| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/16/2009 7:40:03 PM | I'm wondering if its possible to fall in love with someone you've never seen in person?
Todays society we have so many ways of communicating and seeing someone without actully being with them ( E.g webcam, pictures) surely it should be possible to fall in love with someone you've never seen face to face, right?
My situation is that ive known this guy for 3-4 years as an internet friend, (c'mon, everyone has someone on there facebook or msn or something that they've never actully met!) and i can never stop thinking about him! when i see someone else i might like, i just think "no, hes not as good as the other guy". If I'm in a really bad mood he'll put me an amazing mood without every meaning to.
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/16/2009 7:51:41 PM | I personally don't think you could fall in "love." I think you could have feelings, but really...those feelings are based on the fantasy you've built up about someone, if you've never met them in person. People have a way of being whoever they want to online and even via phone. It's not till you get to know them in person (and by "get to know" I mean spending a lot of time with them, not just the first time you meet or a weekend here and there) that you can know if you "love" them or not.
Until you get to know someone in person, you love the "person" you know online...and that person may or may not be the same person in reality. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/16/2009 8:03:16 PM | | You might think that, and I'm sure most people who have tried connecting with someone using online dating and such have even fallen for it once or twice (I know I've been guilty in the past), but you learn that its all an illusion until you actually meet a person. All the chemistry in the world while you're online or on the phone doesn't mean a damn thing if it doesn't translate to real life experience. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/16/2009 11:05:21 PM | People have long fallen for those they knew only through written contact, and sometimes photos, since long before the Internet... sometimes those have led to quite happy marriages! Sometimes they've also led to total nightmares. And all points in between.
I wouldn't rule it out. Why don't you try meeting him, and see? | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/16/2009 11:18:05 PM |
I'm wondering if its possible to fall in love with someone you've never seen in person?
Unless you are jesus (not me), then no. That guy supposedly loved everyone, and he didn't have to take anyone for a "test drive."
I do believe it's extremely easy to convince or tell yourself you love someone, as all the big parts of who a person is have been filled in with your own mind (when never having spent time with them, and contact is only via a typed medium).
Kind of like the coma dude in "While You Were Sleeping."
n never stop thinking about him! when i see someone else i might like, i just think "no, hes not as good as the other guy".
This translates to "Why face the fear of rejection or the difficulties of trying when I have an easy relationship with my computer..." | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/16/2009 11:38:31 PM | | It's possible to be in love with someone you never met because it's an escape clause if you will. It means you are safe from harm and nobody can ruin your illusion/fantasy by giving you facts. I don't think it matters what the guy is really like or even if you ever meet face to face as long as it serves your needs, and it seems that this fantasy world does. My son is into fantasy to the extreme, and it all started with a little fantasy world romance like yours. Now he's in so deep, he may never recover; he has become a stalker and S&M dominant male, that's how far his fantasy life took him -- it took him away from his job as a youth minister and landed him in jail and in the dark alley ways of sadism. It's very sad, so be careful you don't waste your life with it. You might want to consider seeing a good counselor, too. I have a good one; not everyone is so lucky. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 8:07:31 AM | thank you everyone for your replies.
hes in university at the moment and is quite busy. honestly, if someone was asking this question to me i would say its never possible to fall in love with someone you dont actully know! but, i know him better then people who have met 20 or 30 times. i know what sort of person he is, i know what he looks like, i know who he is! im not really the type of person who likes relationship and LOVE for me, is a very very big word.
hes not lieing to me, as everything hes said is somehow backed up by something ive seen. not saying im 100% in love with him, because im probably not, i was just wondering if ITS POSSIBLE.
keeping an open mind. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 12:39:06 PM | I feel it is possible to fall in love without having met. Just because you haven't touched doesn't mean that you haven't bonded. Sharing experiences, establishing chemistry, and providing support over the phone isn't something that is fake. It is VERY real.
I think people overthink things and deny themselves the opportunity for something great. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 1:14:00 PM | Personally, I don't think so. But I can't say it probably has never happened. I am sure there are stories that it has. Do I know any or anyone who has? No
For my logics, I think you need to be in person and feel the "in person" chemistry.
You need to be around the person on a regular life basis (the real ups/downs, day to day life) to know the real person.
If this was me and I was in love with the person of four years, hell or high water wouldn't of stopped me from meeting him in person sometime during that time.
How do you really know it is him? How do you know what he portrays his life to be is real?
I don't think it is healthy for anyone to stop living their regular life (your statement over not wanting to meet someone etc), in lieu of an internet relationship that has gone on for four years with someone you haven't met. Do you believe he has stopped meeting women or relationships for you? | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 1:25:06 PM | You know, I always wondered if I was crazy. The same thing happened to me. I met him online, and at first we were friends. Then we became, I guess you could say, Best Friends. It wasn't until a year later that I realized I loved him. I made the mistake of not telling him until a year after I realized ths. So, long story short... He said he loved me too. And we were always talking. But last November something changed. I'm assuming he found someone better to be with because he told me that it would be better if we were just friends. And I as all for it. Give me some space, you know? Yeah, he got another girl friend and I was just crushed. So I emailed him and said that it's probably better if we just not be friends anymore.
And I just got sidetracked.. Oh Yeah! I know how you feel, though. It's like no matter how hard you try you just can't stop thinking about this person. And you often day dream about the two of you.. and when you're out in public, you'll see and hear things that remind you of a conversation that you two have had and then you think about him even more. So, yes I believe it is possible to fall in love with someone you've met online. And no you're not the only one it's happened to.
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 1:37:04 PM | | It is possible and happens a lot. The problem is how rarely it survives meeting in person, and that it tends to be one sided. There are all kinds of ways people can be in love. I am highly suspicious of any lovemaking that does not include naked body contact. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 1:51:13 PM |
It is possible and happens a lot. The problem is how rarely it survives meeting in person, and that it tends to be one sided. There are all kinds of ways people can be in love. I am highly suspicious of any lovemaking that does not include naked body contact.
True. My thought is that meeting in person should happen sooner than later. It's ok to fall for someone but there is that chance that in-person awkwardness will put out the fire. I guess it all comes down to how honest you are in your ad and if you are the same when meeting for real. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 1:58:14 PM | Wow... ....I thought I was the only one who would feel like that...but yes like some other repliers here have mentioned it is our fantasy of this person you've emailed, IM, talked on the phone, exchanged pictures and so forth, and you put into shape what you really hope they are to you. The reality is and keeping a positive mind....if meeting that special person finally is still the same feelings or maybe even have a wee bit of a doubt, always give the opportunity for the mind and the heart to match and take a little time to establish together to feel the same and hopefully the other person you've fallen for feels likewise and everything said to each other is completely and totally honest. Here's for all the hopeful romantics out there, and wishing the best  | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 2:31:56 PM | No Way- I think this is a false perception people want to have to fantasize about being in love- I cannot understand even why my girlfriends get so emotionally upset over an online meeting, then the guy flakes and it really bothers them and they have not met him yet but talked for weeks- I mean they have not even met someone and they are reacting like it is a breakup- that breeds insecurity- while it is normal to feel rejected by a flaker for men and women alike, move on- it is not normal to get so emotionally upset over someone you have not met- that is just me. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 3:03:54 PM | | wow dint know someone felt the same way!! nice to know there are other people like myself in the same position. and a reply to what that other person said, he wont get a different girl because..well.. hes sort of a really big geek :) | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 3:10:15 PM | | That would be a NO from me. I could never fall in love with someone and not ever having met him in person. I can say I may be attracted to his outlook on life, his thoughts, his attitude, etc, but never without a meeting in person. | |
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 4:46:09 PM | You're E-fatuated with that guy.
Very common online.
Not real love.
But could be.
Meet him!
It's funny, but up until the 1900's sending love letters and writing was a big deal.
A whole genre of classic literature was devoted to people who fell in love only thru letters sent over time. Then came the telephone, TV, and folks spoke their thoughts.
And only wrote when we had to on cards sent on special occasions.
Now with the net, writing and LOVE writing is again a big deal.
"Hya Hottie" sent by IM isn't as poetic as what Cyrano De Bergerac wrote to Roxane,
but the same deal.
So like I said, Funny how things come back in style.
so send him an IM and meet up.
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 5:06:45 PM | ...Well I don't know about "falling in love" but I do know you can develop a little crush for someone based on the written word. Been there..it's crazy. But it happens.
I agree with the above poster, arrange to meet, see if you still have that chemistry.
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| Is It Possible To Be In Love With Someone You've Never Met?
Posted: 3/17/2009 5:47:11 PM | Think of all the times you met someone in real life.
It starts out all exciting, chemistry and fun times. Then within a few weeks you start
to see other sides of them. How they treat the servers at a restaurant, react to work situations, their different moods, how they live in general, and if they treat you the same as they did that first week you met.
I think you need to see those "real life" aspects to really get to know and fall in love with someone. | |
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