and put a forward request to his new address (whilst he was still next to me), while doing this I spotted an e-mail at the bottom of the page from plentyofmorenaughtyfish, I scrolled the page up rather fast and carried on with what I was doing as I was a bit shocked but also thinking that it might have just been junk mail (having not looking for more than a second), so I thought I would have a look at the site and after a very quick search I found him,
Its not like she just sat and waited for him to contact her.
She contacted him! We dont know what she said to him to get him to respond.
when I say I contacted him all I did was send him a wink, no message what so ever as it was one of those sites that you have to pay cash to send mail. so it wasn't as though I sent him a message enticing him or anything, a simple wink that's all, it was up to him to get back in touch with his number. No my name isn't Maria but I wasn't exactly going to put my own name on there was I? and as for the profile that I created...I didn't even put anything as such in there all it said was
"just come out of a ltr so not looking for anything too heavy for now, never know though I might change my mind if the right guy comes along"
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:37:10 AM | Like cdn-iceman, I am also curious to know how you found out he was on a sex site? I mean, I think there are lot of those sites out there (?).
Anyway, you were supposed to be exclusive. If it were me, and someone learned he was on a sex site, and was active (even just logging in every day or 2), I'd be pretty damn curious. YOU didn't set him up. I'd want to find out NOW if I should continue putting my trust, my energy, my time, and my heart into this man, as the hurt would grow bigger with every passing day.
Pay no mind to anyone who says you were wrong here. Some of you ladies think it best to just confront him and expect an honest answer? He denied being active there. And when offerred proof, he tried to turn the tables on you.
Even if it was NOT a sex site, you send him an email, and immediately receive not only a phone number, but an invitation to meet. Not even a picture, much less a phone conversation, and anxious to meet. He should be embarassed to tell even his guy friends, much less you. Nice guy with a lot of bad experiences? Is it ANY wonder why? And you've only heard side side. Run girl, run! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:51:42 AM | YES! You DO have every right to know, but to disguise yourself and trick someone is also WRONG!
How else was she going to find out? Please don't tell me you're that naive to think that just by confronting him he would have been honest? He obviously proved that he wouldn't have been, since he tried to pin the blame on her..
He gave up her trust in him, when he created that account....as far as I'm concerned, all gloves are off when there is any hint of unfaithfulness...and that was a damn good hint if you ask me..
From her explanation, she found out about him on there quite by accident and by his own stupidity.
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Posted: 1/27/2009 6:53:03 AM |
Some of you ladies think it best to just confront him and expect an honest answer?
Why Yes! personally I do!
Two wrongs do not make it right! You dont claim to hate liars when you in fact have lied yourself!!
Who is the pot calling the kettle black here?
The ironic thing about this is...This guy trusted O.P. enough to let her set up an email account for him and he gave her his password to his old account! If he had something to hide then why would he do that to begin with? If he was a regular on this sex site, I doubt very much he would have given her access to anything that would give him away!
She was the one who went snooping! She had no right to do that!
We are only hearing one side to this story and there seems to be alot of missing pieces.
He gave up her trust in him, when he created that account
He created this account before he met her! He trusted her enough to give her access to his email account..what does that tell you? | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:03:50 AM | | In all fairness I could have just logged into his email address if I wanted to, but I didn't as that would be an invasion of privacy (in my opinion), and with the way the site works (from joining it myself) I know that with every message they include your login information, so if I had of wanted I could have just gone into his e-mail, looked at what that one said and looked through his account on the sex site, but I didn't. I put a teeny tiny bait there and he bit it like hell | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:06:53 AM | Ok OP, so he asked you to set up his account and you saw the link, ok makes sense
He's a moron and deserve to get his ass beaten just for being stupid, like I said im not a fan of snooping and there is exceptions to the rule, its a fine line between trust and curiosity
In most cases two wrongs dont make a right, but curiosity got the better of you, or your gut feeling and you had to prove it to yourself, in this case you found out your answer, Do i think you were right in this case, not up to me to say, the manner how you did it...questionable but understandable.
I still dump his ass just for being stupid, and he got caught in a lie, typical dumbass | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:08:01 AM |
In all fairness I could have just logged into his email address if I wanted to, but I didn't as that would be an invasion of privacy (in my opinion),
LMAO....your a piece of work!
but tricking someone by lying to them is ok????
This is a very lucky guy that you dumped him!! | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:12:53 AM | ~rain~ I've always loved your posts, and I definitely commend you for your integrity and honour. I consider myself to be the same, but I won't be taken for a fool either..
Lets just say I'll agree to disagree, but I will rephrase this..
He gave up her trust in him, when he created that account
He gave up her trust in him , when he decided to KEEP that account, even after committing to an exclusive relationship.
I agree..he had that account before he met her, but you seem like an honest person, as am I..Wouldn't you have deleted an account like that if you were exclusive? It wasn't JUST a dating site, but a site specifically looking for NSA sex...I know I would have.
You're right, we are only hearing one side of the story, but the fact still remains that he was STILL looking. I think what she did saved her not only from heartache but possibly from much worse ..JMO | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:21:05 AM | Oooooh this is gonna be fun.
Anyone care to join me for some popcorn on the PoF couch?
Games people play. I'd say you had a hunch to begin with, OP. Why go through all the game playing when you knew something was up?
Life is way too short to put up with game players...any game players.
Sheesh. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:24:07 AM | Ill have to agree with Tee here. Once you have gone exclusive, then all bets are off. I think she is smart for doing a little research. Yup he got busted, and deserves it. Once you are exclusive, then all should be open to the other partner. D has login and passwords to all my accounts and can check them whenever she wants.
The only ones that would get upset about this are the cheaters and liars, cause they are the next ones to get busted.
My hats off to you hopefully he will man up, set things straight, delete his accounts on the other sites. Then move forward to building a real relationship and be accountable to the person he has made an exclusive agreement with. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:38:03 AM | I'm curious about a few things... She says " recently started seeing someone" which also means recently split up. So how long and/or serious of a thing could this have been. If I'm only seeing someone for a month, and we agree to be "only" with eachother, I'm not gonna sleep around, but I'm not gonna stop looking either. 2 months, maybe, if I beleive it's going to go somewhere. 6 months, old contacts are gone and not checking dating sites... Of course, look how many people are on here " just for the forums"... Yea right, it's still a dating site...
Also, I've seen her page before, and I don't recall it EVER saying " not single/not looking" so... wtf... lol  | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:40:11 AM | plentyofmorenaughtyfish
OP it could have been worse.
At least he wasn't trolling in plenty of minnows dot com. 
If I have suspicions or a gut feeling about someone I tend to follow that instinct. It has yet to steer me wrong. Not paying heed to that nagging feeling that something is just not right has never ended well.
I agree with what the OP did. They were supposedly in an exclusive relationship here. I'm not normally a proponent of snooping under normal circumstances. I think it's a very immature way to try to 'get the goods' on someone. BUT in this situation I wholeheartedly agree.
I can only presume that the OP and her SO are or will be sleeping together. This is her health, her life we're talking about here. It's fine to run off to the clinic together and be tested clean, but they were also under the verbal agreement that they were to be each others sole partner. To bring in a third party, unbeknownst to the other changes everything.
The end justified the means in this case.
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I'd want to find out NOW if I should continue putting my trust, my energy, my time, and my heart into this man, as the hurt would grow bigger with every passing day.
Agreed. And more importantly her health and possibly her life. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2009 7:43:48 AM |
I agree..he had that account before he met her, but you seem like an honest person, as am I..Wouldn't you have deleted an account like that if you were exclusive? It wasn't JUST a dating site, but a site specifically looking for NSA sex...I know I would have.
laffs...To be 100% honest Tee, I never delete anything!! I am a cyber pack rat!! My computer guy adores me for it! (laffs0
It doesnt mean anything and yes I have accounts on some sites that I no longer go on. I wouldnt lie about it! It just doesnt matter! | |
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