| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:05:13 PM | Ok, So the truth is...I really want the Threesome of terror to review my profile ...anyone else who wants a stab can have a go too. (Ha! You do too know who you are)
Anyways, I do know I need a couple more pictures - but I need some time with photoshop, all my files are too big without cropping and I've lost some weight recently and want newer shots anywho. Also...yes or no on shots with my kids? I can't decide if I love or hate that when other peeps do it.
Ann(ie) | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:06:39 PM | Well done  will peek now properly, isn't it nice to not be lurking in the shadows lol... get your tissues and issues ready | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:08:37 PM | Listen Chica (to quote someone else)
My issues are my own...lol. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:35:26 PM | K I am not Scoobydoo but I think I can solve this mystery... First your headline blows chunks.. Way to put the entire male viewing audience on the defensive. Before they even read your opener (which is worse)you are already saying basically look a$$holes don't waste my time. Not a warm and fuzzy start. We move swiftly to party of one, table for mega bitter please. Its clear very quick you are immersed in a very painful situation. way too revealing to randomers. just say divorce in the works, will be final blah blah. thats it.
Second way too overwhelming in the lets be an instant couple just add water and stir department. I like everything you said, its the delivery that sucked. All of those things are great, and will appeal to many men. But you and him are not a you and him yet. so you say all of it but in a this is who I am and what I enjoy. Much less intense and more inviting that way.
Now you have teenagers, great, and fab you mentioned em, but all the they ignore me but want me around has to go. It's like you said I have 2 jobs and when not working kids keep me home please come visit me in jail lol. How bout I have two teenage sons and so welcome a distraction from just being a mom. Because teenagers suck, I have em I know. So make him your hero and rescuer not your weekly visitor to your cell.
Make it a bit less intense, and more about you as a woman and not I will bribe you with food and domestic loving and keep you.. Because thats how its reading. so bright and breezy, all about you, and then hit them with your requirements, tell em what flavor man you want and they will see and know if its them. move the divorce line to the bottom, don't open with it. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:41:36 PM | | blows chunks??? Ohhhhhhh my....I'm definitely off to the edit screen. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 7:44:30 PM | lol run forrest.... you will be fine... you need to convey your humor and charm, it's all there just needs rearranging | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 8:38:19 PM | | Massive improvement, will type more but shattered so i will leave fine tuning to the pro's.. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 9:08:40 PM | I like the picture of you with the glasses on. Very nice. I'd use that first.
But look,,, you're giving us guys way tooo much credit with all those words... Heck, we've only been walking erect for the last million years or so, and now we got all these words to deal with? Way too much for the average male brain!
Why do we love Nascar so much? Bright lights, lots of action, and very little thinking involved!
I'd suggest a good cropping. Go in and find the stuff that is most interesting and get rid of the stuff that is not so much so. I'd definately chop a good 1/3 if not more.
Good start on the profile though! | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/11/2009 9:20:26 PM | Cropping? That reminds me that I like to scrapbook too. hehehehe...ok, point taken. But tomorrow is another day - well actually, technically, here, today is today.
Thanks for the male viewpoing top | |
|
| diving in again
Posted: 3/12/2009 1:42:22 PM | | I'd really like a few more peeps to take a peek now that I've given it a massive overhaul. Thanks in advance! | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 1:59:04 PM | Hi there Annie
I didn't see what you had before TT got her say, but now that she has - it's time for my say... I will try to be gentle...
There could well be a problem with the separated tag. I know, I know... it's how it is! Try to elaborate slightly within your profile - say that you have been separated for how ever long, is a divorce pending? Tell the guys that there is NO chance of a reconciliation and no emotional baggage contained within.
Do you want children? The dreaded Prefer Not To Say... Either you do, don't or you are open/undecided. I don't want any more children so on my profile I have No, but within the body of the profile I state something on the lines of 'although I do not personally want to give birth to any more children, I am open to meeting a guy who already has children'. This covers most aspects.
I Do actually like what you have written although it would be great to *know* more about YOU as a person - your personality etc.
See... that wasn't too bad was it? Obviously it IS just my opinion... 
Ps: Who are the 3some of Terror?  | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 2:06:53 PM | Sun - some good points - particularly about the children - That's exactly where I stand, I've cancelled my subscription to having them the traditional way but as long as they are already here, the more the merrier. Check - fixed that
And, yeah, the separated thing sucks. Divorce will be final this year...I'm going short and breezy on that. check.
And, crap, I need a personality too? Geeeze, this dating thing is going to be expensive...first I needed photos, now I need clothes to go out in, and now I gotta get a personality??? Well, you gotta do what you gotta do. I'll definitely consider getting one of these. How much you think they cost?
Hehehe they aren't really the threesome of terror...but it struck terror in my heart to think I might get reviewed by them but they DO give the best reviews. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 2:25:48 PM | Sounds like I missed the good stuff. Well, I guess I can help sweep up after Hurricane Tallulah. :)
OK, I can help a bit, but I suspect I'll mostly be repeating other people's posts for emphasis. Since you didn't listen to them, I guess I'll have to be meaner. Muhahah.
*strokes Boots the Cat in evil mastermind style*
Your objective, Annie, is going to be getting butts in the seats, because you've got a few red flags what can't be whitewashed. Namely: kids, separated (big one), wanting kids-prefer not to say (total dealbreaker). Even a pic in a hardhat holding Boots won't help you out as it stands.
Think of your basic information as bait, and your About Me as the hook (we'll get to the latter shortly).
Now, each choice in bait will cause some fishies to turn up their noses, draw others in, or won't really matter anyhow...like whether you own a car or not. Separated is an ugly one, which will require a sentence or two in your About Me...it might not chase the fishies off immediately, but your silence on the matter probably will.
Being vague on wanting kids, however, immediately turns off men who want kids AND men who don't. There are a few, like me, who are in the mushy-middle, but not many. Honestly, you're over 40...do you seriously see yourself with more kids? Make the gut check, and answer truthfully. "Prefer not to say" = "prefer not to contact".
Too few interests. Interests that may help: type of food/music/movies/literature you like. Fave bands is nice. Also, a big draw for your demographic might be whether you like to cook or bake. On a personal note, I confess to having a virtually pavlovian response to a woman who knows what the dials on an oven are for. Probably because I'm sick of my own cooking. Moving on.
Your About Me is rock solid. You've definitely got your own voice here, and it is clear and succinct...the kind of profile a "Real Man" will appreciate. But you do need a better opening line, because that's the one they're going to see while surfing. Be bold, or funny, or whatever you like. "Things I did today" is a blog entry, not an enticement from a potential mate.
Back to getting butts in the seat. You've blocked out a lot of men with your email restrictions. Suggestion: change the age limit to "Older than X". That'll cut out the MILF hunters and leave you open for older gents who might not have hangups about kids. Chop out the 75 mile radius. I've said it a hundred times: it sucks to be in love but 76 miles away. Consider cutting out the talk/email and hangout restrictions *just in case* there are a few shy guys and clued out guys who didn't consider their preference properly.
I like the last line in your About Me. I would probably write just because I'd know I'd get a response. There's a lot of guys with badly bruised egos in here who'd feel the same. Not to say my ego is bruised, of course. *cough*
Hope this helps. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 2:41:01 PM | Ok....REALLY helpful fox....but I took out all the food stuff because TT said I sounded like I was trying to trap them in jail!!!!!!! LOL. I think my changes might not be sticking cause i DID fix the kids thing. I definitely cancelled my subscription to that (see above post, lol).
As far as the 76 miles away thing...this, my friend, is not manitoba - it is the Boston area. So, while I think nobody who lives further away is going to be willing to drive that...I guess I'm willing to split the difference I'll fix that. I'm off to edit again. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 4:27:34 PM | | Well my american geography sucks. If you're in a densely-populated area, you can ignore that one then. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 8:43:46 PM | | It's ok if your geography sucks - they make these cool map things, and a compass...and if all that wasn't cool enough, now you can buy a GPS and use it's compass. I do love a good gadget. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 9:09:27 PM | Hi Ann(ie),
I will just agree with the other recommendations:
-The pic with glasses is better.
-It's a lovely profile, and fun to read, but it says what you do more than who you are.
-Include more interests. Not that you're no fun  , but visually it seems too small a list.
-I got confused with the headline, but you explained it in the end.I think it definitely makes sense now. -- not a criticism, just a comment (I'm slow).
- And to reemphasize the point, we guys do look at all of your info. up top before deciding to read the profile. So you may need to work on that part(sorry for generalizing, but that subject is out of my league).
-As for Photoshop, there is an option when you're saving the file to make it a smaller size, but that will reduce the quality, too.
Good luck | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 9:12:40 PM | Oh yeah, forgot the most important thing....
What is Geocaching? (just personal curiosity...remember I'm slow). | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 9:24:54 PM | Spurs, it's a high tech hide and seek game that you get to use all those wicked cool BILLION dollar government sattelites to play. I don't know if its ok to post websites here but if you try the obvious www.com you will find it. It's fun, and it can be as challenging as you like - casual short time fun all the way up to strap on your hiking boots or need an ATV to get there kinda fun.
Ok, clue ME in too...not sure what you mean about improving the up top stuff. I'm not sure there is too much that can be done in some departments. Like, I'm separated. I'll be quite pleased when I can put divorced in there...but for now, I'm stuck with it.
More interests? I dunno - do you think any guys are the slightest bit interested in my embroidery sewing machine, scrapbooking, and girl scouting??
And I tried making it more narrative and about me but folks said men couldn't read. Errrm, ok, they said I was giving them too much CREDIT for reading and that I needed to chop it down. Please elaborate some more because I know I can only please some of the people...but thats why you ask for opinions | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/12/2009 10:11:24 PM | Well, let's see as far as interests go...I can just say so much off of geocaching. It says you like the outdoors, you mention something about liking camping. May be you like hiking or other geocaching related activities. And if you don't want to list embroidery, etc., just say you like Arts and Crafts. Just take your time, you will surely come up with more.
Oh, and by that stuff on top, I meant to reiterate what foxinsox said about the kids situation. It maybe a potential negative. Although I can't say anymore than that as I just wouldn't know what to tell you.
Narrative? you don't gotta make it long like that. Make a list like the one you currently have, but keep it shorter and simple. I did that on my profile, too. Like I said, nothing wrong with what you have right now, just tell us more about who you are and not just what you do. An easy way to start is to complete the sentence, "I like to..." or "I enjoy...".
Hope that helps. I didn't mean to be confusing earlier. And, thank you very much for introducing me to geocaching. It's going on even here in lil ol TX. I'm excited. | |
|
| diving in
Posted: 3/13/2009 1:47:30 PM | | "My divorce is in the works, ex is out of the picture so wrap up the divorce proceedings also goes here." -- I'm not sure you need to divulge everything in your profile. Women never tell me anything until the third date or so. Women have no problem opening up emotionally, but they seem to have a serious problem telling me that she's married with 10 kids. I'll open up emotionally if she'll open up objectively. It's like a trade. | |
|
Home
login 
