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|If a guy only calls you sweety or babe...does that make him a player? I know some men call girls sweetie out of habit....however, this guy NEVER calls me by my name. Mind you, I normally can take compliments as a lady and not think much of it. Furthermore, I have no problem with pet names while in a relationship. When I first met him, he was coming on really strong calling me princess...I thought it was a bit weird and even though I liked him...it kind of made me want to gag and wondered if "princess" was just his way of being a smooth operator....lol. Whenever I get a voicemail from him too..it just straight up starts off with " Babe....blah blah". In a way, its a bit condescending to me...or am I reading too much into it?|
But it makes me wonder if he calls every woman babe or sweety and has a list of 20 women in his black book.
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:08:26 PM
|Did he forget your name? (lol)|
I call women "lass" even though I'm not from Scotland. It's just a minor term
of endearment and I don't mean any disrespect. If this bothers you (sweety, babe
or princess) bring it to his attention.
Having said that, if I am having a "difference of opinion" with a lass and
she is becoming obstinate...I just might use the term sweety or princess instead
of calling her a biotch. Keep in mind OP that some guys are just comfortable using
pet names and it definitely doesn't indicate that they are a player...honey. (hehehe)
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:19:16 PM
|Well he could be calling your worse things that start with a B....|
Hey B... get me a beer!
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:24:05 PM
|Hard to say without knowing more about him, so I guess I wouldn't judge him on this alone. The last restaurant I worked in everyone called everyone else of the opposite sex sweety, babe, or hon. I had to work hard to break myself of that once I changed jobs, and it took me a while.|
If you want something to judge him on, ask him to stop it and call you by your real name, and see if he does it.
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:29:03 PM
|I'll call you princess to flirt or if I forget your name.|
But if I know you well...
I'll call you Babe.
It slips out naturally and means I like you.
I'll call you Darlin if I'm all gooey in love with you.
If I call you Dear...
it is because I'm MAD! and it's trench warfare time!
Posted: 1/27/2009 3:34:01 PM
|I am really bad with names and see a lot of people in my job. I have a tendency to use sweetie when I can't remember your name. Babe, sounds more like something you would call a significant other. Who knows? Go with your instincts I always say.|
Posted: 1/27/2009 4:08:31 PM
|time will tell what kind of guy he is. i was in a three year realationship and my girl always called me babe. to me it was endearing. how ever right out of the gate. you may want to keep your eye on him. good luck princess. lol get it, oh i can be so funny!|
Posted: 1/27/2009 5:43:53 PM
|I'm poor with names and do the same thing.|
Posted: 1/27/2009 5:52:17 PM
|Storm, you can call me lass any time. |
Posted: 1/27/2009 5:59:44 PM
|If a girl were to call men babe and sweetie and hun.......should she be labeled as a slut? No......I don't think so. The same goes for guys. So what if he is holding 20 names in his black book....maybe he is good with girls!|
However, I personally, do not appreciate being addressed by any of the loving terms from a stranger and yes, that includes waitresses and over-the-counter staff(everywhere). These loving terms should only be used on people you know well and who are comfortable with you!
My two cents.
Posted: 1/27/2009 6:20:31 PM
|Some men do call women pet names right off the bat. He will use the same one for all the women so that he doesn't get them mixed up. At least that's what some have told me over the years. I'd beware. |
I don't care for it right off the bat, especially in emails. However, I do use pet names with friends sometimes. I think its more common now than it used to be.
Posted: 1/27/2009 6:42:51 PM
|What? a pet name??? Don't stand for it...demand he only use your full given name at ALL times!|
Posted: 1/27/2009 6:49:37 PM
|This is a tough one to answer because it *depends* ...I mean there is hey baby and there's that Barry White kind of "Hey baby" or Jeff Bates kind of "Hey baby" that kicks off that song,'Long Slow kisses'...If it's someone I'm cool with,nick names don't bother me at all. And let someone throw in one of those Barry White or Jeff Bates kind of "Hey baby," then it definitely got my attention/|
Posted: 1/27/2009 6:54:05 PM
...If a guy only calls you sweety or babe...does that make him a player?...
It could mean he has a limited vocabulary, or he perceives you as simple and does not want to confuse you with too many multisyllabic words.
Posted: 1/27/2009 7:04:13 PM
|You're reading *way* too much into it.|
Posted: 1/27/2009 7:16:51 PM
|I find the terms rather facile myself. They are coquetry at best, and depending on the age of the fellow expressing them, disgusting at worst. Waitresses often address me with the same terms, but I pay them no mind.|
Posted: 1/27/2009 7:30:46 PM
|Aloha, a true player doesn't employ these tactics to snatch prey; rather, they will tell you what you want to hear, but not what you need to know. That's why many women end up with a$$hOles if you understand. In short, ALWAYS be weary of any man with a silver tongue---they're snakes!|
Posted: 1/27/2009 7:32:49 PM
....In short, ALWAYS be weary of any man with a silver tongue---they're snakes!....
Thatssssss ssssssssso not true.
Posted: 1/27/2009 8:52:40 PM
|it's not the use of pet names that makes him a "smooth operator"... the is a list of things you can look for. i won't ruin it for all the smooth operators by posting it here in public.|