| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 1:38:36 AM | So ever since I met this woman she has been on my mind. When she is around I get butterflies in my stomach and my brain practically shuts down.
A major draw back is im leaving town in 3 weeks so I know mentally that nothing can come from this.
Emotionally though I want to hold her and be with her as often as I can before I do leave.
Now as I stated earlier, when she is around my brain kind of shuts down. I can never think of the right thing to say, and usually make an azz out of myself.
I send her a message about an hour ago telling her all the things that I have been wanting to tell her since we met.
Im seriously second guessing my actions now.
What if she dosent feel the same and it gets awkward?
I would rather have her as a friend then not, but I have been in this situation before. Once something like this is out there it cant realy be un-done.
I guess I will find out tomorrow since she is probably sleeping at the moment.
There is realy no question for this thread, my mind is just going a mile a minute and I had to unload it before I have an aneurism or something. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 1:45:39 AM | Cute. Could always rectify the problem with a good bottle of scotch.
I wouldn't think you screwed up. You didn't mention how long you've known this lass, so unless it's 4 days or something, letting her know how you feel is generally okay. Barring some Fatal Attraction style of feelings. Besides, long distance stuff has a strange way of working out sometimes. As for if she doesn't feel the same and it gets awkward, well, sometimes poop happens. If she's not interested, it's probably going to get a bit awkward. You can move on, accepting her friendship, or you can while away the years frantically desiring a lost love. I'd suggest the first. Have a helluva good female buddy now because of that very situation. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 1:46:10 AM | oops. You put the ball in motion .. But are you moving away ? Is the long distance thing not there?
I met a wonderful guy we were in love . He could not handle the long distance thing. When I had a buyer for my home he broke up with me. He could not take the fact that I was leaving. I miss him. Good luck with your situation. Maybe she will tell you how she feels. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 1:54:41 AM | | If it turns out to be awkward, you can take comfort in the fact that you only have a few more weeks where you could possibly run into each other. A significant part of two people being right for each other is all in the timing. I know it sucks, but it looks like this one is doomed from the start, regardless of how you each feel. (Unless one of you is willing to move, of course.) | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 5:26:06 AM | Did you want us to hack into her account and retrieve that message for you ???
Hey, if the price is right ...  | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 1:10:35 PM |
A major draw back is im leaving town in 3 weeks so I know mentally that nothing can come from this.
Emotionally though I want to hold her and be with her as often as I can before I do leave.
^^^^^^ What's the point of your post?
You are leaving in a few weeks....why even pursue her.
Emailing was a waste of time....what do you expect to come of it.
I wouldn't be surprised if she read/deletes it | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 1:21:19 PM | You are leaving. I'm confused, because you are leaving.
And if it's worth anything, I find it very tacky when people who like someon use email to talk about their feelings.
There is too much room for her to mis-read what you were trying to say. What if she felt the same way and she wanted to reach out and kiss you? She can't do that when you tell her your feelings in an email.
Or a text.
Anyway, you are leaving, so have a nice trip. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 2:32:27 PM |
I send her a message about an hour ago telling her all the things that I have been wanting to tell her since we met.
Ugh, using text/email for serious stuff? That's like passing a note to someone in class. Unless you're in different time zones, talk to the woman in person. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 2:35:05 PM | If you really like her as much as you do...
What's the problem? Does she like you back?
How far away are you going?
What are you lives like? What are the two of you looking for? How long have you known her? blah blah blah...
You'll never know unless you talk to her.....
Communication. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 2:44:04 PM | why did you wait this long? obviously youve know her (i hope atleast) for a little over 3-4 weeks, now when its time to leave your outting how you feel, feeling like youve nothing to lose eh? the fact remains you chose a poor way to tell her how you feel, if you live close enough for it to not be long distance to begin with, then it coulda waited till morning, now your tossing and turning regretting and hoping good luck sleeping tonight lol....
anyways so i dont come off as an ass, its good you told her even if it was a bit late, but reguardless if she does feel the same, it could and probably will be awkward for simple reasoning you chose an email as a form of outting your i love yous, and the next time you see her in person, its going to be like seeing something funny even tho you cant laugh at the time, it just makes you want to laugh more but you dont know what itll cause if you do....
if you couldnt handle long distance relationship then my guess is you shouldnt of even bothered, but if you waited till just about to move away id imagine your ok with it granted your not moving out of state or 5+ hours away i can see it being ok in the end | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 6:20:03 PM |
WANT PROOF? Keep your eyes on the Ask a Guy forums and you will see it in action, again and again! Women don't go crazy over a guy that professes his love and feelings, they go crazy over a guy that is mysterious, reserved and they don't even know if he likes her!
Not exactly. Of course the women who don't know what the *#@! is going on are going to have more questions. The people who are in happy relationships do not have any need to beg for advice from people on the forums. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 7:35:51 PM | | It may not work out, but all you have done is tell her how you feel. Don't feel ashamed of your feelings; they are sincere. Had you continued to go out with her, you would have needed to say something at some point. I do think she'll need a little while to take it all in, especially if she hadn't been thinking along the same lines, so let her have time to respond without pressure. If she's genuine though, she should respond in a genuine way, even if it doesn't go in your favour. At least then you will know where you stand and you can move on one way or the other. Problems are more likely to arise when one or the other is dishonest. Words don't match actions and confusion abounds. However she treats your feelings, I think you should feel proud that you had the courage to be true to yourself. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 7:44:51 PM | Not exactly. Of course the women who don't know what the *#@! is going on are going to have more questions. The people who are in happy relationships do not have any need to beg for advice from people on the forums.
Thank you for that!! It's kind of cute when they think they understand us, though, isn't it? 
Op, you went for it, you'll know soon enough! I'm on the side of better to know even if it doesn't work out than to always wonder what could have been. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 7:46:33 PM | Oh damn! Don't you just hate the send button sometimes????
This made me smile. Don't have an aneurism. You didn't say how long you've known her for. Now, if you did this and you've only been with her for a short time, it might throw her a bit....then again, it might not.
To be honest, I think you've followed a feeling that had to be expressed; passionate about what you feel is such a good thing.
I hope it works out - that she responds in a positive way.
If not, at least you've let her know how you feel. I appreciate that in a man.
You are leaving in 3 weeks - that doesn't shut every door, does it?
Now, I want to know how this ends. | |
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| I may have just screwed up royally
Posted: 2/13/2009 8:49:03 PM | | Nothing wrong with speaking openly and honestly about how you're feeling...then hopefully you'll get an honest answer in return...and you can go from there. | |
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