| | why do men do thisPage 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | I was chatting to this guy for a while and then we arranged to meet. I told him i was going to bring a friend for company and he said that was fine. While we were getting ready to go out i logged on and showed my friend a photo of the guy. Anyway she threw a wobbler and told me this guy had been going out with a friend of hers, had apparently met her family andfriends and were definitely an item. I was gutted, i had chatted to him for a while and there was no mention of a girlfriend. My friend rang this girl and just chatted asking how the guy was doing ans they were definitely still on, he had told her he was going out with a mate and there he was arranging to met me. I didnt show to meet him and sent him an email the next day telling him exactly what i thought of him. Why do men do this? Do you think we should have come clean to the girlfriend or name and shame the cheat | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 3:19:50 PM | Oh no...you and your mate weren't thinking fast enough on the night, you missed a golden opportunity to expose the guy for what he is.
Your friend should have suggested that her friend come out and meet up with you guys without telling her why and then she'd have discovered for herself what he is like.
Maybe next time...eh ?
Perhaps that guy's gone off the idea of internet dating now that he realises Ireland/Dublin is so small and it's a bit hard to get away with two-timing.
I've no idea why either sex would carry on like that and I don't care what they get up to really. | |
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jlo007
| | Joined: 12/30/2008
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Posted: 2/2/2009 4:01:14 PM | I think some guys will never be happy/satisfied with what they have, and will probably always chance their arm when they have the trust of their partner, its not an easy decision to make whether or not to tell the girlfriend/victum, but would you want to know yourself? I think name and shame is what he deserves.
Maybe someone should start a site where you can post Twotimers profiles for all to see or a good addition to this site, it would certainly make a few users more honest, if not disappear all together, lol. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2009 4:09:25 PM | Oh yes, Miss G has the right idea. You should have certainly insisted the girl come out with you. You should still tell her. I hope you haven't erased his messages to you. Have her over. Since she is not your good friend you won't risk her being a lost friend, but you will save her from misery if she chooses to listen. If not, you have done your part.
That is my 2 cents. Good Luck | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 6:03:38 AM | | My ex cheated on me and when it was all brought out into the open I discovered my best friend knew about it. Her betryal was as bad as his, and my relationship with her ended as the trust had been shattered, if you cant rely on your friends who can you rely on? | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 6:29:15 AM | | sry u got messed about irish diamond 1st question u should ask is a u married ect.. then next time u might avoid such a situtation , dont judge us all because u caught a player while fishing pardon the pun tc . | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 7:01:28 AM | 1st question u should ask is are you married?
Then.............
dont judge us all
Sorry, but I don’t get your point.
Are you suggesting that its a woman’s responsibility to ALWAYS ask if a guy is married?
So in turn by doing that, the woman would be pre-judging the guy anyway?
If someone's profile doesn’t state that they are married/or in a relationship, I take that at face value and don’t question it, and if a guy is of that deceitful persuasion he would hardly tell the truth when questioned. | |
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Posted: 2/3/2009 9:57:39 AM | Sorry but this behaviour happens in both sexes.....as to motive ....he wanted a bit on the side ....maybe his present relationship is dimming and he thought hed give you a trial run as a replacement......gets a kick out of his ways .....he dont give a shit...........Best person to ask is him ..... The important lesson is to read the warning signs and avoid the hurt next time........His loss girl happy | |
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Posted: 2/4/2009 5:47:48 AM | | malasam were both in the same boat as i miss ur point altogather. its in any persons interest 2 ask important questions of each other o/w how can u get 2 know a person ?? also u say u read a profile and take it at face value again i disagree with u on this as there are so many players on here that it stands 2 reason a lot of profiles are pure lies . it was just an opinion i expressed and i stand by that . then again opinions are like arseholes we all got 1 its for each 2 decide their own . tc ben | |
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Posted: 2/4/2009 6:21:53 AM | Mmmhhhhh so in one breath your saying that women should be careful and suspicious of guys on here because they are players and the next breath you ask us not to judge guys?
Is that not a bit hypocritical? | |
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Posted: 2/4/2009 7:08:13 AM | | lmao u got me thinkin now fair play 2 ya . and in ans 2 ur question its maybe kinda sorta not 2 sure dunno really judge 4 urselfs lol . tc | |
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Posted: 2/4/2009 12:14:01 PM | | Tell your friend, you dont owe him anything, your friends deserve to know the truth no matter how crap it is, The thread title should be changed to "why do people do this", Were not all as8holes! | |
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Pyno
| | Joined: 12/11/2007
Msg: 13 | |
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Posted: 2/5/2009 11:29:10 AM | Unfortunately, this kind of behaviour is not just confined to Males - but to Females as well. I can tell you firsthand.
But it also comes down to the type of person you are - are you someone with a strong moral fibre who cares about others feelings and realises the implications of ones actions and the knock-on effect that results. Or are you a person who is selfish and is only out for ones own personal gain without realising or perhaps even caring about who gets hurt. The guy in the story is in the latter.
I know thats a rather black or white explanation - but when it comes to human morality - its either or - black and white Im afraid. | |
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Posted: 2/9/2009 2:55:16 PM | In short men thrive on feeding their ego's!Whether it be by going to the gym,trying their best to win at footy,golf,pool or whatever i think thats what it comes down to and unfortunately this chap was just looking to feed his....but you gotta feel good to know that you dodged a nasty bullet:)
Now i'm defo not saying that women dont do this too ...but there are plenty more ***hole guys out there than women...i've of course seen this sort of behavior 1st hand and ya cant help thinkin"what are u doing man?"
oh yeah and i think name and shame if he's playing games | |
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Posted: 2/9/2009 4:11:39 PM | | While I have opinions on the idiot in question's behaviour, I object to the thread title. It's sexist, chauvinistic and blinkered. I'm outta here. | |
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Posted: 2/12/2009 2:48:36 AM | | 'Men' don't do it. The guy your story was about did it. | |
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Posted: 2/13/2009 10:44:12 AM | I have to agree with Miss Grundy. You missed an opportunity. Seeing is believing. Telling them makes you look like you are trying to break them up. The problem that will come up is the issue of trust. It will take the next guy that comes along a long time to earn it. You will be inquisitive about every thing they do. It seems like everybody knows but you. I find i look for the things that make me not want to love a girl. Oddly enough, when they prove themselves out it makes me love them more. go figure.
I would rather they be honest with me. If your going to use me and abuse me let me know. I'll just keep my heart under my shell. | |
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bannor
| | Joined: 12/28/2007
Msg: 18 | |
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Posted: 2/14/2009 7:01:18 PM | people dating is all a maze game, sometimes you bump the walls, and sometmes more than once before ya get out...
grow thick skin while understanding others simply cannot.
point being, you cant take it personally , he chickened out, move on..thick skin n all babe. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2011 7:14:24 AM | if you come clean to the gf you get no thanks in short run. but should be told in some way the guys a cheat | |
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Posted: 10/6/2011 10:27:51 AM | | Another sexist title about Men , women cheat as well So would be nice if you didn't paint us all with the same brush. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2011 4:20:39 PM | | Men do it for the same reason women do it, they do it cause they think they can get away with it. The only way they're gonna stop doing this is by everyone knowing what they are, so of course you should tell the girlfriend, how would you feel if you were her!! | |
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Posted: 10/11/2011 4:02:50 AM | | I don't think its always a matter of 'getting away with it'. But its still dishonesty. I have done the polyamory thing in the past and if one is completely up front about it, there is no problem. However, cheating is cheating and will always be an issue, whether based on a dating site or IRL. | |
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Posted: 10/23/2011 12:17:01 PM | Sadly, cheating is a game played by both male and females of today and yesterday and tomorrow, It can happen anytime and can be because of a many line of factors, but it is good to not jump into he deep end with a guy/girl you just started to talk to and meet up, it should be practical and low key and if you did something else on a first date or second to find out he/she is indeed in a relationship, you can only blame yourself.
While both parties can be sneaky and fool the best of us, you got to learn from these experiences and move on, before they consume you and ruin your chances with actually meeting that right person and someone you will learn to trust.
Good luck  | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 4:33:33 AM | | the guy is a piece of shit.when you cheat on someone the hurt never goes away.it makes it hard on men who have good intentions. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 4:32:22 PM | Innocent til proven guilty. I say your friend made it up.
Poor innocent lad. He's probably better off. | |
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