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Posted: 3/13/2009 10:39:35 AM | | I met this one guy on a different website and he was wonderful. Well come to find out we had went on a few dates about 6 years ago, I had not been a resident of the place i met him at and was just visiting family I also didnt tell him that, well we went on about 3 dates and then i left to go back to college. 6 yers later we run into eachother and hit it off wonderfully. Almost love at first conversation! A few weeks later he calls me and tells me we dated before. he was that guy so long ago. So i go over to his house and talk about it. We end up being ok and he states that "hes falling for me and wants to be serious with me, to be able to call me his gf." I agreed. i leave the next morning for work and havent heard from him since, its been about 3 weeks. Hes avoided me like the plague. This really hurt me bad and im having a hard time getting over it. I have no idea what happened!!! Any help? | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 10:44:15 AM | I would send him a message/Email. Saying that if he dont talk too you then its over! I would not sit around wasteing your time for someone that wont give you there's!
There must be a reason that he aint talkin too you. And if he is just blanking your call's/text's/e mails then i would take that as a sign,
Good luck | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 10:59:32 AM | | I did that. I have just about tried every thing to get him to talk to me. i cant for the life of me figure out what i did that was so horrible to be treated like a piece of garbage. I just got ready to start dating again after getting out of a 6 year mentally abusive relationship and wasnt even sure my heart could handle any thing more than friends. Then when i finally let my guard down and start to have feeling for some one this happens. I feel like im doomed! I no longer have faith. Im not sure i want to be hurt like this over and over again. What is the point? Sorry im complaining, it just hurts! I want to know desperately what i did, I need closure and dont know how to get it. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:03:18 AM | Hey no you go for it, I know how you feel... I got my own topic on here too.,
So you have done that and still nothing?! Sorry too hear about your other relationship.
You need too make sure you do one thing.. Look after number 1. YOU! Get this guy out your life. Sadly too me it sounds like thats the way it is going... Then do things for you. Go out. Be with your Friends. Always keep busy.
Feel free too message me if you fancy a chat... | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 11:11:58 AM | | His curiosity with you was fulfilled when you provided him with the one night stand he wanted and now your upset. Just move one and quit beating yourself up. I would get the BS detector a tuneup and not fall for a guy who wants to be bf/gf after a breaf meeting between the sheets. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 12:35:22 PM | | Sweet revenge. That or he's lost interest. You didn't sleep with him (or maybe you did) so he got what he wanted. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 1:02:57 PM | | Yeah...he's moved on. If you've contacted him with no results, he wasn't really all that serious about it. Sucks, but that's likely the case. It's hard to say why people do the things they do, but sometimes they do pretty messed up things. Get over it and move on...it'll be for the best! And if he comes rolling in again...don't fall for it so easily...take it one day at a time. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 7:49:51 PM | I'm sorry, OP, but it really does sound like he's exacted(ing) revenge.
Your first message reads (to me, anyway) that 6 yrs. ago (assuming you 2 are the same age?... that would have you two at 16/17 yrs old back then) you two went out 3 times, hit it off really well, and.... boom...you poofed on him...no explanation.
6 yrs later... after running into each other once again, he brought it up to you... 3 weeks later, mind you... that you two had been together in the past. It's my guess that his ego is in no way going to tolerate you're not having remembered him, or the pain that you caused him, let alone apologize(-d) for it... on your own.
OR...
He's just a bigger jerk now, than he was then... it's just that back then, you didn't/couldn't see it.... you only had 3 dates, and were so young.
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Posted: 3/13/2009 8:11:29 PM | I agree its revenge, do unto other as you would want done unto you. Sorry-it hurts, I
know. Move on its okay-don't pine over him its not worth it. Wishing you better success- | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 8:53:19 PM | I agree, it sounds like he got what he wanted and moved on. I'm sorry to hear about that. We all have had our hearts torn from our chests and broken. The only thing I have found to help is to keep bussy and hang out with friends alot. It keeps your mind off it and gives you some one to talk to about it. When I'm alone and think about my break up is when I sink to my lowest and get all emo. But, yea that's my advise from one broken heart to another.
Things will get better and there are good people out there you just have to look hard. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 8:57:03 PM | | Might I suggest a book that you might want to read..."He's Just Not That Into You" it will clarify alot not only for you but alot of women. | |
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Posted: 3/13/2009 9:00:51 PM | Move on sweets..he is not the man for you.
if he is not returning your e-mails, and is avoiding you like the plague..well then just move on, you deserve better!!!
Sounds like he did not have the guts to tell u right then and there..he just waited till u left his place. Also sounds like you gravitate towards mentally abusive men, break the cycle cuz this guy seems to be playing headgames with you. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2009 4:23:56 AM | hopefully nothing has happened to him.
if he's still alive and kicking, perhaps it was revenge for what you did many years ago (that is, if you returned to college without telling him. he believes you dumped him for no reason).... | |
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Posted: 3/14/2009 4:31:48 AM | | does" tit for tat" ring in here in the right note? | |
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Posted: 3/14/2009 5:43:31 AM | I would say he is online looking to fool around...nothing serious...he is not ready for serious ........yet.
He respects you too much to use you as an online booty call....so he cut you loose..hoping to meet up again when he is ready to settle down. | |
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Posted: 3/14/2009 12:26:16 PM | | Maybe what you did in the past broke his heart and he just wanted to get back at you. It's just a thought. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 1:16:28 PM |
i cant for the life of me figure out what i did that was so horrible to be treated like a piece of garbage.
Darling, you need to reframe your perspective, and have a little more faith in yourself. From what you described, you did nothing to "deserve" that type of response. The question is, what's wrong with him that he feels the need to treat people like garbage? Only he knows the answer to that. Stop looking for the answer in you. Let him own the responsibility for his obnoxious behavior. It's no reflection on you, it's a reflection on him. Count your blessings that he's avoiding you....that kind of toxicity has no hope of adding any value to anone's life. Now go take a long hot shower and wash off his garbage he spewed onto you, reaffirm that you will only allow people who are authentic and honest, who have integrity and depth into your life, and don't give that wanker another thought. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 4:48:14 PM | | you making him a PRIORITY and he's treating you like an OPTION. sounds to me like you don't have any repsect for yourself darlin'. if you did you wouldn't be wasting your time with a complete loser. | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 4:53:33 PM | | Its not anything that you done wrong, the guy said what he had to to get you into bed, and like so many of us you fell for it, I know this cause I have just days ago done it myself, fell for the banter and now ignored. Its painful but look somewhere else and dont loose faith, men are not all the same and hun what goes around comes around. So get back on the horse and learn from mistakes. Take care | |
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Posted: 3/15/2009 6:29:53 PM | | I'm sorry m'dear but I believe the others might be correct here. Having received what he wanted, he's no longer interested in continuing his relationship with you. I hope you find a gentleman in the future who will act more honorably. | |
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Posted: 3/20/2009 7:18:10 AM | I thank all of you for responding. I have been keeping myself busy with friends and am working hard on moving on. Its been working actually. How ever I still am a bit skeptical about doing the "dating" thing just so soon after all this has went down. I do so badly want a person who knows how to treat someone and is an all around good person. My very own superman if you will. So until Clark Kent sweeps me off my feet I think i will be just enjoying life and focusing on what I want and my career. Thank you soo much for all your advice and words. Believe it or not it did help to here some perspective. I hope that you all find what ever you may be in search of and life brings you many of many happy days!!!!
Thank you again!!!!
lov always,
Jyde | |
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Posted: 3/20/2009 5:17:08 PM | | Sounds like your not the only one he's "Falling for" He probably uses that line on different women and stuck to a number one choice. Move on, he's a pig. You'll find a guy that treats you right. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2009 8:47:27 AM | | Well heres an update! Sure enough when i decide that he wasnt worth all that fuss he ends up calling me. I have a hard time not falling into that trap again but have to say that ive done well. He wants to establish a friendship and i dont know if i should. What do you think? | |
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Posted: 4/3/2009 8:50:57 AM | | That is a decision you will have to make. If you can handle just being friends with him then do it but if you think you can't keep yourself from wanting to be with him then don't do it. | |
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