| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 12:27:39 PM | The only reason I ask this question is that we all come from different circumstances.
What is it that your trying to achieve for the balance of your life? Most of us here are well beyond middle age unless you think you will be living life exactly the same at 90 than your living now. That's an unreasonable assumption. I doubt that any of us will be able to do now will be the same as 90. I know of no one in their 90's that are feeling the same as 45,55,65 or 75! So the question is what do you want to do with the few good years you have left and is wasting time thinking you will be able to do the things you do know really realvent to your future. This is not a question of your needs and wants now but do you really think they will be the same 20-30 years from now. Example: Even if you have pleanty of money now will it even be relevent in the future? Do you think if your soulmate dies before you when your in your 80's what do you think will be on your mind then. Your still a person with feelings. Sad but true. How do you think those people feel? Just think about it because you know damn well deep down inside. You won't be blowing off this question if you are real with yourself. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 12:48:33 PM |
What do I want from life now?
1.A peaceful 'nest' in which to roost.
And I'm so very thankful to have one.
2.Enough money to support living in a peaceful nest.
And I'm doing fine with that now, and will always find a way.
3.The ability to keep 'getting around' and find some adventures.
Yep, I've got that one down pat just fine.
Anything else good that is added/changed to that..... is....... a bonus! | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 1:07:17 PM | Do I know 'exactly' what I want from life? Well, not 'exactly', though I have a good idea of the direction its going. Mostly, I'm following the paths that I've set out for myself with enough leeway in case life makes me take another road.
Some of these journeys seem quick and secure...and others may take a longer bit of time with the options of changing my mind. Ain't Life interesting?! | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 4:02:22 PM | No, I don't know what "exactly" I want from life now, and I don't want to know.
I want to be financially stable, that's a given, but I want other aspects to be revealed as time passes. If I have a list and I can't have those things, I am doomed to disappointment, but it is more than that: if I have a list and do get them, then what? Do I start a new list? If so, then I don't know what EXACTLY I want.
I want to be as happy as I can possibly be for the rest of my life, but I do not want to be content or satisfied because that is the path to stagnation.
Someday, I want a partner in the Dance, but which steps that dance will take, I don't know; which music will play, I don't know.
And it remains to be seen who the partner will be, and if I ever meet him. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 4:03:38 PM |
Just think about it because you know damn well deep down inside. You won't be blowing off this question if you are real with yourself.
Well, I have to tell you I thought long and hard on this one -- and in perticular to this statment.
It should have read -- what are you going to do with your life, what are you going to give and make the world a better place.
Your post sir refers to one person's wants and I make the assertion that you get what you give -- so if i'm giving at 45 -- I will be doing so at 90 -- therefore I'll feel the same -- a part of a wonderful world.
And yes -- my first wife dies in 1995 -- I'm probably an authority on death -- that's why I live some much in life, and give when I can.
So, I'll feel great -- I'll be active and I'll still be living as much as I can. I'm never alone -- got God, Friends, Family, and my dog -- hope there is a woman at 90 -- think God might have my back on that one.
I think now I may have gotten to the root of your question - or close to it.
Best of luck sir | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 4:37:30 PM | Just to answer the thread title, no, I don't know exactly what I want from life now. Rightly or wrongly, I have a better sense of what I don't want from life, based on past experiences. I feel like I'm in transition, facing choices that are not clear cut.
I own a home and a lot of land in a beautiful part of the world. I run a seasonal, partnership business that I adore. However, I'm lonely living in a sparsely populated region, quite religious and 95% "coupled". My children have moved away to seek better job opportunities. Large extended family lives many provinces away. My friends with whom I have the most in common (bonded throughout our twenties) live still in another province.
I almost had exactly what I wanted from life but I disengaged two years ago and that was to spend the rest of my years in love, in laughter, in mutual support and shared pursuits. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 5:11:22 PM | I have my plan set up and it will be completed within the next couple of years. I want a summer home in this country and a winter home in a foreign country where I have friends that I will be joining. I will continue to live between the two countries as long as my health holds out.
I have been a widow for quite a few years now, and can't see myself remarrying which is the way currently I am choosing to live. I enjoy my time and don't get lonely. So, all is good. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 5:20:08 PM | *********************************************
Your post sir refers to one person's wants and I make the assertion that you get what you give -
Wanting certain things for ourselves as we age, does not preclude our giving also. The OP was asking what our hopes are for our futures. If your hope for your future is to continue giving and not getting, that is wonderful. If you wish for the question to be worded differently, you may start your own thread.
Since I am just as deserving as the people I give to, I also "want" things for myself.
There are still some things I want to do. I would love to slowly travel the US in a large RV a la Charles Kuralt and spending time to really explore different areas in different states.
I want to have the opportunity to have an active relationship with grandchildren. I want someone loving by my side. I want enough resources to cover my needs. I want to live in the "now" with no drama. Peace and love. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2009 5:50:52 PM | I really hope I am not living life as I am now at 90 or even a year from now. Ok, now getting back to your post. So negative. The few good years left? Good grief, you are only 57 and could easily have a lot of good years left.
I have always known exactly what I want from life. I have wanted the same things from life I did at the age of 10(42 years ago), so yes if I am still alive at 90 I will most likely still want the exact same things from life.
The older you get the more relevent money is. Do you think older people with a lot of money just don't age or is it more realistic to think that they buy the look of youth? Of course they buy it.
Why is it sad but true that older people have feelings? It would be sad if they didn't have feelings.
I have never lost a spouse through death but I would think it would be horrible at any age.
If a person is basically healthy the only thing that ages them is their mind. I see so many people that are as young as 40, feeling they have to "act' older because of their age. Honestly at 52 I have a lot more energy than I did when I was 18. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 6:05:23 PM | Good question, and one many people rarely ask themselves.
Periodically throughout my life I have examined where I was, considered things and then decided where I wanted to go. I even write this stuff down. I believe going through this process has helped me lead a full and satisfactory life. By the way, life situations and goals always change over time so I thoughfully reconsider my life every five to ten years. Someone once said "An unexamined life is not worth living." | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 6:18:33 PM | I would like to wake each morning in gratitude to my god, and learn to live in the day I am allotted. I want to know what are blessings, what are lessons, and what is just plain living.
Taking time to appreciate every smile and song.
That is truly ALL I really want. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 6:26:39 PM | A comfortable pair of shoes, a full belly, and a warm place to sleep.
Yeah, my expectations are low, but that sure takes care of the stress as well.
(I believe the first line was a quote from Spiro Agnew) | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 8:34:40 PM | | No, life is not static, it is ever changing...and for me to have set in concrete thoughts and expectations seems somewhat...stilting. Now, I have loosely based plans...subject to change. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/5/2009 10:08:07 PM | | Life is getting smaller, more simple and more elemental as we speak. I can only imagine at 90 life will boil down to infantile necessities, like being able to hold a spoon to my mouth so I can eat, or have someone there to do it for me. Hopefully, I'll be able to roll out of bed and get to the bathroom before I soil my sheets and my drawers. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2009 11:45:03 PM | I was very sad - when I got dumped out of a long marriage - five years ago.
I figured I would have a nice girlfriend in six months max. That did not happen (I’m too dang picky) so ...........
I still look pretty good (got reminded of that just today by a cute 30 something gal) my health is pretty good (for an old fart) so .....
I’ve reached a point that I am just fine - by myself.
I was married most of my life - I guess it is fine with me to be alone from here out.
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“Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?”
#1 - I have hope for the scared and hungry of the world.
#2 - I would love to see the politicians - start giving a pOOp about the people and stop only trying to make themselves and their buddies richer. That will NEVER happen.
#3 - I’d like to have a sweet girlfriend but ........ that also is looking like a no go - unless some fluke happens.
#4 - My little dog is getting pretty old - I hope when she goes ..... she don’t suffer.
#5 - I wish my cat would stop having so much fun - doing the EXACT OPPOSITE of what I want him to do. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 5:23:36 AM | Since I’ve been about 40, I’ve always known what my preferences are from any group of given current choices. But because things change so much, things not always in my control – people I’ve grown close to are suddenly gone, things I’ve become familiar with are one morning different, the way I’ve done things for so long no longer works – because life is so fluid and subject to so much unpredictability, knowing what I want from life from here on out is rather difficult to say.
Personal happiness and sense of purpose is always up there. Having someone to share things with is always paramount and knowing that I’ve left some sort of positive ‘mark’ or influence in those things that I come in contact with is always important to me. But I couldn’t say with any certainty, even past the noon hour today, what I want from the choices that life gives me. But I do have enough faith in myself that I can think ‘on the fly’ well enough to make the choice and, more often than not, I’ll make the better choice for myself.
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 6:04:25 AM | Let me try to but my question in better pespective. I assume that each person is a least 45 reading this. By this time in your life you should have some idea of what you are looking for out of life while taking the aging process into concideration as well as the fact that your life could change in a heartbeat. This question was only meant to be a wake up call for those people on this site that have not set aside time to make your priorities, wish list, bucket list. I have done my soul searching and look forward to each and every day. I have set prorities and realistic goals set for myself based on what I feel I will be able to physical and mentally enjoy as I age. I know my limits now and what they may be in the future. While this may sound pesimistic to some it is actually optomistic. Each day I get up I have something to look forward to doing. Each day is different and I am learning to more flexable as I age. Yesterday, for example, I wasn't expecting to take care of one of my grandchildren but at the last minute I was needed and we had a ball! I also know that I was a little more tired later than I would have been at let's say 47 and I would expect that even keeping up with a semi-healthy lifestyle at 67 I might even have a few more aches and pains. The message I was trying to convey was that everyone needs to think about the future and plan for it or IT will never happen. It might not happen anyway but at least you had a plan! Best of luck to all! Stop living in the past and look forward to your future whatever it may be. Plan happiness and it just might happen damn it! | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 6:07:10 AM | excellent question, op.
i have my life pretty much as i want it...for now. i enjoy my work, have a great living space, awesome people around me, no debt...i can't ask for much else.
so for the future, i hope to work toward some causes to benefit others. for example, i'd like to see horse slaughter ended. i'd like to see writing across the curriculum ~ at all levels. i'd like to do some publishing to share my knowledge of natural healing with others. i'd like to see more land preserved and rescued from developers.
oh, yes...and some sunshine. | |
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| Do you know what exactly what you want from life now?
Posted: 3/6/2009 7:24:50 AM | | I hope not to live to be anywhere near 80+. My partner warned me repeatedly he would die before he reached 50. I never took him seriously, but now I've spread his ashes to the wind before we reached 48. Having seen what little good planning and looking toward the future did, how what I thought would be will never be, right now I live for right now and plan to finish my life that way. I hope to live long enuf to see my daughters all raised, educated and off to a good start in their adult lives. After that I don't much care what happens to me. In a perfect world I would retire to a home on a lake or 10 acres with a few of em consumed by a stocked pond. Or I mind never retire and spend my remaining days driving an 18-wheeler and seeing the country. | |
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. I find your questions quite valid for our ages, but many aren't ready to grasp that life is finite and roller coasters do slow down and come to a standstill at some point.... or shoot off the edge and crash 
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.... shame we waste so much of it arguing over it's or others imperfections.