| | I Like them Firm - Handshakes. How about you?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I am talking of Handshakes. Of course. And wondering if most people shake hands when they meet a new Fish? It IS a part of body language so I wonder if the "wrong" kind MIGHT get a meet off to a "bad start" and some people might not even realize it?
I met a new guy at work today and it reminded me of how a handshake can "possibly" set the tone.... when meeting someone new? I have always liked a Firm handshake from a lady and can't say why. And a wimpy handshake from a guy just rubs me the wrong way. What do you prefer? | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 5:13:12 PM |
I am talking of Handshakes. Of course. And wondering if most people shake hands when they meet a new Fish? It IS a part of body language so I wonder if the "wrong" kind MIGHT get a meet off to a "bad start" and some people might not even realize it?
I met a new guy at work today and it reminded me of how a handshake can "possibly" set the tone.... when meeting someone new? I have always liked a Firm handshake from a lady and can't say why. And a wimpy handshake from a guy just rubs me the wrong way. What do you prefer?
OP -- to me, a handshake is just as important as the spoken word. How you choose to shake my hand tells me a lot about who you are, and what you're all about. The direction, the pressure, the stance you take...all of it.
It's funny - we literally JUST talked about this the other day in classes lol. Non verbal communication is an art form, and how you shake someone's hand, and how you present it and deliver it says more sometimes than any word ever will.
And yea...wimpy handshakes annoy me to no immediate end. It's quite often that I've looked at people that have done that to me, and I gaze at my hand, and then at them with the "What the f*ck was THAT?!" look and say, "Okay, I'll give you one more chance to shake my hand the right way". | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 5:18:06 PM |
What do you prefer?
I really don't care, but if I sense someone is about to try to prove something with a handshake, I'll go out of my way to try and crush his hand. I hate that sort crap. It's like guys slapping each other on the butt in a locker room. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 5:20:03 PM | Now that wasn't nice at all. I thought this was gonna be about pasta!
Men...hands extended...one hand only until met at the "crook" of the thumbs...then firm handshake..one hand only. I don't want you grabbin' my fingers either.
Good friend...maybe the two hander.
Women...never offer. If she presents...and social...softer...less engaged ~ business...similar to guy but still wait for the offer.
Now...can we talk about fusilli | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 5:21:43 PM | I hate shaking hands - especially when guys get me in the kung-fu grip... knock it off - some of us have been known to cry when locked in a death grip. As for shaking hands with any potential "new fish" - I don't think so... if I'm shaking hands - that's all they're getting unless I use it to pull them in for a kiss.
For business I have to shake hands all the time... I prefer to nod in acknowledgement - more hygienic. Recently, someone shook my hand and I had noticed they wiped their DRIPPING nose just seconds before - YUCK... I'm no wuss, but I dived for the sani-gel as soon as his back was turned. Who made these friggin' rules? Makes me wish I was in Japan and could just bow. | |
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Ron9
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Posted: 3/10/2009 5:24:18 PM | I normally just lick her on the cheek.
If she is extra cute - I give her ear a couple of slurps too. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 6:02:59 PM | I vote for firm as well. I was once introduced to a man who was running to be Prime Minister, and it was like shaking hands with a dead fish.  | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 7:22:57 PM | | All I can say is, a handshake is not a handshake if it is not firm. Kinda like a hug isn't a hug if it's limp and wimpy. On the other hand, a handshake is usually the form of greeting for a total stranger, as opposed to a hug. Hugs can get iffy. I don't mind someone giving me a wimpy handshake, but if someone I don't know well hugs me too closely it's extremely uncomfortable for me - but that's just me. So yeah, a wimpy limpy handshake won't make much of an impression, nor will anything wimpy limpy. Firmness counts but too much firmness, too soon, if it's MORE than a handshake... OK sorry, I know that wasn't the topic. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 7:32:19 PM | i have a handshake for when i greet guys and one for when im meeting women
i actually correct other guys if the shake is weak to me, if your my "brother" as in non blood family we grab wrists.
for women i offer palm angled as well as cupped, it stems from my belief of women are ladies and should be treated as such with a simple nod added. | |
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Posted: 3/10/2009 8:04:43 PM | IMO firm handshakes are important for men and women. Yes, it is courtesy for a man to wait for the woman to offer her hand before trying to shake hands. Not sure why that is.
What I don't like are the wimpy handshakes some women give out, the one where they basically shake with only their fingers. I find that very affectatious, like they are "putting on airs." | |
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Posted: 3/11/2009 2:30:10 AM | Yes... Its got to be a firm hand shake between guys . Any man giving me a limp hand shake has made a bad impression . I obviously wouldn't greet a date with the same handshake that I would a male colleague for instance. I think its quite important actually and sets the tone. There's no accepted universal type of etiquette when it comes to meeting and greeting I don't think .
I think a handshake for a date is a little too formal and aloof. If I like the look of her then I'll more than likely , give her a firm but playful smack across her arse. Then grab the back of her head , firmly but gently. Tilt her to one side so she's off balance and at my mercy. Then give her a long , slow , sensual kiss. That can prove a winner but also can leave you red-faced [ literally & metaphorically ] from a stinging slap and resulting shame.  I like a hug as well though. All the aforementioned are infinitely more preferable than hostility , apathy or ignorance. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2009 3:11:41 AM | I have arthritis in my wrists and finger knuckles...Some guys think if they dont squeeze the shit out of your hand, then that aint a shake...so now on bad days, I just put my hand out somewhat, but say sorry I hurt my wrist.
So think before you shake...Its a greeting, not a test. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2009 4:57:55 AM | If I like the look of her then I'll more than likely , give her a firm but playful smack across her arse. Then grab the back of her head , firmly but gently. Tilt her to one side so she's off balance and at my mercy. Then give her a long , slow , sensual kiss. That can prove a winner but also can leave you red-faced [ literally & metaphorically ] from a stinging slap and resulting shame. I like a hug as well though.
Holy moly, you're makin' me rethink the hug thing! Phew, haven't even had coffee yet!  You're right, when on a date, a handshake is kinda formal. But don't you think upon first meeting a hug should be a little one? Not limp, but not too passionate all-over-you?  | |
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| I Like them Firm - Handshakes. How about you?
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:44:27 AM | | I can't stand a limp noodle handshake, it also can send a message that you don't care to meet that person. I was taught when young just how to give a handshake and it's always firm and I know exactly where to grab the hand. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2009 8:05:01 AM | You're shaking hands with someone for the first time- how do you know where their hand has been? Have they just come from the bathroom and not washed their hands? Were any of their fingers inserted up to the second knuckle searching for an extra large bogey? Are they the type of person to sneeze into their hands without using a tissue/handkerchief?
Don't get me wrong, I'm not somebody like Adrian Monk who washes his hands after every handshake, but after many years of going in public Men's Rooms and seeing how many people don't wash their hands before leaving, I'm definitely cautious with who I shake hands. Usually I reserve handshakes for important things like job interviews. | |
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Posted: 3/11/2009 11:29:24 AM |
I Like them Firm. How about you?
You like them firm. And a wimpy "handshake" from a guy "rubs" you the wrong way.
Ha ha, when he first posted this, "handshakes" wasn't in the title, and it was in one of the dating forums, not "Off Topic." He was going for cheap innuendo--that's what I was responding to. | |
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