| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/3/2009 3:44:29 PM | | Ok, here's the deal, I met this guy on another site about four months ago. We talked constantly from the time we got up till the time we went to bed. I really felt as though we hit it off. Finally after about 2 months we met, I drove 4 hours to meet him and he drove four hours since he is an offshore guy, we met in the middle. That the first time since my ex husband I have felt that close and comfortable with someone. Two weeks later he drove up to see me, he was here the entire weekend (not at my house)and I thought it was great and from what he told me so did he. For this reason, I had totally stopped getting on this POF site. After that we were still talking, then all of sudden I quit hearing from him as much. Then it would be a couple of days. I asked him what the deal was and he ensured me it was because he was incredibally busy, that he really liked me a lot, that he was a little gun shy but he wasn't going to let that stop him and at the first of the month his work project would slack off, but he also promised he would make time for me everyday . But.... while I'm sitting home, pining away for this man (not any more) he gets mad when I ask him why he didn't call. I can't get him out of my head, but I feel like I'm wasting my time. As soon as I do stop thinking about him, he calls. HELP! | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/3/2009 6:05:34 PM | | sorry to hear this didn't work out for you guys,all you can do is keep looking . I think the first thing to learn about internet dating sites is that most men are going to be the same here as anywhere, most are looking for some NSA sex. Hang in there, there are some good ones,but you have to weed through the bad ones to find them. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/3/2009 6:21:29 PM | | Ok you guys! He called me tonight, about an hour ago wanting to see me, just to sit and talk about some things this weekend, he is down in High Island right now, so its not like we can just jump in the car and go. And he said that he is really sorry for being the way he has been. Should I just blow him off? This is so freaking confusing ,and take into consideration we have NOT had sex. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/4/2009 10:57:29 AM | We talked constantly from the time we got up till the time we went to bed.
Now that sounds pretty ridiculous right there, I can't imagine a man talking that much. Well you had to know that was gonna drop off eventually, it's only natural. Sounds like he's having to manage your needs already, don't be too needy. Tell him exactly what you expect in terms of contact, and if he can't supply that, cut him loose. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/4/2009 3:35:36 PM | Goodness, what a co-in-ky-dink..............
Now I just think you're looking for attention from the other people on the site.
Trust me hun! I don't need attention from this site. If I want attention all I have to do is go to a freakin bar! That's just the way it works with him, but I'll figure it out, thanks! I just thought some men on here might have some good advice for me. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/4/2009 3:38:10 PM | | Thanks txtodd! I realize a man doesn't always want to talk on the phone and they will eventually slack off on that after a while, and that has been my experience. I just don't think I've had one this confusing. Its probably because he's bad for me as to why I want to be with him, who knows? | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/5/2009 2:53:05 PM | | I had a similar experience - met a gal on POF who lived about 20 miles from me. We emailed back and forth and seemed to hit it off pretty well, so one day I drove up to the town where she lives and met her at a local bar of her choosing for a drink. We had a really nice time and ended up visiting for several hours. The email continued as before, all sweetness & light and I was enjoying getting to know her better. All of a sudden and for reason(s) unknown to me, she all but quit communicating with me. She did agree to meet me again - I drove the 20 miles up to see her at the agreed on time & place and she stood me up. I never did learn why she seemingly lost interest in me seemingly overnight. It sure was frustrating. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/6/2009 9:50:52 PM | TO ALL......
THIS IS JUST MY OPINION FROM WHAT I HAVE LEARNED IN BEING SINGLE.. IT CAN BE A VERY CRUEL WORLD OUT THERE FOR US SINGLES.
I WOULD LIKE TO THINK THAT I AM SPEAKING ON BEHALF OF SOME OF THE SINGLE MALE and FEMALE POPULATION...
I have learned that when you go looking that you will only find nothing more than users and losers.. this has happened to me many times.
(NOTHING!!!! Personal to the few of the Good Men that are out there) .
BUT! Some men paint a really pretty picture...
BUT!!! The problem is they use watercolors which RUIN the picture!!!
Just go out, have fun, and love will find you when the time is right...
MOST OF ALL HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS WHEN GETTING TO KNOW SOMEONE - BECAUSE WHEN YOU DO.... 75% OF THE TIME IT ENDS IN DISAPPOINTMENT...
MEN YOU CAN TRY MY OPINION OF NOT HAVING EXPECTATIONS WHEN GETTING TO KNOW A WOMAN.. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/7/2009 10:29:48 AM | | Hmm-mmm… perhaps so, EVLRUNT. I’m not sure if I’d characterize the world as “cruel” or if it’s just limited to single people, but it’s definitely not for the faint of heart. The world is what it is and we can either adjust or fall away. Seems that so many people are just out for themselves, the old “do unto others before they do unto you” mentality. If so, then that’s a shame. And I must admit that I’ve been on both sides of this issue – being dropped and have dropped (both with and without cause or reason). And I wish that I could explain my poor behavior other than to say that I changed my mind. Maybe the same is true with the ladies? But you also make what I think is an excellent point – that we have expectations… I do. (Can’t speak for everyone, but that sure makes a ton of sense!) Begs the question: how do you not have expectations? Just read a profile… the person wants this, doesn’t want that, must be this old, this young, this tall, this physique, this far away, etc. Yeah… no expectations? | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/15/2009 11:52:08 AM | Update since my last post..
Much to my surprise, I heard from her again. She more or less apologized for the way she had treated me earlier, and said she had acted like a heel. I appreciated her apology and told her so. I also mentioned I'd love to see her again. She indicated I could, but she was busy the next two weekends. I basically said I understood and would like to see her whenever our schedules would allow. She didn't respond to that or to a brief welcoming hello I sent her on another site I'm on and she has just joined.
It's pretty clear to me she's not interested in seeing me. I'm cool with that - thet's her prerogative. Maybe she thinks it's easier on me for her just to ignore my messages than for her to come out and say "thanks, but no thanks."
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/16/2009 11:18:34 AM |
Begs the question: how do you not have expectations? Just read a profile… the person wants this, doesn’t want that, must be this old, this young, this tall, this physique, this far away, etc. Yeah… no expectations?
I think you can lack expectations about the type of relationship that will develop, while being very particular about the type of person you'll have it with. | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/16/2009 11:25:57 AM |
Any thoughts
She's dating someone else. She either met you during a timeout they were having, or she met him after you. Either way, she's not looking to dump him for you.
But she may want to keep you in the fridge for later. Maybe she's worth waiting for... | |
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/16/2009 3:44:03 PM | Yes indeed^^^^what txtodd said. They like to keep their options open until the last possible minute. Fact is both parties know that. You either get together anyway or ya don't. Games suck.
Put absolutely no basis or intent on it. Just go with it and have no expectations of anything further than that. Some women can do that, some can't.
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| He sais he really like me, but I'm getting different vibes. Help!
Posted: 3/17/2009 9:13:10 AM | | Fact of Dating Life: Actions speak much louder than words so pay less attention to what he (or she) says and close attention to what he (or she) does. If a man (or woman) is interested in you, they will call on a regular basis and will take/make the time to see you. If this isn't happening, then it isn't going to. | |
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