| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/9/2009 6:28:43 PM | I think those of us who've experienced it enough just get to a point where we just don't get "broken hearted" anymore. It's more like hurt or disappointment. I guess we just get to this point where our emotions aren't as easily invested so completely in another person anymore.
I suppose my last time was 4 yrs ago, and I've been in relationships since then, just never got hurt again. I've even ended a few on my own. Disappointment, yes - "broken hearted?" Nope. That's never going to happen again. I'm not always sure if that's a good or bad thing. I suppose the pain get's great enough where I knew I had to change the way I felt in relationships. I couldn't hold onto resentments against myself or someone else, just because we didn't work out.
Today I just see it like it either works or it doesn't and it's not so full of over-powering emotion.
So who else reached that point where they knew they'd never be broken hearted again even though they still date, have relationships, etc., etc?
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/9/2009 6:58:41 PM | 32 days ago
I don't think it's possible to have a real relationship of any kind without risking a broken heart. | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/9/2009 7:23:51 PM | | Well if my heart was broken I'd be dead. But it's been 7 months since a guy really hurt me by leaving. It still hurts a lot of the time. But when you put your heart out there you risk it. But what is life without taking a risk now and then? So I keep going forward. But as I have relationships come and go I am learning about what I want, so I know I will find what I want,deserve,and need soon. I am just more patient then a lot of people online. | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/9/2009 8:27:37 PM | December 9th, 2008.
I hadn't been that into a guy for 13 years, found the perfect guy for me. He did not feel the same. He thought I was "great", lots of fun, very amusing, we liked the same music sports politics things, sex was wonderful. Yet, he did not want a "relationship". I will never understand men.
So, I thought that feeling was behind me, and it wasn't. But now I wish it had been. I am having a hard time getting over this one. I kind of hope that I never feel like that again, if I have to feel the pain after he dumps me again. | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/10/2009 6:15:53 AM | Feb 1st 2009
When my husband of 9 years left me...we had been having issues and I was having a
real hard time physically, psychologically and I needed him the most. I lashed out at
him and he is now gone. I am at the worst point in my life...feel like dying most days
and am just physically wrecked. I want him back soo bad, he says he still loves me, but
hurt him soo bad he can not forgive me. He doesn't see how much I'm hurting too.... | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/10/2009 7:14:39 AM | I risk my heart at every opportunity. For me it is the only way to live because if we decide to close up a heart that has been wounded then you might as well cease to live.
My last time my heart was broken was in July of 2007. It was a traumatic occurrence. It actually ached and stung for a long time. Time does indeed heal the heart so I don't go into a relationship with this ache. I learned from it, I guard my heart, but still leave it open to the chance of a blossoming love. | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/10/2009 5:12:46 PM | | darling I think he might be a little selfish after 9 years there should be no going back. If he loves you he would sit down and talk through the issues no matter what. Love is a feeling that doesnt die overnight. | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/10/2009 5:24:40 PM | | last broken heart was about 5 years ago. sometimes i think, maybe it still hasnt quite mended yet. Oh well, guess on some level, at least i feel something so i must still be alive. | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/10/2009 8:10:07 PM | Hmm I don't know highschool? Had a girl for 3 years, went to the edge with her, and well she pushed me off. Gave me the I stopped loving you 2 months ago, and btw I have been seeing somebody else speech.
Well I was "heartbroken" if you called it but I know things would work out.
I'm at the Naval Academy, and she is now with her second kid with the guy and he is still working at Best Buy...
it's karma baby... | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 1:30:18 AM | several bottles of whisky / vodka ago .
far too long ago to be relevant , screw her any way she missed out on a 1st class bloke  | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 1:40:57 AM | Still nursing a broken heart....baby steps......I agree with all who have posted here....can't shut down and not take a risk on never being hurt again....
I just keep on praying that the pain will lessen each day and that I can get to a place of forgiveness.....inability to forgive hurts us more than the one we're not forgiving! | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 2:14:37 AM | ~OT~ It started on or near October 14, 2005. It's no longer shattered ~ and life has gone on, but I doubt it'll ever be pre-10-14-05 again. It's no longer a constant ache but it still stings from time to time. Some days it still really misses it's other half.  | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 3:00:34 AM |
she is now with her second kid with the guy and he is still working at Best Buy...
it's karma baby...
but obviously she is happy with him.........and happier than she was with you
THAT'S karma baby
p.s....you do indeed know how to wear a Tux | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 7:02:20 AM |
I think those of us who've experienced it enough just get to a point where we just don't get "broken hearted" anymore. It's more like hurt or disappointment. I guess we just get to this point where our emotions aren't as easily invested so completely in another person anymore.
I suppose my last time was 4 yrs ago, and I've been in relationships since then, just never got hurt again. I've even ended a few on my own. Disappointment, yes - "broken hearted?" Nope. That's never going to happen again. I'm not always sure if that's a good or bad thing. I suppose the pain get's great enough where I knew I had to change the way I felt in relationships. I couldn't hold onto resentments against myself or someone else, just because we didn't work out.
Today I just see it like it either works or it doesn't and it's not so full of over-powering emotion.
So who else reached that point where they knew they'd never be broken hearted again even though they still date, have relationships, etc., etc?
Mike
Mike -- September 2006, just after our 6th anniversary...my then-fiancé and I split up. There was a lot of emotional investment going on, so in a sense I felt more winded than broken hearted. But the term broken hearted seemed fitting, so I guess one could argue that was the last time I felt it like that.
Still, even in the aftermath, I knew that this would be the last time I'd allow myself to feel that way. I just mean that, I had put SO MUCH stock in her being my source of happiness, that when she wasn't there I felt I couldn't be happy...or didn't deserve to be. I won't do that again. I came to grips that I have to be whole and complete, and happy all by myself before I'd get involved again. That way, at least to me, even if things didn't work out, she wasn't the sole source of my happiness...*I* was, and *I* will still be here long after "we" aren't.
I won't even put all my happiness value on another human being outside myself. I'll be happy if I'm with someone (as I am), but won't allow them to be the sole provider of that happiness I need and deserve. Better to be whole and complete before I get involved rather than to stake it all on one other human being that may or may not be there long haul. If my current SO left, for example, I'd still feel complete and wouldn't be anywhere near as "damaged" as I was back in September 2006.
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 8:42:59 AM | | For me this is a hard one, but here goes. She started taking small chunks out a year ago Valentines day, and then a few on the way. I'm not sure if it were through just poor communications, design (meaning intentionally) or just plain to much past baggage. Shortly before Christmas, a few weeks, I thought we had it together finally, actually bought a ring.....it was going to be a Christmas present to show my comittment to the relationship. Never got a chance to give it to her....... she took another chunk out just before Christmas, an it ended the day after. Was my heart broken, yeah, what was left of it! | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 10:23:22 AM |
but obviously she is happy with him.........and happier than she was with you
THAT'S karma baby
p.s....you do indeed know how to wear a Tux
uhh I don't she is happy with him but still the same, I do remember her saying something about him going places and his "plan" but oh well...
and thanks for the tux comment  | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 3:05:06 PM | | Last summer. I thought he was perfect for me. Can't really talk about it, but anytime you put yourself out there you risk a broken heart. It will pass- NEXT!!!! haaa | |
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| When was your last broken heart?
Posted: 2/11/2009 9:49:54 PM | Dec 21 last year.(Solstice) Cannot believe how much this hurts. Recovering slowly, albeit recovering.
As to how brokenhearted I will be in, possible, future relationships? Haven't a clue. Hopefully I'll be wiser. Having said that, the love of a good woman one is attracted to is always worth the risk if opportunity presents. Even though it hurts, it is better to have loved and lost.
I will simply have to manage myself far better next time. There is still plenty of work to do. | |
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