| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/1/2009 2:54:16 AM | Hello, everyone,
I actually have this question stuck in my mind for a long time, does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Myself is a engineering student in UBC, being an engineering student, the workload is extensive, it basically sucks up most of my time. And plus, 90% of the students in this program are guys. After spending so much time with your classmates and school work. Most of my college friends are engineering students and they are all guys. When I talk about this problem with one of my high school friends, who is in med school, he said he never had this kind of problem because more than half of his class are girls.
Have any of you guys had the same experience and what do you think.
cheers
wind
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/1/2009 9:29:47 AM |
I actually have this question stuck in my mind for a long time, does your profession have much to do with your social life?
No, it has nothing to do with my social life…lol! I do however have the intense need to find a balance of happiness and passion in contrast to my work life which is extremely humbling. I am a people person and my work does not include working with people which is the saddest experience I’ve ever had (thus far). I am looking forward to May when my contract period is OVER…lol.
Social life? This is my excuse: It’s winter….a time to reflect and find solitude…lol
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/1/2009 9:56:40 AM | My social life is completely separate from my work and I prefer it that way.
The conversation Monday morning when the boss comes in...
Boss: "How was your weekend"
Me: "Fine, very nice and yours "
Boss: "Good!"
I am of the belief YOU create your own social network and that it is always better in the long run to keep work life and personal life separate.
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/1/2009 3:41:26 PM | well in my profession my brain doens't get to shut off readily.... so that sux!
I try to keep my social life separate away from my profesional life....... cuz i have to behave a certain way at work..... grrrr! | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/1/2009 4:05:46 PM | I think it's healthier to keep your work persona & your social persona separate, especially if you're in a position of authority & need to retain the respect of those you work with. Easier said than done. When I'm at work, I go into professional mode. Sometimes I work alone at the office & often I'm able to work from home. At times I'm at the office with the rest of my 'team' or spend long hours on the road with various partners.
But ... being a social creature with many spontaneous & nutty thoughts roaming inside my head, I find it really difficult not to inject my sense of humour whenever an opportunity presents itself, although sometimes I do have to bite my tongue & hold back. 
For example, last night I had to do a third training session for two new guys, both very quiet & serious in nature. There were times when I needed to remain in serious teaching mode, but many times when I let my humour out to play. Both these guys had only seen me in professional mode at meetings or communicated with me via emails about work-related issues.
But yesterday, I had to train one in the office & the other on the road. Both got to see me in a more relaxed, non-executive scenario where I was able to let a little goofy humour out. I was elated to see these two quiet & serious dudes grinning from ear to ear or laughing at my wacky comments. At the end of the evening, both had come out their shells & thanked me for helping them & for making their shifts enjoyable. 
I understand that with some people & in some companies, this doesn't work & one is expected to always remain serious & professional.  I would die a slow, painful & boring death in a work environment like this. Actually, this is exactly what my employment counsellor told me a few years ago after she had me in her job-training class for several weeks. My spontaneous humour had her doubled over in tears of laughter many times during our classes & she said she had never had anyone like me in her class in her entire career but thoroughly enjoyed the experience & told me to ensure that I always worked in a fun environment.  | |
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Xavery
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Joined: 4/22/2007
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/1/2009 7:05:51 PM | | Yes, most of the socializing I do is with friends I have met through work. I never really wanted to become friends with the people I work with, but now that I have, I am so glad. It seems to me having friends in the work place makes the job a lot more fun and it is always good to be able to talk to someone else about what is going on at work. | |
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Joined: 6/15/2008
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/2/2009 10:13:40 AM | being a chef , i deal with people all the time @work , so much so that when i get home i have no desire to deal with most people and socialize ....I also find that alot of the time if I try and discuse some of the issuse that I face daily with anyone else they just don't understand....so most of the time the people that i work with are also my friends ...lol
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/2/2009 10:20:28 AM | my social life has expanded exponentially due primarily to POF.
I've met pple that work in my same profession and have networked through POF but of course I know them in a different capacity.
Most of the pple I've met have all had high polluting professional jobs that command authority but I know them only as fishie friends.......
It's kind of strange when that POF friendship crosses over to a professional relationship but at least we can wear the right hats to get our work done.
This has only happened recently sooo to answer OP question OT is that yes i try to keep them separate but it's really a small world after all! | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/2/2009 12:25:11 PM | | I had the same existence when taking Metallurgical Engineering, most people don't even know what it is let alone able to relate. I was the only female in class, to do well I spent many hours at school, working on labs and in my study group and they always seem to schedule my CAD time around midnight (that was before Auto Cad), so when I was not working my part time waitress job, or putting my children to bed (I had a husband who was not supportive in any respect and played the stereo or TV loud when I needed to study), I was in the library living and breathing Metallurgy, it is a temporary existence, school ends, you graduate and then you enjoy life because you are earning a good wage and can. I rarely socialized with my work mates, except for organized baseball games and company course, just because it is better to keep the two worlds somewhat separate, in my opinion. | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/2/2009 8:34:55 PM | | Nope, professional and personal life are always kep separate, half the time when i tell people what I do I get a blank stare anyways.. lol.. Only time I mix both is meeting friends who do the same type of work online at a business conference a few times a year.. | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/4/2009 11:46:47 PM | | My job doesn't interfer with my social life OP, I try as well to keep it seperate with my personal life. I have however made a couple of close friends there. But still try to keep it as professional as I can. | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/5/2009 12:24:04 AM | Yes.. as a busy West Van socialite and BF with the likes of Paris Hilton I find it is very difficult to have a social life and work.
...therefore... I have given up my career to dedicate myself 100% to my social life. | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/6/2009 1:51:18 AM | I think you're hitting on two different things here that haven't really been mentioned.
Firstly, investing in yourself by going to universiity requires time and money, and that takes away from the time and money you could be spending on attracting women. All that money you spent on education could have been spent leasing a really nice car. All that time you spent studying could have been spent at a bar. I think that's a major reason for the underrepresentation of men in university these days.
Secondly, the prestige of occupations can vary significantly across cultures. For my own major (business and IT), the cultural composition of the classes was not representative of the larger population. Could your target market for dates have the similar cultural makeup? | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/6/2009 1:19:48 PM | No But it does interfere with my dating life. I am an M.A. psychologist in private practice. Lots of men think I will analyze them if I date them. Like I want to be working when I am out socializing. Or they want me to me help them with a small problem they are having. Of course there also men who are intimidated because I am a high level Ballroom dancer. | |
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Xavery
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Joined: 4/22/2007
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/6/2009 5:48:52 PM | Not only do I work with people I socialize with but work has a lot to do with my lack of a social life at times. I seem to bring a lot of work home with me.
I find many men are intimidated me because I am a low level ballroom dancer, so I keep don't usually share this information.
Okay . . . back to work. | |
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| Does your profession have much to do with your social life?
Posted: 3/6/2009 7:35:48 PM | | Same way when it comes to school right now. There are no girls in the engineering program, so talking to them comes as a second. Since I started taking up yoga though, I have found that there are girls out there that I can and should talk to them. Just have to start off with saying something to them first, that isn't cheesy. | |
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