| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/22/2009 10:43:55 PM | It seems to me like every guy I have ever been with just wants sex, then they disappear, I really can't handle it. I'm really sensitive, I don't understand why guys think I'm worthless. Sure I have a weird body and what not, but is using me for sex really necessary means to break my heart, or do guys just not know any better? I'm scared to move on now, I've been hurt too many times. Someone please just be a friend to me and help me figure out how to get past this pain and find what I am looking for!!  Thanks,
~!Alia!~ (Don't be afraid to message me privately about the subject) | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/22/2009 10:48:41 PM | Don't give them sex and then they can't use you
duhhh gee george i don't know why he quit calling after our 4th date
sorry i know that was mean but i look at humor as a way of moving on learn to laugh remember if they dont' want to stick around then they weren't good enough for you | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/22/2009 10:49:43 PM | | Lol nice, I usually don't even give them anything though, you can just tell when they want it, you know what I mean? | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/22/2009 10:53:05 PM | | It's just like sex is all they want and if they don't get it we are over, ya know what I mean? And, I'm just way to sensitive to handle stuff like that. Example: Last week I dated a guy, and he came to my house to see me, me not wanting sex somehow lead to him deciding I would never be right for him, because he is a strong christian all of the sudden, I mean c'mon! A strong christian leaving someone for not giving them sex, pathetic, right? Thanks for replying :) | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/22/2009 10:59:29 PM | If you want to ensure the guy is into you, you might want to hold out until marriage. Otherwise, you are always going to be rolling the dice.
If a guy is in love with you, he doesn't need to have sex with you to stay interested. It's that simple. I have no idea why girls give it up so easily.. it's the surest way to lose a guy and get a broken heart.
Message 4: That doesn't make any sense. A guy living a Christian life does not coerce or guilt girls into sex, let alone have sex before marriage. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/22/2009 11:12:34 PM | Wow, yea you make a really good point, that's another thing though. So many guys ask me to marry them, I have a hard time telling which want love and which want sex or money. I just wish I could find a guy who would love me for me. I mean last time I checked this is a dating site, not an adult personals site, those guys that just want sex should really go elsewhere. What irritates me the most is when they say they love me, then poof they are gone. It's so immature and pointless. I need a man who doesn't think the world revolves around sex, and the more I go through this the less hope I have for finding that guy.  | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/22/2009 11:38:56 PM | | Just know this is not a sexist thread, I'm just saying in general guys like to hurt me, It's like I have a bullseye on my heart! Anyone else who wants to respond, feel free, I need all the help I can get in my breakdown lol. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 12:05:19 AM | Interesting profile. Your first date might have something to do with your problem...
"I just want a good night, maybe dinner, movies, hangout, talk, maybe go home and you might get lucky.. haha! Message me for a try." | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 12:15:16 AM | Guys tend to not quite understand the emotional impact of many of their actions. It's easy for us to forget, particularly guys closer to your age, that our actions can cause unforeseen problems later on in life. However, some of the comments you make in your profile somewhat allude to a desire for an intensely sexual relationship. Might want to check that out before you get stuck in this position again.
Also, there could be ... some backlash from your particular situation. It would be more of a back and forth conversation as opposed to a forum thread, so if you want to IM me, feel free. I think it works. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 12:18:44 AM | | Oh my, I do need to fix that lol. Thanks so much, never get tired of advice guys. Please Keep Helping Me Out! :) | |
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Posted: 2/23/2009 12:30:58 AM | Agreed, thank you all for your help, and any other suggestions would be really cool :)
~!Alia!~ | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 1:27:30 AM | | Hi. If you don't want men to want to have sex with you, change your pictures, as many of them conjure images of a sexual nature. You should realize this. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 4:34:53 AM | | So many guys ask you to marry them? Wow, I should be so lucky. So you're actually in control, not a victim. You call the shots. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 4:40:05 AM | | Through life your going to meet a lot of people that just want sex; its pretty much unavoidable. You might be able to lower the frequency that this happens with people you meet on this site if maybe you edited your profile a bit. I'm quite tired so I donlt have too much more to say right now other than good luck. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:05:39 AM | Just don't have sex for the first month or two of the relationship? If they can't handle that then you know what they were after. Usually if a guy is REALLY into you he would be willing to wait - not to mention when you do have sex it will be less akward, as you have been able to build comfort in the preceding month(s).
Furthermore, guys around your age are generally horny bastards trying to shag anything that moves, they will lie, say they love you e.t.c just to get their leg over - Don't buy into their B.S. Denying them sex for the afforementioned period of time will weed out those that just want sex and nothing more.
Lastly - the above plan requires YOU to have quite a bit of self control and not cave/give in to your urges/"feelings" immediately. Just slow everything down and you'll be golden!
P.S Your profile pictures are also very sexually suggestive, making you seem "easy". | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:25:34 AM |
Sure I have a weird body and what not, but is using me for sex really necessary means to break my heart, or do guys just not know any better?
OP, do these guys you go out with know you're "half-n-half" and supposedly have boy parts?
(BTW, you do realize that you've already used up 7 of the 20-reply limit to your thread?) | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:35:15 AM | I'm a trani (AS INTERESTING AS MY BODY IS I WOULD REALLY RATHER NOT TALK ABOUT IT A LOT I'M STILL HUMAN), which means I'm a girl with boy and girl anatomy, not both sexual parts, just the boy one, lol basically I'm a pretty normal girl though, i like shopping, music, dancing, and cheer leading.. ALSO I WAS BORN WITH ODD CHROMOSOMES IF THAT HELPS AT ALL, MEANS I'M HALF AND HALF lol, ALSO I HAVE WAY MORE ESTROGEN (FEMALE HORMONE) THEN TESTOSTERONE (MALE HORMONE)! If you wanna see what i look like look at my pics :P, I love people unless they are cheaters,because cheaters are worthy of nobody's time. So yea I'm just looking for a decent good guy if one exists. So send one my way and let's see if we click :)!! Also, I am going to college soon for business and cosmetology to own a salon, If you want to know more just message me.
MAKE SURE YOU CHECK OUT MY DANCE VIDEOS ON YOUTUBE.COM :) !!Copy and paste this into your navigation bar (where you type in the website)
Is this more of an ad than a rel question? Are you not getting enough traffif to your video? | |
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Posted: 2/23/2009 5:43:44 AM | So let me get this straight.......are you a hermaphrodite? You have male and female organs but you live as a female? Maybe you attract men who are a bit bi-curious?? But are too embarrassed by it to commit to a relationship with you. Just a thought.
Oh and yes, you do have very provocative pictures up on your profile and the whole thing screams out SLEEP WITH ME! So I would re-think the whole thing. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 5:49:38 AM |
So let me get this straight.......are you a hermaphrodite? You have male and female organs but you live as a female? Maybe you attract men who are a bit bi-curious?? But are too embarrassed by it to commit to a relationship with you. Just a thought.
Oh and yes, you do have very provocative pictures up on your profile and the whole thing screams out SLEEP WITH ME! So I would re-think the whole thing.
Pretty much what Dakota says here. You come off as wanting attention, and when a woman comes off as wanting attention certain men take it to mean you just want laid; the bi-curious theory is also viable. | |
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| Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt?
Posted: 2/23/2009 7:44:34 AM | Have you ever a picture speaks a 1000 words?
You're pics scream sex, I wanted you from the moment I saw them. | |
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