| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 1:28:29 PM | I was wondering, when the chips are down and everybody turns against you or all you have is yourself what do u do?
I just start new hobbies and on other things. No point on worrying about ppl with their mood swings and vendetas against you. You have one life. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 1:36:54 PM | I dunno, I don't think everyone has at once been against me.... I have always lived my life like screw em, I do the best I can if someone can't dig it it is time for them to bail. I sometimes read scriptures or share with friends or family what I am going thru. That always helps
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 2:08:31 PM | | More often than not,my back's against the wall.I just come out swinging and carry forth leaving any naysayers and emotional vampires in the dust. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 2:18:25 PM | | Goodtimer2008, I walk to my own drummer and own my own drum, which helps. Maybe it's just me but I find having live and let live friends, means none of us are against the other(s). Perhaps folks who are in more of a wonder bread or cookie cutter communities have the problem? Have always lived in more holistic minded areas. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 2:27:21 PM | Isn't there a t-shirt about this? Yeah! It reads:
Just cuz everybody isn't out to get you doesn't mean you aren't paranoid. LOL! | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 2:50:53 PM | Ah, sweetie. There are always times that we feel the "whole world" is against us. And I think it happens more when we are younger. As we get older with more life experience, we learn that it's not true, it's just our own perceptions.
"Poor poor pitiful me." "Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I think I'll go eat worms." Those used to be my "theme songs" when I was younger.
In looking at your profile you say you are manic depressive. I'm guessing that may have a lot to do with your perceptions. I think many women understand about not having control of their emotions what with having monthly hormone upheavals, pms, menopause, etc. There are also many people out there that are depressives and need medication to keep their chemicals on an even level.
I hope you are seeing someone about your situation and are working on finding the right meds for you.
Be well. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 2:57:20 PM |
carry forth leaving any naysayers and emotional vampires in the dust.
Emotional Vampires...thats nothing. Wait until you meet up with an Emotional Warewolf...those ba stards rip you emotions to shreads. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 5:36:53 PM | I surround myself with people who love me.
I'll head out to spend some time with my sister and her kids or I will make a special trip to visit friends I haven't had time to see for a while.
I don't think I've ever had a time where absolutely everyone is bugging me. My sister and I are very close. If nothing else, I always have her. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 6:32:35 PM | I go spend quality time with the people that I care about the most.
I go do one of things on my bucket list that keeps growing each year.
I go pamper myself. I take a hot bath or get a massage and do my nails, toes... just primp and feel pretty 'n' feminine again. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/10/2009 9:26:40 PM | | I become a hermit and concentrate on me, my wants, my needs, and my interests until I feel complete again. Selfish? Maybe but spending a great deal of time alone w/ yourself is the best way to tell if you are worth having around. If you can't stand to be alone w/ youself, who else will spend time w/ you? | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/11/2009 3:09:28 AM | I don't think it's as much that everyone is against you, as the realization that maybe no one is "for" you that really gets people down.
Why? Because not everyone can be against you - they don't even know you. That may be part of the problem. Sometimes (actually on a regular basis) you have to flush the toilet and let a fresh crop of friends (usually more acquaintances than friends) flow into your life.
Just choose them wisely, or they'll only result in that "nobody is for you" feeling again soon enough. May as well spend the time and energy on people who are worth spending it on than losers.
Just break your normal habits and go do things you may never have thought of doing before. As the scenery changes, so do the people. I tried the withdrawal thing years ago and all it resulted in were even higher walls to climb out of it. I see the same thing in people all around me, but it's not something you can often talk them out of doing - they have to learn for themselves. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/12/2009 3:25:57 AM | I pick myself up, dust myself off and try all over again....cuz I've got high hopes, yes, I've got high hopes, I've got, hot apple pie in the sky hopes....
Karoke Forums! Kewl! | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/12/2009 4:37:27 AM | Only time I felt like the chips were down was right after my second divorce from my childrens mother.
The kids was grown and had kids of their own.
The ex was mad because 6 weeks after the divorce I had 2 young ladies living with me.
She started telling lies about me and turned the kids against me.
I was not able to see my grandkids and it made me sad.
I kept me head up and went to music festivals and Rainbow gatherings.
I was living my life wheather they liked it or not.
I eventualy got my kids to see the truth when I proved the ex had cheated and lied since right after we was married the first time.
The kids learned a new respect for me and now believe I am the best father ever.
They now realize all the sacrifices I have made in order to raise them into really great people.
They made their mother realize this also.
Now their mother never lies and is my FWB.
She feeds me for my company and sex.
She is happier now than she ever was during her entire life.
So believe in yourself OP and always put your best foot foward.
Live your life like You mean it.
Never let others bring you down to their level.
Yes,,,, They were both half her age.
One was 21 and the other was 23. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/12/2009 4:54:59 AM |
The ex was mad because 6 weeks after the divorce I had 2 young ladies living with me.
I gots to know, were they both half her age? | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/12/2009 5:15:34 AM | | I'm with nebula22 on this one. When the chips are down, get two young ladies to move in with you. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/12/2009 5:50:38 AM | OP...here's a quote taken from my profile that is my not only my favorite quote of all times, but that is a source of inspiration and comfort to me, specially when I'm down. I know it's weird to put so much into one or two lines spoken by someone else, which is also an oxymoron given the context of what is said, but here it is...
"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself."
~Friedrich Nietzsche~
To me, no truer words were ever spoken...here's another one that I like equally and that basically says the same thing, only different...
"The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently."
~Friedrich Nietzsche~
Remember those words OP and you'll be fine...good luck to you:)
JMO
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/12/2009 7:40:43 AM |
I would suggest you look for positive things in your life
even when the chips are down..
you have many other things to be grateful for
focus on them..give thanks...
then find something else to be grateful for
focus on them..give thanks
Absolutely. If you need a little perspective about your situation, go live for a while in a war-torn country, volunteer in a soup kitchen, reassess in your life exactly why it is you feel sorry for yourself. You might come away feeling very lucky and grateful. Just by chance you were born in a prosperous country; you likely have all the advantages and opportunity in the world to change your situation for the better.
Good friends are important. But they don't just appear out of nowhere. Go with an attitude not of "what can they do for me" but, what can you do for them? You gets what you gives.
If none of this works, try medication.
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 3/12/2009 11:36:30 AM | | Yeah I woke up thought about the ppl who turned their back on me what I gave to them what they gave nothing in return how much better of a friend I am and a better person all around I am. It was quite easy to realize it's just the area I am in, I have helped 4 strangers this week it makes me think at how many ppl I have helped and what kind of person I am. The numerous jobs I have given, the ignoring of what others have said about others it goes on continous. Not to be modest I trully am the word kindness. | |
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| When the chips are down?
Posted: 11/6/2009 5:04:30 PM | OP: Read "Self Reliance" an essay by Ralph Waldo Emerson
"There is a time in every man's education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion; that though the wide universe is full of good, no kernel of nourishing corn can come to him but through his toil bestowed on that plot of ground which is given to him to till."
"Ne te quaesiveris extra."
"Man is his own star; and the soul that can
Render an honest and a perfect man,
Commands all light, all influence, all fate;
Nothing to him falls early or too late.
Our acts our angels are, or good or ill,
Our fatal shadows that walk by us still."
Epilogue to Beaumont and Fletcher's Honest Man's Fortune
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