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|I need some real advice> there's a neighbor who lives in my trailer park. Well, long story short, she's a drug addict, a bad one,too. She just got busted two days ago,and since she's on probation, she'll only get 6 months added onto her probation. Her PO told her the only reason he hasn't busted her is because she is paying those fines and courts fees she owes. |
Everyone is staying away from her, period. But what does this **** do? She wants to keep bothering me! I took her to the hospital last month and while she was in my car, she had a diabetic seizure and stopped breathing in my car! I freaked! I shook her and told her, ****, you ain't dyin' in my car. You can die in that hospital, but you ain't dyin' in my car! I got her to the hospital and they took her in. Needless to say I swore after that I would never help her again! I even cussed her out after 5 hours when they finally let her go home.
She won't bother anyone else and I did not go over to her house before or after that little episode. I still won't go to her house. But she still will not leave me alone! She calls or comes and knocks on my door. I told her today I wasn't taking her anywhere! I have a note on my front door, that says no smoking in my house, or my car because it makes me sick. And I also told her that her drunk ass bf will not be riding in my car ever again, especially with an open container! Believe me, if he doesn't have a beer in his hand, he's passed out somewhere.
And she took the rap for him on a DUI charge so he wouldn't lose his license and his job! All so she will have somewhere to stay so she can continue to do her pills. Clearly there's no justice in this world. I have bent over backwards and helped this girl when she needed a ride to her doctors. I have been the nice neighbor, but this is abuse!
She even has a prescription now for those marijuana pills so she can eat, her claim, not mine. She fails her piss tests and now she has a legal reason for failing them all.
I do not want this girl bothering me any more but will she listen? NO!
Do you think this is sinking in to her head? NO!
Wtf? I can't get rid of her! And I told the landlord that if the trailer park got closed down because of her, we all who own our homes would be forced to sell everything and he could lose his land because of this stupid ****! He says he cannot legally evict her unless there is evidence of her buying or selling drugs. Wtf? She just got busted for possession of drug paraphenalia! The law took out about three bags of stuff from her house!
I feel like I'm gonna have to get the law involved to get her to understand that I don't want her around me. You tell her no and she still keeps coming around!
I wish I had a ****ing gun! I have Private Property signs up and Keep Out signs up on my lot, does it phase her? NO!
Posted: 2/20/2009 5:34:50 PM
|P.S. She doesn't even know that I'm the one who put the law on her to bust her ass! Of course I ain't gonna admit it. Why should I?|
Posted: 2/20/2009 5:41:49 PM
|Thsi place has 4 people who stay around here and they are all on probation.The POs here in this county have told other neighbors of mine that this place is known for drugs. It never used to be like this. My landlord had to force my former landlady to move and sell all her trailers because it was the only way to get some former crackheads out of the park!|
The landlady sold me my trailer because she told me she felt good selling the trailer to me and its too old to move anyway. I've been here for 15yrs. If things get bad enough, the landlord could lose his land and we would all lose everything we worked for. The town or the county would decide that they were not doing their jobs as landowners if things got too bad. It s a wonder nobody has called the law on her before now.
I don't do drugs and I can pass a piss test and a background check,too.
But I seem to attract a bad element. Why do these sorts of people want to be around me?
I live a quiet life, but this woman is insane! She has to be! She has diabetes, a very bad heart, and her left shoulder is completely disabled due to a shogun wound when ahem, a former boyfriend,who was trying to kill her, or run her off, shot her in the shoulder! She weighs less than 100 pounds, I suppose so when you eat pills all your life!
Posted: 2/20/2009 5:49:31 PM
|Please don't take this the wrong way. But she is an addict and you have been enabling her. She knows to come to you for help (an easy ride). If she's on probation and got busted two days ago again and if charges are issued, she will probably get more than an extension on her probation. If she considers you her friend, then I'm sure your Keep Out signs she is assuming is for trespassers or strangers. You need to be up front and tell her to let ya be. If not, I'm sure if you called the police and just told the officer you simply wanted her to let you be, he would go have a chat. That usually works. Just be clear in that you have nothing left to offer her.|
Posted: 2/20/2009 6:09:51 PM
|I do not have anything left. No sympathy, no feelings, I just have these feelings now of intense hatred growing everyday. I just can't get her to understand that I don't go around her I don't owe her anything and that sorry bf of hers needs to get their vehicle fixed so he can drive it where they need to go. |
If I were a real heartless ****, I simply could have just pulled over to the side of the road and let her stay that way until her bowels and bladder let loose and then drove to the hospital. But no, I actually saved her life by waking her up, and she keeps right on. I really wish God would just go ahead and kill her outright because she contributes absolutely nothing back to society.
Posted: 2/20/2009 7:35:54 PM
|hawk, tough deal.|
she WILL continue to bother you until she realizes you are not gpoing to help her. sher is at you, because she has worn out everyoine else she knows.
i agree with the poster, call the police, explain the situation. i am SURE they already know about her. then each time she comes over, tell her you WILL call the police for her trespassingon your place. kind of informed consent esp if she thnks the signs are for "others"
good luck!! what about calling the drug enforcement group of the police. i am sure she is dealing too. does she have kids there? you can call dfs too. doe sshe have animlas, i am sure animal welfare league (or the like) would be interested. she probably doesnt take care of them and they are in harms way if they both are doing drugs (yes beer is a drug)
get a loud big barking dog.
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:05:05 PM
|The law was the ones who I contacted to have her reported and busted! LOL! She doesn't know its me! You know the really sad part, she medicates her dog! No shit! If he gets sick and starts throwing up, he picks up her emotions, no kidding! She has been known to give that dog a half a xanax and he'll go right to sleep.|
she even told me once that she gave him some Nyquil because he had a cough once! She's gonna medicate the dog because she medicates herself!
I'm gonna go tomorrow and see if I can get somebody to actually listen to me and help me get her to leave me alone! I hate being cruel, but she is abusing the neighborly welcome as far as I'm concerned.
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:14:53 PM
|I have another perspective on this scenario.|
You invited her into your life when you helped her. You cannot call your relationship with her abusive if you keep opening the door to her. And, yes, I mean literally opening the door to her.
When she knocks, don't answer. You've clearly stated that you don't want to help her again, now hold that boundary.
Wishing you had a ****** gun gives me the impression that someone else in your neighborhood has some issues--specifically, anger.
Lastly; your 'welcome' wasn't really 'neighborly'. I'm not sure why you helped her at all, given the way you feel about her.
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:26:16 PM
|This girl has been here for going on five years. Our landlord says he cannot legally throw her out unless there is a bust where they catch her selling or buying pills, etc... and she just got busted two days ago. But yet he can't evict her! LMAO! What is wrong with this picture? |
You should have heard me when I chewed her out after we left the hospital. Was her bf there for 5 hours waiting? NO! But I was! Why? Because I'm the good one out of the entire bunch. She won't ask anyone else, and when she did, she got angry and screamed at one woman because while they were taking her to another hospital, the baby was in the backseat making baby noises! This is the neighbor's kid, mind you, the one who was driving. And what does Miss Druggie do? She starts screaming at her to shut that ****ing kid up! And the poor girl was stunned because of the way she acted.
I would have put her ass out on the side of the road. And I told drug girl this, too. She used the excuse that she had a fever of 106! LMAO! That's a lie because she would have been unconscious! I told her that was a lie and not to use that as an excuse!
Then she wonders why I told her that I wasn't taking her anywhere else anymore!
This girl is so messed up , she was practically thrown out of school in the 7th grade because she couldn't behave!
She's also a product of incest with her brothers, most of whom are dead now. she started doing drugs when she was 13 yrs old, her family has done drugs and then again most of them are dead! And you wonder why she's ****ed up!
Posted: 2/20/2009 8:33:30 PM
|HA,HA,HA,HA.....You sound like someone I know..ME. But with me it's a choice..It's too bad your probably the only one that listens to her she has probably told you that...Well if you really want to get rid of her tell her about your new friend JESUS..Go to a bible store and get a bunch of those little religous fliers, a couple bumper stickers, go to the thrift store get a bible get a couple get one for her and her boyfriend too...Pray with her all the time talk about nothing but JESUS, And if it comes down to it find a nice Southern Baptist church to take her too..JESUS works pretty fast..If she just wants to see you for a ride shadow her all the time insist to her JESUS is the answer after all (HE IS) Many years ago I hung out with a pretty bad crowd and these fellas decided to well they kinda wanted to kill me because I tossed some things they ripped off in the Calumet River they were looking for me all over town and we finally ran in to each other they drew their guns and I pulled out a bible,(I didn't have a gun..) I didn't need one they put their guns away and left me alone...They did look alittle freaked out...It doesn't sound like shes too long for this world if for some reason the Jesus thing takes also introduce her to a 12-step program and then run like hell..Good Luck.|
Posted: 2/20/2009 10:12:30 PM
|Sweet jeebus, stop acting like such a victim. You're 42 years old, for crying out loud. If you don't want to help her, then just don't help her. It's really that simple. No one's holding a gun to your head. |
You say you're doing all this because you're a "nice" person when actually you seem to enjoy playing the part of the long-suffering martyr. You've done nothing here but make judgmental comments about her personal life and complain about how she doesn't deserve your help.
Look... if you can't condone her lifestyle (and I'm not suggesting that you should), I have to ask why are you persisting in being part of it? Other than perversely getting off on the drama she brings to YOUR life, I mean.
But no, I actually saved her life by waking her up, and she keeps right on. I really wish God would just go ahead and kill her outright because she contributes absolutely nothing back to society.
Did you ever consider that perhaps God IS indeed trying... and that you keep thwarting his Divine Plan?
P.S. She doesn't even know that I'm the one who put the law on her to bust her ass! Of course I ain't gonna admit it. Why should I?
Um... honey? You just did. All over the internet, in fact. Awfully neighbourly of you to provide a picture right next to your written confession so there's no doubt who ratted her out.
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:00:23 PM
|Fer chriss-sakes. Get a restraining order and be done with it.|
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:28:32 PM
|You don't live in Sunnyvale Trailer Park by chance do you? |
Ricky Bubbles and Julien ok?
A dope trailer is no place to raise a kitty!
Posted: 2/20/2009 11:46:19 PM
|Geeleebee said the most appropriate thing, imo. Simply do not answer the door when she comes a' knockin. Ignore the knock. Don't answer. If you continue not to answer and not to pick up the phone when she calls or comes over, she'll leave you alone. If when you do see her outside if she's "hanging around" and you're on your way out to your car, say "I'm sorry, I can't talk now. Goodbye." Get in your car and go. |
If you're outside cleaning up your lot and she's "hanging around," say "Excuse me but I've got work to do. I just can't talk. I'm sorry." And WALK AWAY ....walk back inside your trailer if you have to.
You do this enough times and this lady will leave you alone. You're buying into the drama though, it seems. Ignore her. Keep making firm "I can't talk, I'm busy. No, I can't help, I'm doing something else...no, I can't give you a ride, I have something else to do..ETC.
If all of that fails, get a pit bull or a rottie.
Posted: 2/21/2009 1:43:44 AM
You wrote : I freaked! I shook her and told her, ****, you ain't dyin' in my car. You can die in that hospital, but you ain't dyin' in my car!
You wrote : would be forced to sell everything and he could lose his land because of this stupid ****
You wrote : I wish I had a ****ing gun!
I assume ( Im not sure ) the first 2 above being 4 letter words - they would be the *C* word?
And the last being the *F* word.
Yanno....Im reading thru your post and thinking if this is how you talk on a daily basis and portray yourself.......ehhh.
Clearly the fault lies on yourself.
You obvioulsy knew this woman before ever helping her. What she was about etc.
Call the police if she comes to your door. Keep a record of harrassment.
Get a restraining order.
You dont do your complaint justice by portraying yourself the way you have here.
Your whole post is way over the top
Posted: 2/21/2009 2:12:23 AM
|My goodness dear you sound like you love the drama of it all. Why not just do what any rational sane person would do. Don't answer the door when she comes to it, if she refuses to get off your property call the police and ignore any and all request from her. Why is such a simple thing so hard for you?|
Posted: 2/21/2009 3:43:18 AM
|OP when you are dealing with an addict you need to remember one thing.|
This person's mind and body has been taken over by the disease of addiction.
You aren't dealing with this person, you are dealing with the disease and there's nothing you can ever do
to help them until they get into recovery. Don't worry once they accept the fact that you are no longer their enabler,
they'll seek out a new one and leave you alone.
Posted: 2/21/2009 5:29:06 AM
She doesn't use the internet. She doesn't know how to read or write. She doesn't have a computer. She saves her money and gives it to her bf to hold back so she'll have something to buy her pills with.
All this girl ever came into this life with was herself and I feel like I'm the only one who cares, until she almost died in my car while I was taking her to the hospital. That was the last straw!
I don't care if you judge me. I look at it this way. You have absolutely no clue how this is because you don't have to live with her or her bf.
I've told her and jumped down her throat, and what does she do? She ignores it because she's the type who doesn't believe you when you tell her no.
I wouldn't take her to the store yesterday,either. I didn't want to. I told her no, and that I was not gettin involved in her mess. I also told her that she needs to learn to stay away from me and if she can stay away from everyone else then why does she constantly bother me?
What her alcoholic bf doesn't understand is that if she dies in his house and he comes home to find her dead, the law is gonna go after him! They will be asking him questions! And since the law has already had dealings with her, they'll know exactly what happened.
There was case around here once, when I girl got into her bf's pain patches and the dumb broad slapped two of them on her back and shoulder. It killed her and the law tried their best to get her bf sent to prison for life because it was his pain patches. It took him years and money to get that whole mess straightened out.
The pain patches were his, but he knew she had a drug problem and he hid the patches from her, but not too well,evidently.
She found them and well, it nearly cost him his freedom.
But the state finally let it go because they couldn't actually come right out and say he did this deliberately.
Posted: 2/21/2009 5:34:53 AM
That's the crux of it right there. Its a disease. And the state won't take action to do anything to help her because they figure she's got so many health problems already they're gonna get a call one day saying she's dead.
There is a state law that does call for involuntary commitment, but you have to prove the person is danger to themselves and other people.Her psychiatrist isn't helping when she writes out her RXs for 75 Xanaxes at one time! I've seen this chick eat 8 pills at one time, it s a wonder she's still alive!
Posted: 2/21/2009 6:15:06 AM
|Addiction is not a disease, it is a choice.|
Posted: 2/21/2009 6:26:54 AM
|I hate being cruel << you are NOT being cruel. she needs help and you need her away|
Posted: 2/21/2009 7:03:01 AM
I need some real advice> there's a neighbor who lives in my trailer park.
Say no more,
Trailer park= Drama= JERRY SPRINGER SHOW
Posted: 2/21/2009 7:03:33 AM
|Well, it's gonna make us all look bad when they finally find her dead and there was absolutely nobody to help her. |
We already had one woman who was murdered by her ex bf here. Her old man died from guess what? Smoking crack! Yup! So this lady got involved with a real nutcase who wound up killing her! And now this girl is gonna be number three. Do you folks see a pattern here? That's why I said earlier that law enforcement knows this place already has a bad reputation.
And my landlord says that he cannot evict her unless she gets busted for selling or buying drugs.
It never used to be like this.
I can't move my trailer, its over 40 yrs old and its in better shape than most of the ones out out here. (state law). All I have to do is re shingle the roof and get a larger hot water heater this summer and rewire that up so we will have more hot water next year.
I have other things to worry about.
Looks like I'm gonna have to sit her down and just tell her right out. Look, I can't help you anymore. I'm not going to help you. Don't call me, don't come to my house, don't bother me. Just stay over there and mind your own life. (How much do you want to bet it won't last maybe a week, at most?) She'll think I'm not serious and then, I'll wind up calling the law and telling them to tell her not to come over to my house or to even call me because I don't want her around me. Period!
If I only lived in a decent place. her bf ain't too smart because he enables her,and he uses the excuse that he loves her. He just needs somebody to wash his clothes and cook his food. That's why I hate this county, all you see are people who haven't finished school, they can't read or write, and they're either drug addicts or drunks. Nash County has a bad reputation as far as this goes. But nobody will take responsibility to clean it up
This girl also told me yesterday when the law came to her house to serve her with those charges, after they busted her Wednsday, that they want her to rat out a bunch of people. She won't do it because it will cut into her supply when she needs some more pills. If they only knew how many people she knows who are involved in this, it would go across half the entire state! She even knows people in VA!
So, actually I feel like I'm up against the wall and the only way out is to sit her down and tell her Look, I've bent over backwards here. I 'm not doing it anymore. Go find someone else to bug.
Posted: 2/21/2009 8:31:30 AM
P.S. She doesn't even know that I'm the one who put the law on her to bust her ass! Of course I ain't gonna admit it. Why should I?
You just did. And your follow up about her not being able to read or having the internet reeks of cow dung to me!! Seriously!! Every step of the way you are complaining about this woman and Every time someone makes a Healthy, Sensible suggestion - You have another excuse for emersing yourself in this drama.
I soooo completely agree with post 17 = Banana Anna:
My goodness dear you sound like you love the drama of it all. Why not just do what any rational sane person would do. Don't answer the door when she comes to it, if she refuses to get off your property call the police and ignore any and all request from her. Why is such a simple thing so hard for you?
OP - if you have issues with someone elses behaviour be it addiction or otherwise - I recommend you attend a minimum of 8 Alanon meetings and, not to be harsh - Shut Up and Listen.
While there are those who are hooked on substances - there are those enablers who are hooked on Drama
Posted: 2/21/2009 9:25:02 AM
I have Private Property signs up and Keep Out signs up on my lot, does it phase her? NO!
She doesn't know how to read or write.
Sorry OP, this sounds more like a personal rant/vent session more than a sincere quest for help.